Story - special "babysitter" with grandchildren
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When people are old, their children have no energy and time to accompany them, and they do not want to leave their old nest to live in their children's homes or go to nursing homes. The best way to provide for the elderly is to hire a nanny and let the elderly live at home to retire.
Hiring nanny parents, some children can not rest assured, there is a new type of employment of nanny, created a good model for taking care of the elderly.
92-year-old Niu Da Niu, her five children are all working in other places or counties, no matter which child takes her to enjoy her old age, she is sullen and has to go back to her hometown.
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The children had no choice but to hire him a special "nanny" - his mother's niece.
Her mother's niece, Dali, is 55 years old this year and has taken care of Aunt Niu for 8 years, and she has a particularly good relationship.
However, during May Day this year, Dahlia suddenly offered to resign and return to take care of her grandson.
Aunt Niu said that she would not let Da Li resign, she said: Only Da Li takes care of it, and she feels safe, kind and happy.
It happened suddenly, catching Aunt Niu's five children off guard.
Niu Shuai, the second son who works in the county, after hearing the news, returned home as soon as possible, and when he learned that Daliya had to go home to bring his grandson, he came up with a way to have the best of both worlds: let Dalith take her grandson to be a "nanny", but I didn't expect that Aunt Niu was happy in her heart, and Daliya took care of her aunt well, and she was also very satisfied with being a "nanny" while bringing her grandson.
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My mother is 92 years old, and we have five sisters, all working in other places or in the county. Only the eldest sister retired, but she lived with her son in a big coastal city to manage her grandson, and did not have time to return to take care of her mother.
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The other 2 younger brothers and 1 younger sister, one works in Beijing, one lives in Jiangnan, and the other starts a family in a northern city, and usually rarely returns.
My father was the attending physician of the township health center, and my mother never went out of the countryside.
Of the 5 sisters, 4 of them have had good academic performance since childhood, rarely let their parents worry about it, and all were successfully admitted to university. Only the third did not get into college, and finally retired from service and was resettled to a certain city in the north.
The children all competed for success, and their parents had a light on their faces in the village, especially after the father retired from the health center, he got some medicine at home, not to earn money, but to facilitate the treatment of headaches and fevers for neighbors.
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My father was useful and happy, and he was respected by the people of the village.
Unexpectedly, in the year of 72, my father suffered from a vicious lung disease, and two months after he was discovered, the treatment was ineffective and he passed away.
The death of my father hit my mother hard, and she lived alone in her hometown, and I often used weekends to visit her.
Since I can't drive, I go back to my rural hometown to take the bus first, then take the urban and rural bus, and finally there are 3 kilometers to walk, which is very inconvenient.
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I took my mother to live with me. My mother lived in my house for less than a month, so she went back to her hometown in the countryside.
If you don't send her back and go to bed at night, she won't even take off her clothes, then it's really not fragrant and sleeping.
One year, before the November Festival, I brought my mother to the county seat, and my brothers and sisters in distant places took advantage of the holiday to come back to visit my mother.
After the holiday, when the younger brothers and sisters all returned, the mother said in disappointment: They came back to their relatives, not to their own homes.
In her mother's philosophy, she lives in her hometown, and her sisters go home to see her in order to enjoy the warmth of home.
In the winter of the year when his mother was 82 years old, the old man drove back three thousand miles to pick up his mother to live with him.
I persuaded the third man left and right, and my mother finally agreed.
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The mother lived in the third child's house, and during the day the third and sister-in-law all went to work, and both children were in school, so she left the mother alone in the house and did not let her go downstairs for safety.
The third family lives on the 23rd floor, and the mother is alone in the house, doing nothing all day and being very bored.
Go to the south balcony to look out the scenery outside the window, and go to the north balcony to see the running cars nowhere.
After living for less than a month, my mother said that she was not there anymore, and as long as the third came home from work, she would make a fuss about sending her back to her hometown.
Since then, the sisters have never taken their mother to live in their own home.
My mother has always been healthy and lives alone in her hometown, and I still go home on weekends to accompany her.
On the "Eleventh" day of the year when my mother was 84 years old, my brothers and sisters went home to visit my mother, and they all felt that my mother was really old, and we couldn't rest assured that she would live alone.
