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preface
"Love and hate must see blood, and life and death must be strong"
At the age of 23, she became a host of CCTV, and her originally almost perfect life died tragically under the knife of her boyfriend Zhang Yonglei at the age of 25. Why did childhood sweetheart's relationship eventually go to a dead end, and what did Ma Soaring experience in just 25 years?
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Ma Pioran was born in an ordinary family in Shangqiu, Henan Province, her mother was a nurse and her father was a surgeon, because her family was a dual-income worker, so as an only daughter, Ma Pioran was very popular with her father and mother. His parents also gave him all their love.
Unlike her, Zhang Yonglei's parents have been divorced since childhood, and he himself lives with his mother, Ms. Zhang, and therefore follows his mother's surname. It is precisely because of family factors that Zhang Yonglei is also very sensible. Zhang Yonglei and Ma Pioran are classmates, and they are a very enviable couple in the eyes of their parents and in the eyes of their classmates and neighbors. And both children are very emotional.
Ma's natural parents are more for their children to give their children independent space within the scope of their own ability. Of course, he himself also worked very hard, the hard work paid off, and all her efforts were rewarded accordingly. Although Ma Pioran and Zhang Yonglei maintained a long-distance relationship for several years in the later period due to the distance of the school, the relationship between the two was also very good, and the distance made them more firm to each other.
It is in such two different families that the two children, when their lives intersect, turn into tragedy, as they themselves published. Love and hate must see blood, and life and death must be strong.
Ma Ran inherited the good genes of his parents, big eyes, double eyelids, pointed chin, and can be said to be quite good in appearance. However, because she is the only daughter in the family. Under the careful cultivation of her parents, she has developed a lively and cheerful personality, whether in study or work, he is very active in seeking knowledge.
Her grades have been very good since she was a child, and she can sing and dance well, and she is also the backbone of literature and art in school. It is precisely for this reason that she has served as the host of the school program many times. These experiences have also allowed her to accumulate a lot of experience, whether on stage or in normal times, she behaves generously, and is deeply loved by her classmates and teachers.
It was because of this experience that in the final stage of his high school, she resolutely applied for the major related to broadcasting and hosting. His parents were also very supportive of his own decision. Because he really loves and is interested in this aspect, this makes him very good after entering university, both in the study of professional courses and in school.
During the university, because he had enough experience and his academic performance was always very good, he was invited to intern at Henan Satellite TV when facing a graduation internship. Due to her lively and cheerful and confident personality, during her internship at the TV station, she asked questions without understanding, and worked very hard, and was liked by many seniors, and the relationship with colleagues was also very harmonious.
In the following 2012 Shanghai Youth Host Competition, it won the third place. In June of the same year, she also ended her internship in Henan Satellite TV and officially became the host of Henan Satellite TV. And she herself drew a perfect end to her studies at Shangqiu Normal University.
The kung fu paid off, and after a year, she was loved by the audience and favored by the TV station. She no longer only hosts "To 9 Dang Song" as before, but also participates in the hosting of "Happy Travel". After achieving certain results in her work, she still holds the attitude of learning and constantly learns more professional knowledge to enrich herself.
So, in September of '12, she was successfully admitted to the graduate school of Guangxi Art Institute. It was here that she met people who had a very significant impact on her life. During a lecture, by chance, she met Professor Wu Yu, knowing that many CCTV hosts are his students. Or received his order.
Ma's assiduous attitude and her determination to actively pursue her studies made Professor Wu Yu decide to take her in as his disciple and teach her personally. After the guidance of the professor, Ma Pioran also lived up to expectations and was admitted to CCTV at the age of 23. From the beginning of the internship to the final chairmanship of CCTV.
Seeing the continuous efforts of many colleagues and seniors, she was deeply affected by the atmosphere of CCTV. The requirements for herself are getting higher and higher, and every time she encounters something she can't do in her work, she must ask to solve all the things she doesn't understand within today. No pain, no gain. After two years of perseverance and hard work, both his professional ability and his relationship with colleagues have been recognized by everyone.
More optimistic about her said that it is very likely that she will become the next Yang Lan, but it is such a seemingly perfect person. But because of other unsatisfactory aspects, he was forever fixed at the age of 25. An excellent young host who has since left our sight.
02
Ma Natural and Zhang Yonglei were classmates in high school, and the two of them had a good feeling for each other in high school. The relationship was later formalized, and after four years of long-distance relationships in college, they did not let each other waver. Their firm relationship experience together was also envied by many friends around them at that time.
