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preface
A news of "mother stealing her child's cake" appeared on the hot search, and the mother only ate a few more bites of cake for her son, but caused her son to jump like a thunder and threw the whole cake into the trash.
And the mother's behavior also triggered the condemnation of the whole network, revealing the ignorance of countless incompetent parents.
Cake storm
A mother spat on her son on social platforms, according to her, it was her son's birthday, and she prepared a birthday cake for her son.
After work, she returned home with the cake, and her son pounced when he saw the cake, they opened the cake and put it on the table, and the son was ready to blow out candles and make a wish.
But at this time, her mother looked at the cake and she couldn't wait, so she discussed with her son: "Can mom eat a piece first, this is specially prepared for you by mom." ”
When the son heard this, he reluctantly agreed, but the son said: "Then you can only eat one piece, and when I make a wish, blow out the candle, we will eat another piece," and the mother readily agreed after listening.
But when his son made a wish and was about to blow out the candle, he saw that his mother had eaten another piece, and he took the cake on the table and threw it into the trash.
My mother was stunned in place, she felt that she was just eating a piece of cake, how could she be treated like this by her son, this cake was still bought by herself!
She posted this matter on the Internet, originally wanting to complain about her son's ignorance and filial piety, but what she didn't expect was that the problem of this matter was actually on herself.
After seeing her complaint, many netizens replied under her post:
"Children care about what they like, you say eat a bite, you eat again, isn't this your own untrustworthy first? How to teach children without leading by example? ”
This netizen's words hit the nail on the head, directly revealing the meaning behind the mother's stealing cake.
As a mother, when taking the cake home, she has already said in advance that this cake is specially bought for her son, and as a child, their sense of domain is very strong, and in his subconscious, this cake is his.
Although the child promised to let you eat one piece, but you ate a second piece without his permission, this is a big deal for him, and it is understandable that he will lose his temper and throw the cake.
The mother also asked her son why he threw the cake afterwards, and the son's answer was: This is my birthday, I haven't even made a wish to blow out the candles, you eat such a large piece of the cake, I really can't accept it.
Maybe for the mother, she worked hard to raise her son, but in the end she couldn't eat a piece of cake? The mother posted this incident on the Internet, originally wanting netizens to help her teach her children, but she did not realize that she was an unqualified mother.
It is said that parents are the first teachers of children, and every word and deed of parents will affect the growth of children, and if he is instilled with those bad habits when he is young, you can imagine what it will be like when he grows up.
"Bear children" cause disaster
It happened in a hot pot restaurant, because it was Sunday, the business in the store was particularly good, but there was such a family, constantly attracting the attention of people around them.
They were a family of three, and as soon as the waiter brought the menu, his son Mao Mao shouted: "Dad, I will order, let me order," Dad quickly smiled and said: "Good, good, you order!" ”
Mao Mao took the menu and said to the waiter: "This, this, and this!" The waiter quickly said, "Okay, I'll serve you food right away," but who knew that Mao Mao continued: "Don't do anything except what I just said, everything else is required!" After saying that, he burst out laughing.
At this time, the waiter showed an embarrassed smile, but Mao Mao's parents did not feel that their son had done anything wrong, and they also smiled spoiled at their son.
While waiting for the dish, Mao Mao couldn't control his motor cells, and began to shuttle back and forth in the hot pot restaurant, and almost bumped into the waiter with the soup base, and the waiter rushed and almost poured the hot soup on Mao Mao's head.
Mao Mao immediately cried, and after his parents heard their son's cry, they reprimanded the waiter: "You waiter walk carefully!" What can I do if I spill soup on my son, you have to compensate! ”
The waiter was also very aggrieved, obviously the child had been running around, but he was scolded, and the waiter muttered aggrievedly: "Obviously your son hit me first..."
But Mao Mao's father was reluctant when he heard this, and angrily scolded the waiter: "How to speak?" You hit my son, you still quibble! The waiter saw that this family was so unreasonable, so he didn't want to entangle with them anymore and quickly left.
Mao Mao was also taken to the seat by his parents and was ready to start eating, during which his mother kept sandwiching meat for him, and before he could sit for a while, he began to "look for things" again.
He put the target on the paper towel on the table, wiped his mouth with the tissue, and threw it on the other seats in a group, and the surrounding guests were also disgusted by his behavior, but he was still a child, and there was no way to talk about him.
Mao Mao threw and threw the paper ball into someone else's pot, and he was still laughing with his face on his back, when a man at the table next to him couldn't help it, walked to Mao Mao's parents and said: "Your son threw the garbage into our pot, can you manage your children." ”
After the man finished speaking, he also said to the waiter: "Add them a plate of beef rolls, count them as I asked," Normally, his son should feel embarrassed to make such a puzzling act in public.
But when the beef ordered by the men at the neighboring table was placed on their table, Mao Mao's father couldn't bear it, went directly to the adjacent table, and said to them: "If the bottom of the pot is dirty, you will change it, isn't it the bottom of a pot?" What to think about with children! ”
The men at the next table couldn't bear it anymore, they wanted to calm the matter, but the other party did not realize their mistake at all, and they shouted, and they emphasized again: Take care of your son!