But we all have our own jobs, and it is unrealistic to let anyone leave work and go home to spend time with their mothers.
We discussed sending my mother to a nursing home. When discussing with my mother, my mother said: I don't want to go to your sisters' homes, how can I go to a nursing home?
The mother said nothing to go to the nursing home.
My mother's niece, Dali, whose name is my cousin, heard that my brother and sister came back to visit my mother.
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Dahlia alone has nothing to do at home, and came to my house to join us in the bustle.
During lunchtime, Dahlia heard our concerns. She said thoughtfully: I am alone at home, and I have nothing to do, or I will accompany my aunt.
Dahlia and we are the same age, we have often played together since childhood, she is popular and kind-hearted.
My brother-in-law died unexpectedly a few years earlier.
She has only one son, and after graduating from Normal College, he was admitted to our township central middle school as a teacher.
The daughter-in-law works at the town's agricultural bank.
When Dahlia said this, several of us sisters discussed that she was the best person to take care of her mother.
We talked to my mother to see if she agreed.
When her mother heard that Dahlia would take care of her, she was very happy and said yes.
After my mother agreed, we said to Dahlia: "Relatives are relatives, and wealth must be divided." You take care of your mother, and we pay you monthly for your labor.
It was agreed that according to our local reality, we would pay Dahlia 4,000 yuan a month for labor services, and 5 sisters would be transferred to Dahlia on a monthly basis.
Dahlia takes care of her mother very carefully, changing her pattern every day to make three meals a day for her mother; And on sunny days, he helped his mother walk around the village.
Every night after dinner, I soaked my mother's feet and bathed my mother once a week.
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At night, Dahlia slept in her mother's room, whether she got up at night or wanted to drink water, Dahlia got up as soon as possible to help her mother.
Under Dahlia's careful care, what is unexpected is that a few years ago, her mother was full of white hair, but now the hair on her forehead is gradually turning black.
Dahlia's dedication touched us all, and my mother was even more happy.
On this year's May Day, Da Li suddenly said that she had a grandson, and since her daughter-in-law's confinement, her own mother has taken care of her daughter-in-law in the town.
After the daughter-in-law's maternity leave, there is an incident at the mother's house and she cannot continue to take care of her grandson.
The daughter-in-law said: Their home is not far from the town, so they sent their grandson back home for Dahlia to take care of.
The daughter-in-law works from 9 to 5, goes to work in the morning, leaves the child to Dali, and returns from work in the evening to take care of her grandson.
It is also common for Dahlia to resign and go home to take care of his grandson.
We had no choice, so we hired an older sister in her 50s through a housekeeping company to live at home and take care of her mother.
Seeing that it was not Dali, her mother said that she would not let the sister live in the house, and that she had to let Dalith take care of her.
I took a leave of absence to spend a few days at home with my mother. In my spare time, I went to Dali's house and told me about my mother's situation.
And said that his mother was going to make a fuss and wanted to see Dahlia.
I drove the tricycle and asked Dahlia to hold her grandson and take her to our house.
When my mother saw Dali, she was very happy and said excitedly: "Nizi, don't go any further."
While her grandson was asleep, Dahlia cut her mother's hair and washed her hair. At the same time, he washed several clothes that his mother had changed.
At noon, the mother teased Dahlia's grandson, and Dahlia made delicious meals for her mother in the kitchen.
In the evening, Dali's daughter-in-law returned home, and when she saw Daliye's children and children, she called Dali.
Dali's daughter-in-law drove to my house, and I explained to Dalia's daughter-in-law about her mother's dependence on Dahlia.
Dali's daughter-in-law was also reasonable and said: If my aunt likes my mother to take care of her, then let her take care of the child, it is nothing more than me running back and forth a few times to feed the child.
In this way, Dahlia is also very happy to take care of her mother while bringing her grandchildren.
Although Dali's son and daughter-in-law have occupations, they have just gone to work, their salaries are not too high, and they are saving money and preparing to buy a house in the county.
We paid her another 4,000 yuan a month.
Dahlia not only coaxed her own children, but also took care of my mother and received a monthly salary, which not only relieved the worries of our sisters, but also increased her family income.
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After the aging of the population, the issue of old-age care is indeed a big issue that deserves widespread attention. This practice of hiring relatives to take care of the elderly is really a good way to learn from.
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