Although Zhang Yonglei is not as good as Ma Pioran in learning, his carefulness and sincerity impressed Ma Pioran. It also made Ma Pioran resolutely choose Zhang Yonglei among his suitors. During college, the two shared each other's lives and emotions, and they became each other's closest people.
However, it was such two seemingly enviable little lovers who eventually turned into tragedy. Wang Yonglei is very satisfied with the current situation of the two of them. But Ma Pioran had a different idea than him. The horse constantly breaks through himself. And has been moving forward for his ideals.
It is precisely because of Ma Pioran's positive attitude to life and her longing for distant places that Zhang Yonglei, who grew up in a single family, became suspicious and unfirm. He was afraid that Ma Pioran would escape his control, and even their relationship would be unsustainable. He felt that their current state was already very good, and Ma Pioran did not need to continue to study and progress.
In any relationship, it is inevitable that you will have possessiveness for each other, and moderate possession will give each other a certain sense of security. However, it is obvious that Zhang Yonglei is very crazy about the situation that the horse is not under his control. Ma Piran, who has always been more independent and autonomous in his feelings and life, never thought that his tragedy would be caused by his boyfriend.
The relationship between the two people for nearly eight years finally had to end due to the difference in the path they chose and their outlook on life. However, in the face of such a result, Ma Pioran may be able to accept it calmly. But Zhang Yonglei could not accept such a fact, and it could even be said that he refused to accept it. It is precisely for this reason that he has done crazy things.
Zhang Yonglei killed Ma Pioran with a knife to vent his inner anger. In the face of such a tragedy, parents on both sides can hardly imagine. In their eyes, what should have been two little lovers with heavy feelings turned into such a tragedy? Two people with different values together, may be doomed to tragedy no matter when.
Ma Pioran's family chose to call the police at the first time. Zhang Yonglei was finally arrested a month after escaping. He was eventually sentenced to death. Their vigorous love ended with the sacrifice of both parties.
03
How sad tragedies like Ma Pioran and Zhang Yonglei are, but such things have happened in our lives more than once. From time to time, similar news comes to our ears. So-and-so committed suicide because of feelings or so-and-so died because of domestic violence. In the face of this series of painful realities, especially as a girl, you should think about it.
Emotional things are never a person's thing, and in the process of emotion, we must grasp the degree. Respect and trust are prerequisites for all emotions. Character and responsibility are the sum of all values. It's so hard to make decisions in relationships. However, we must have our own firm outlook on life, values and worldview.
In the face of feelings, it is understandable that there is a certain desire for possessiveness and control in the relationship. After all, in the period of love, we all know to always pay attention to each other's dynamics and sharing, and we must unswervingly maintain a sunny view of love. Whether it is a boy or a girl, we must properly deal with a series of problems in our relationship. And it's very normal to split and merge in a relationship. We cannot force others, just as we cannot force ourselves. We must have a normal heart, be able to look at life and feelings rationally.
We are responsible not only for ourselves, but also for our parents. Respect for life and reverence for life. At all times, life is sacred and unrepeatable. Only those who know how to cherish their own lives can truly know how to cherish others.
If we don't know how to love ourselves, how can we love others? Looking at life correctly is very important for anyone. Only when we know how to cherish our own lives can we better respect the lives of others. So as to protect your own life.
In the face of parents, no matter what time comes, when there are some things in our lives that are tricky and need to be dealt with, we must choose to trust our parents unconditionally. They can give us for decades, and they will definitely help us find a way. Whether it's facing your feelings or facing your life. When we are in a difficult situation, we can seek outside help. Only in this way can we be considered responsible for ourselves and our parents. No parent wants to bear the pain of a white-haired person sending a black-haired person.
The incompatibility of the three views is very important in the relationship of any relationship. No matter what kind of relationship we have, we must discover and observe it in time. Don't cause certain losses to yourself because of your own entanglement and hesitation. Especially girls, they should learn to protect themselves and cherish life!
Write at the end
Ma Pioran and Li Yonglei are also two young people in their prime years. They should have had a good life, but due to improper handling of emotional problems, people's lives went to the other extreme. This is not only their personal tragedy, but also a fatal blow to both families. No parent wants to endure such an outcome, and they love their children more than themselves. They also want their children to be happy forever.
I don't know if after reading stories like Ma Natural and Li Yonglei, do you have any different opinions? What other reasons do you think led to this outcome earlier? No matter what the situation is, I hope that everyone can properly deal with emotional problems. If you feel that you can't handle it, you should also seek outside help in time. Especially girls, no matter what time, you must learn to protect yourself!