There has never been a fixed template for how life develops.
Although the fundamental attribute of human beings is a social attribute, and all the choices we make will inevitably be judged by social values, if we firmly believe that our choice is correct, we should firmly follow our own path.
Butterfly queen Liu Zige is a "subversive" athlete in the swimming world, she won many medals on behalf of the Chinese, and the results shocked the world.
Such a girl with several halos and glory should have been immersed in praise and applause;
But the world has been talking about her choice to marry a coach 23 years older than her after retiring.
In this regard, Liu Zige did not respond positively to the media, she just faded her figure on the world stage and lived a happy life.
What if the world criticizes everything? As long as she firmly believes that her choice is right, then she will firmly go on.
Get along day and night and build deep feelings
Liu Zige is a legendary presence in the Chinese swimming community, and in her swimming career of more than ten years, she has won a lot of glory for China.
The birth of a great athlete, in addition to the need to have athletic talent, the guidance of excellent coaches and the hard training of the day after tomorrow are also indispensable and important factors.
On Liu Zige's way to fight everywhere to win glory, her coach Jin Wei provided her with great support, help and encouragement.
Jin Wei was a member of the national swimming team when he was young, and became a coach after retiring.
When Liu Zige first entered the swimming world, he formed a deep mentor-apprentice friendship with Jin Wei.
As the coach of the team, Jin Wei will take good care of every athlete.
He is rigorous and meticulous, always able to arrange the training plan scientifically and reasonably, and guide the athletes to train according to the plan.
In life, Jin Wei can also take good care of Liu Zige's "children".
According to Liu Zige, although "President Jin" looks big and gives people a fierce feeling, in fact, he is not fierce at all, but very careful and gentle.
As long as Jin Wei is there, their usual training life will not be boring.
Initially, Jin Wei was the image of a teacher and friend in Liu Zige's heart.
When the team members crave pork, Jin Wei will drive to the countryside to buy pigs fed by the villagers themselves.
Such pork is naturally healthy, without clenbuterol, and is good for the athlete's body.
During the rest time between training and competition, Jin Wei will change his methods to bring fun to the players.
He will arrange the itinerary, take the team members to go shopping, play around, and invite the team members to the restaurant after the end.
Jin Wei's cooking skills are also very good, and he can always make delicious food for the team members in different styles.
For Jin Wei's careful care, Liu Zige spoke highly of it.
Liu Zige said: Jin is as kind as their father and can always bring color to their monotonous life.
Usually, Jin Wei will always jokingly complain that Liu Zige is slower in life than a turtle.
In this regard, Liu Zige will not be annoyed, she will smile back to the past, and confidently say that she does not feel slow.
In the day and night relationship, the relationship between Liu Zige and Jin Wei gradually changed.
Jin Wei was also a mentor and friend to her, and in the end, she chose her as her life partner.
In September 2016, Liu Zige chose to marry his coach Jin Wei, who had accompanied him for more than ten years, and held a wedding in Beijing.
The combination of this master and apprentice shocked the circle and outside, because people really couldn't figure out why a young girl in the flower season would choose a coach 23 years older than herself as her life partner.
Perhaps, their union has nothing to do with age, but a deeper soul fit that leads them together.
The teachings of Bó Lè
Jin Wei's life experience is very rich, he retired from the national team that year and went to Australia.
There, Jin Wei worked as a lifeguard and as a swimming coach.
He said that he could not do without water, he could not do without swimming, and swimming was his biggest career in life.
During his time working in Australia, Jin Wei never lost contact with his motherland.
He pays close attention to the development of the domestic swimming scene and is always looking for opportunities to return to China.
China's swimming industry developed late, and it was not until 1998 that the National Sports Commission established a swimming center to train and select swimming talents.
However, before that, Jin Wei smelled this change in the domestic swimming industry earlier and began to prepare to return to China to create his own swimming club.
Therefore, soon after the establishment of the swimming center, Jin Wei submitted his club application materials.
Jin Wei has a firm goal in his heart, to train high-level athletes for the country!
