As we get older, our understanding of ourselves will actually become clearer and clearer, and we will be able to find our own position in all this chaotic life.
It's just that to achieve this goal, there is a certain premise, you need to have a continuous self-reflection and summary attitude to your own experience, otherwise, no matter how old you are, it will still be the same, without any actual change.
I saw this sentence: "For a long time, I always felt that a new life was about to begin, but there were always obstacles in the way, problems to overcome, and things that were not yet done." ”
In this life, you will encounter countless troubles, and you need to face them and solve them one by one, so that you can truly control your life.
Many times, we will subconsciously want to hand over this kind of trouble to the people around us to deal with, which is indeed very convenient.
However, you need to understand that no one will always be by your side.
Especially the further back you go, the more you will find that there are very few people who can really rely on, so what is the biggest reliance on a person in middle age!
If you want to have these dependencies, what do you need to do, and how can it change your life?
A self-disciplined life is not too bad
The ancients said: "Be strict with yourself and lenient with others." "In our daily life, we must be strict with ourselves, which will make you better and better.
On the contrary, for others, we must have an inclusive attitude to accept and understand others.
In fact, you can carefully observe the people around you who have really achieved something, and what standards they use to demand of themselves.
A friend of a person around him, who relied on himself alone in his early thirties, developed into a company of more than thirty people, bought a luxury car and lived in a bungalow, and many people envied him.
In fact, people who don't know only see this side of his scenery, and those who are familiar with him know that he has always insisted on getting up at 5 o'clock every day to read books and newspapers to exercise, and it has never changed rain or shine. I think it is under such self-control that today's results are obtained!
Why is it said that when people reach middle age, one of the biggest dependencies is self-discipline?
Because only if you have a correct attitude and pay attention to your life, you will continue to correct some bad habits in yourself.
A self-disciplined life is not too bad, and you know very well what important impact these things you keep doing will have on your life.
It is always difficult for us to live without being influenced by others, but for people with the quality of self-discipline, they are not easily lost at any time, and they can always stick to the path they really think is feasible, and it can make you achieve something.
The older you get, the more you have to do so, after all, it is very easy for a person to indulge and become bad, and you need to discipline yourself.
Be able to be self-reliant on your own
It is very important that we remain independent as whole people, both financially and spiritually.
This is especially important for women.
When you can have a career you love, it will bring you a certain economic income, which is very important and your confidence no matter what stage you are in.
Imagine if you can't achieve a financial "self-reliance" and have to spend other people's money on food, clothing, housing and transportation, it is difficult for you to truly achieve freedom.
If one is overly bound, then you have to obey others.
At any moment, you can decide for yourself to come and go, which requires a certain material basis.
This is also an important reason why many people will not choose divorce even if they do not love each other, she does not have this ability to support herself.
We live in such an era, it is indeed very convenient, and if you want to take shortcuts and gain everything through the hands of others, sooner or later you will lose it.
Maintaining the ability to think independently, which will make you stand out and help you infinitely on the way.
Maintain an optimistic mindset
No matter how old you live, being able to maintain an optimistic attitude is something that cannot be ignored.
If we don't have the ability to manage this kind of feelings, it's easy to be passed by others, lose our minds, and do stupid things.
In real life, you will find that there are many people around you, and in fact they are no worse than anyone else.
Why is there always no way to rely on yourself, that is, you will not regulate your emotions, always very impulsive, too emotional.
As you get older, all kinds of people are warm and cold, you will see clearly, and you may become very low.
It is possible to be disappointed in the world you live in and to be depressed from now on.
However, you have to learn to tell yourself that life is like this, and that there will always be good things and bad things.
Everything in the world has its own laws of operation, we can't interfere too much, we can only adjust our mentality and don't be overly pessimistic.
Teenagers, middle-aged and old age are not important, your biggest reliance can only be yourself, extreme self-discipline, extra independence, you with a good attitude.