In our subconscious, when it comes to raising a family, the vast majority of people, the first thing that comes to mind must be men, who play such an important responsibility in family China.
Throughout the ages, it seems that this has always been the case, and the existence of this phenomenon will lead to a very direct result.
That is, in the whole family, the right to speak naturally falls to the party who makes money.
If it's only for a short time, it won't have much impact.
In the long run, it will lead to an imbalance in the family, and a family, if it wants to run well, absolutely cannot adopt dictatorial and authoritarian means, and must learn to listen to each other's opinions.
In recent years, women have also continued to contribute to their families, but in doing so, they have taken on more responsibilities.
Perhaps from the perspective of men, they only need to take care of their careers, and women have to take care of their children and various chores in the family while doing their work well.
A person's energy is very limited, when you carry so much alone, no matter in which aspect, it is very difficult and eventually overwhelmed.
Why is it said that from the day of marriage, do not help men support their families? How can this be done properly and not criticized?
Learn to love yourself before loving your family
No matter what kind of identity we change into, we must first learn to love ourselves, which is very important, but many people tend to ignore this.
Especially many women, once they get married, become a wife and mother, they will become the kind of role that is always ready to sacrifice themselves, which is somewhat scary, because you will slowly lose yourself.
If your sacrifice is recognized by others, perhaps your heart is not so sad.
However, in real life, you want to juggle work and take care of all the big and small affairs at the same time, it is really very stressful, as long as you have a slight mistake, it will definitely attract everyone's complaints.
There is nothing wrong with giving for the sake of the family, but the formation of a family cannot be done by one person.
When you blindly give and sacrifice, what kind of attitude is the other party, if this person really cares about you, he will definitely not bear to bear it alone.
This is true of any person, and before loving your family, it is important that you first learn to love yourself and respect you as a whole person.
Because only if we take ourselves seriously, will we win the respect of others, and at this time you can also know more about whether the people around us are worth it?
Mutual respect is needed in marriage
Marriage is not like falling in love, if you don't want to, you can easily separate, you have the responsibility to form a family, you can't be willful.
If you want to maintain married life for a long time, you must respect each other.
As a man, he thinks he should go out to work and thus leave all the chores in the house to you.
After many women get married, they will definitely quit their former jobs, so that they can put all their thoughts on the family.
Outside the male protagonist and the female protagonist, this kind of thinking is rotten, the times are progressing, society is developing, and people's thinking must also change.
In the past, women had few job opportunities when they went out, so they stayed at home to take care of household chores.
However, today, everyone has equal opportunities, and as a woman, you also have the right to choose to go out and work, and don't sacrifice yourself just because you get married.
As a husband, he should respect your choice, rather than directly taking all the internal and large matters of the family to you.
You are husband and wife, you are equal, men can also be the same role in the family, that's nothing, isn't it?
However, when many men hear this, they feel uncomfortable and feel that they are insulting him, because they look down on this "job" in their hearts.
When married, both men and women should serve the family together, on the basis of this equal respect.
Happiness requires both parties
Living together is not just a matter of a few years, but a lifetime.
If everyone feels wronged in their hearts, then sooner or later they will collapse.
In the film and television drama "Escape is Shameful but Useful", the heroine concentrated on choosing to stay at home and be a housewife.
It was because she was genuinely reluctant to go out to work, and she felt that she was not very good at it.
In this regard, her husband also respects her choice very much, and will do housework with her in his spare time.
If a husband and wife want to live happily, they need both parties to give together.
As a woman, the idea that you should sacrifice for the sake of your family is absolutely wrong, and you must not hold such a mentality.
You are yourself first, and your wife and mother second.
Therefore, learn to love yourself so that the other person will respect you and your life can be happy.