How could Mao Mao's father endure his son being pointed at by others, and he began to shout at the adjacent table: "I don't care about my son, what do you do!" Which round got you to teach me a lesson. ”
The more the two quarreled, the more fierce they became, and their friends quickly pulled the two apart, and the dispute was stopped, but the matter was far from over.
After several men at the adjacent table left their seats, Mao Mao came to their table again, looked at the lighter left on their table, picked it up and threw it directly into their hot pot.
But this scene happened to be seen by several men who came back, and they directly picked up Mao Mao in anger, pressed their heads into the hot pot, and soon Mao Mao was out of breath.
Mao Mao's father saw this scene and rushed to them like crazy, but was stabbed a few times by one of the men with a knife, and fell directly to the ground, although Mao Mao's mother was on the side, watching her husband and son die in front of her, she did not dare to move, but finally did not escape.
After the man stabbed Mao Mao's father to death, he walked straight to Mao Mao's mother, and everyone later learned that they met two murderers.
Bloody examples are in front of us, and all parents are advised not to let their children become "bear children", because you never know who they will provoke in the next second, what kind of trouble they will cause.
"Bear child" dies
For many parents, educating their children has always been a headache for themselves, they can only blindly spoil, but such blind doting, in the end, will only harm others and harm themselves.
The "bear child" incident continues to occur around us, a young boy in Fuyang, Anhui Province peed in the elevator, causing the elevator to fail, trapped in the elevator for two hours, during which his hands kept pressing the emergency button, and even forcibly broke the elevator door.
Afterwards, the property staff approached the parents of the little boy, hoping that they would take some responsibility for the incident, but the parents denied it, claiming that the surveillance was not their own child.
There is no harm without contrast, and a similar incident occurred in a small area in Xianyang, where a boy maliciously urinated in the elevator, such a "prank" up to three times a day, the whole elevator was a smell, residents constantly complained.
When they caught the boy, the boy's parents had a completely different attitude, and after learning what their son had done, they did not defend their son, and without saying a word, they apologized for their son.
The mother immediately let her son write a handwritten apology letter and sent it to the owner group, and the father specially supervised his son to clean the elevator for 1 month to show punishment in order to let his son take it as a warning.
Such an obvious contrast makes netizens have to sigh: It turns out that between the bear child and the good child, the difference is a qualified and responsible parent!
But such responsible parents are still a minority, in a community in Xi'an, there was also a terrifying scene, a woman came home from work, walked to the downstairs of the unit, and suddenly felt a strong wind next to her ears, followed by brick slag smashed on her body.
Property personnel rushed upstairs to check and found that it was two bear children from the 32-story rooftop, throwing bricks down, fortunately did not hit the lady, otherwise it would have caused a disaster.
The height of 32 floors, let alone throwing a brick, even throwing a bottle, will cause harm to people, such behavior makes people's backs cold.
The property staff severely criticized the two children, and they suddenly burst into tears, acting as if they were so aggrieved.
But when the property staff took the two children and found their parents, the parents acted lightly, as if they had nothing to do with themselves, and said to the property staff: The child is playing on the rooftop, and he didn't hit people, why are you so scared of him!
Such an attitude of parents is like the fault of the property personnel, it is clear that their children are at fault, but blame the mistake on others, I have to say that such parents know how to shirk responsibility.
Parents are children's enlightenment teachers
For today's society, raising children is a technology, especially for parents of the older generation, looking at their children, it is afraid to fall in their hands, and they are afraid of melting in their mouths.
Most children develop a pampered personality from an early age, and even after they make a mistake, parents will not only not criticize their behavior, but also blindly condone.
A good parent can be worth a hundred school teachers, because children are a blank piece of paper, they will learn to imitate based on what they see and hear, so the way adults speak and habits will have a great impact on children.
Words and deeds are the best magic weapon to educate children, this truth is learned by the ancients in the experience again and again, Confucius has a proud protégé Zengzi, this day Zengzi's wife wants to go to the street to gather, but the younger son has been noisy to follow.
His wife lied to her son and said, "Stay at home and wait until I come back to kill pigs for you," and the son agreed. When Zengzi's wife returned home, she saw Zeng Zi tying up the pig with a knife next to it, ready to kill the pig.
The wife quickly stepped forward to stop it: "I just said, you really want to kill pigs!" Zeng Zi said to his wife very seriously: "Don't think that the child is still young and doesn't understand anything, they watch our every word and deed every day, if you deceive him today, he will cheat others tomorrow." ”
Therefore, behind every disobedient "bear child", there is a parent who does not know how to educate.
summary
Many parents will take it for granted that only by creating the best learning conditions and educational environment for their children can their children get the best education, but they often overlook the point that parents are the best teachers for their children!
Every child is born like a blank piece of paper, and the words and deeds of parents are equivalent to a paintbrush, and only when parents draw every stroke in the right place can children develop well.
Parents can't give their children unparalleled intelligence, but they can teach children how to behave, how to face problems in life, and how to solve problems correctly, which is the foundation of parenthood.