My surname is Kang and I am 54 years old this year. My husband died of illness five years ago. Both of my children are adults, and both work outside and are not with me. In order to live, I was introduced by a friend to work as a nanny for a rich family.
I remember the first time I entered my employer's house, he seemed very friendly, greeted me with a smile and said what he expected of me as a nanny. He said he needed someone to take care of his daily life because his wife was no longer there. He told me that he needed a reliable person to help him with housework, cooking, cleaning the room, chatting with him, etc.
I happily accepted the job and soon started my work. In the first few weeks, everything went well. He was very friendly to me. I never imagined that this job would overwhelm me so much.
Gradually, his demands began to become more and more excessive. He often asked me to accompany him on walks and accompany him on excursions, which I refused every time. I told him that I would only do my job well and that he didn't need me to entertain him. But he still kept asking for me.
I can't help it, he's my employer and I have to do my best to follow his arrangement. Soon, his demands became even more excessive. He asked me to wear sexy clothes and watch TV with him. I was very embarrassed and told him it was not appropriate to do so.
The hardest thing to accept was that he wanted me to go on vacation with him. I told him I couldn't go, but he kept pestering me. He told me that if I didn't go, he would find another babysitter. I was scared, but I rejected him anyway. He was angry, and he said to me, "You woman, you only do housework and take care of me, and you don't even have any entertainment." ”
I feel lost because I have always tried to do my job well. I felt that he was very unreasonable and excessive with me. I decided to leave him, but I had no other job to do and I had nowhere else to go. I felt helpless and I didn't know what to do.
I felt so humiliated that I didn't dare to meet my acquaintances. I felt ashamed because I was doing a babysitter job, but my employer made such a request to me. I felt helpless and I didn't know what to do.
I felt very miserable and helpless. I have always felt that my work ethic has been violated and my human dignity has been damaged. I chose to leave this job, and although I lost this job and source of income, I believe that I can find a safer and more respectful job to regain dignity and self-esteem.