Initially, Liu Zige was sent to the Jinwei Club among a group of children.
Among this group of outstanding children, Liu Zige does not have a very outstanding advantage, and her performance is even at the bottom.
It is also because of this that Jin Wei did not put much energy and attention to this child at the beginning.
But gradually, Liu Zige's tenacious struggle and self-control in training and competition attracted Jin Wei's attention.
As a coach, Jin Wei deeply understands that in order to become a high-level athlete, only excellent physical fitness and excellent swimming performance are not enough, the first important thing is the psychological quality of athletes.
Talents and skills can be cultivated, but strong psychological quality and ability to withstand pressure are innate, and it is difficult to change the day after tomorrow.
After a year of contact, Liu Zige changed from a small transparent to Jin Wei's focus and gave her more guidance in daily training.
Liu Zige is a good tall, but he is too thin and lacks strength.
To this end, Jin Wei began to arrange special training for Liu Zige to enhance his strength according to his actual situation.
Jin Wei's appreciation gave Liu Zige great confidence and encouragement, but at the same time, it also made the main team members at that time quite complain.
Facts have proved that Jin Wei sees people very accurately.
With the strengthening of training, Liu Zige's performance is getting better and better.
In 2004, Liu Zige won the gold medal in the 200m medley competition of the World Cup in Russia, and began to make a name for himself in the industry.
After this competition, Jin Wei took Liu Zige to Shanghai to continue training, and assisted Liu Zige to join the Shanghai swimming team the following year.
Liu Zige was successfully selected for the national team with his outstanding performance, but after that, Liu Zige entered his own bottleneck period, and there has been no ideal breakthrough in performance.
In 2005, Liu Zige participated in the Montritre Swimming World Championships and the Ten Games, but only finished 22nd and 15th.
In contrast, colleagues of the same age as themselves have already won the honor of runner-up in the National Games.
Because there was no breakthrough, Liu Zige's name disappeared from the national team training list.
After this incident, Jin Weiyu told her seriously: Maybe every athlete will go through such a difficult period, but although the performance growth is slow, it is good that there is still growth; As long as training continues to be strengthened, quantitative changes will definitely cause a qualitative leap.
Jin Wei's encouragement and Liu Zige's strong psychological quality helped her get through this bottleneck time.
After 2008, Liu Zige began to write the legendary experience of "Butterfly Swimming Queen".
A well-deserved queen of butterfly
In 2008, Liu Zige won the women's 200m butterfly at the Olympic trials, a remarkable achievement that allowed her to successfully qualify for the Beijing Olympics.
For Liu Zige, being able to participate in the Beijing Olympics is a great honor and a great pressure.
In order to bring out his best in the game, Liu Zige strengthened his training intensity under the guidance of coach Jin Wei.
On the eve of the Beijing Olympics, almost no one noticed the small role of Liu Zige.
Because in the previous Nanjing National Games competition, Liu Zige did not even make it to the final of the women's 200-meter butterfly.
Just when all walks of life were speculating about who could win the women's 200m butterfly at the Beijing Olympics, Liu Zige sprang up.
On August 14, 2008, Liu Zige broke the world record set by Australia's Speer with her calm attitude and outstanding performance, and won the women's 200m butterfly with an outstanding time of 2 minutes 4.18 seconds!
This year, Liu Zige was only 19 years old.
Liu Zige can be described as the biggest dark horse in the Beijing Olympics, and her birth instantly shifted the world's attention to her.
In 2009, Liu Zige participated in many swimming competitions, and her brilliant record of breaking the world record three times in a row gradually confirmed her title of "Queen of Butterfly".
At the beginning of 2009, Liu Zige's performance was not as good as everyone expected.
In April, the National Swimming Championships were held in Shaoxing, and Liu Zige won the second place in the 200-meter butterfly, 3 seconds slower than her Olympic record.
In contrast, Jiao Liuyang, the Olympic women's 200-meter butterfly runner-up, performed more prominently in the national swimming championships.
Jiao Liuyang beat Liu Zige with a stable performance and won consecutive championships in the 100m and 200m women's butterfly competitions.
In the face of this powerful opponent, Liu Zige looked very open, she felt that she would still strengthen training, but her real opponent was not others, but herself.
In July, Liu Zige was greeted by the Rome World Championships.
Due to the dismal results of the Shaoxing battle, people began to worry about Liu Zige's trip to the World Championships in Rome.
Sure enough, Liu Zige met a strong opponent in this Rome World Championships.
Speer from Australia made a strong effort and broke the world record again with the blessing of high-tech swimsuits, surpassing Liu Zige to win the 200-meter butterfly competition.
This time, although Liu Zige's results were even better than those in the Olympic Games, Speer performed better.
After the world record was broken by Speer, Liu Zige immediately began to train harder after returning home.
She is a stubborn girl, she feels that she still has room for improvement, and she will definitely be able to break through again.
At this time, Jin Wei also patiently encouraged her and helped her find a way to break through.
In October, the Eleventh Games were held in full view.
On the field, Liu Zige's state was surprisingly stable and excellent.
She not only won the 100m and 200m women's butterfly races, but also broke the Asian record in the 100m butterfly and the world record in the 200m butterfly.
In November, Liu Zige broke the world record again by winning the women's 200m butterfly at the World Cup Short Pool Swimming.
At the subsequent FINA Short Pool Swimming World Cup in Berlin, Liu Zige once again broke through her limits, winning the women's 200m butterfly championship and setting a new world record.
Rewriting the world record three times in just a few months, Liu Zige's performance has to be amazing.
Happiness can be "unknown to outsiders"
After the game, Jin Wei, who is Liu Zige's coach, was interviewed by the media.
Liu Zige doesn't like to face the overwhelming problems of strangers, so it is usually Jin Wei who comes forward on this occasion.
People were curious about what was the secret of her successive world record breaks, and Jin Wei just smiled lightly after listening to this question, saying that Liu Zige could win the championship for three reasons: good technology, good character, and good mentality.
Needless to say, good technology can be understood, and good character means that she is humble and not complacent about what she has achieved.
As for the good mentality, it is said that Liu Zige does not panic when facing strong opponents, and does not worry when he sees his record broken.
Jin Wei said that Liu Zige's calmness and peace are a very valuable point in her character, which also makes her have maturity and stability beyond her own age.
Perhaps, it is precisely because of this maturity that Liu Zige will gradually develop different emotions for his coach.
Of course, another reason why Liu Zige chose to marry Jin Wei after retiring is that Jin Wei's care and companionship for her has reached a level that makes her completely inseparable.
Jin Wei once said in an interview with the media: "After we finished talking today, I will give Liu Zige a massage to help her recover her strength, she is used to my technique, and now I am cooking turtle soup for her next door..."
From Jin Wei's inadvertent words alone, it is not difficult to see that Liu Zige's dependence on Jin Wei is a dual dependence on spirit and body.
Jin Wei's age is 23 years older than her, and the relationship between them has long been not something that age differences can stop.
On September 24, 2016, Liu Zige and Jin Wei held a wedding in Beijing, and after that, Liu Zige gradually faded out of the public's view.
Today, the two have been married for 7 years, the couple has a stable relationship, and has 2 children, and the family of four lives happily.
In the face of the outside world's discussion about the age gap between the two of them, Liu Zige chose not to respond and not pay attention, she knew whether her choice was correct.
She and Jin Wei immigrated to Australia after marriage and lived a happy life without conflict, which is enough.
With his tenacity and steadiness, Liu Zige stepped towards the throne of the butterfly champion with the company of Jin Wei.
In the process of Liu Zige breaking the world record and creating brilliance, Jin Wei is both a guide and a witness.
The relationship between Liu Zige and Jin Wei gradually developed from a mountain-heavy master-apprentice relationship to an inseparable love between men and women, which was their own choice.
No matter how much outsiders talk about it, it will not affect the current happy life of the two of them.
The days are your own, and the bitter pleasures are known by themselves.
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