No matter who you get along with, no matter how good the relationship is, don't talk about "3 topics"

(Author He Suohuan: Focus on psychological analysis of gender emotions, marriage and family, self-growth and personality, and follow me to bring you more knowledge)

In social interaction, what kind of people don't suffer?

There are hole cards.

No matter who they get along with, they don't expose their hole cards too early;

Instead, show your principles and bottom line first.

Let others know their own principles first, and then they can not suffer losses in the process of further getting along.

Like what:

You will not refuse the unreasonable demands of others in the first place, and then what awaits you next may be their endless troubles.

And if you reject each other's "this kind of problem" from the beginning, then they will have similar problems in the future, and they will definitely not bother you.

Learning to refuse is a skill that must be learned when dealing with people;

And knowing what to say and what not to say is the wisdom in one's social interaction.

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Don't reveal your "money"

"Wealth is not exposed", this is the truth left by the ancestors.

See a story:

The scholar went to Beijing to rush for the exam and wrapped the coil around his belt.

This scholar does not know the world, and has only studied to gain fame since he was a child, and he has no doubt about human nature.

Scholars firmly believe that human nature is inherently good.

When he went to a certain place, in the middle of nowhere, he was targeted by a group of mountain bandits.

This group of people not only snatched his hobbling, but also burned all the books he needed to use for the exam.

Not revealing your wealth is a means of protecting yourself.

When others see your money, it will have a lot of adverse effects on you.

A netizen on Zhihu shared his experience:

He bought lottery tickets when he was young and won 2 million;

Young and vigorous, likes to show off, buys a car and squanders;

When relatives and friends around him saw that he suddenly had money, they all ran to him to borrow it.

This one borrowed tens of thousands, that borrowed hundreds of thousands, and suddenly went out 500,000.

When he ran out of money, his dream woke up.

When I wanted to go to relatives and friends to get back the money I lent out, the other party refused to admit it.

Just in a word: I didn't ask for money, you gave it to me voluntarily, and there was no IOU.

If you are surrounded by "vulture" relatives and friends, once you expose your wealth;

What awaits you will be borrowing money for all sorts of reasons from them.

Trouble keeps coming.

Asking you to borrow money is just an external trouble;

Some people who are jealous of you, target you, and cause you trouble, are the real trouble.

In social networking, don't reveal your money easily.

Income, deposits, not to mention anything.

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Never talk badly about the "third person"

Be sure to remember one sentence:

Secrets that can be said cannot be called secrets;

The real secret is rotten in the stomach.

In social, some people like to say something like:

"Hey, I'll tell you a secret."

Then, he starts to spit on you about your mutual friends;

Spit and complain while trying to seek your approval.

After that, he will also tell you: "This is a secret between the two of us, you can't tell a third person."

Can it be said, can it still be called a secret?

The reason why the other party talks to you like this is that you are ready to be a "microphone".

You get along with others, especially with colleagues.

Be sure not to discuss bad things about the third person.

After you talk to each other on the front foot, the other person will share it with others on the back foot.

Everyone has a "gossip" heart.

The more private the topic, the more people have a strong desire to share, which is human nature;

The more exciting the news was, the more he wanted to make everyone known.

Talk about someone and try not to speak too directly;

After all, you can't guarantee that the other party will pass on your chat.

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Don't point fingers at other people's feelings

I had a personal experience.

I give marriage emotional counseling to people, so my friends around me also like to share and chat with me.

Once, this friend came to me and said:

"Hey, you said if I want to break up with my girlfriend, I'm too depressed."

I'll let him tell him what's wrong.

What problems did he encounter with his feelings?

First: Half a year in love, almost all expenses are borne by him, and the girl spends the most money on him, that is, he was invited to a meal and drank a cup of milk tea, which added up to less than 200.

Second: As long as there is a contradiction, as long as you are angry, the girl will not reply to the message immediately and deal with it coldly.

Third: He also discovered that his girlfriend was quietly contacting his ex.

When he confronted his girlfriend, she said: "Isn't it just a chat, and nothing happened, do you need to make a fuss?" ”

Several times threatened him with breakups.

I analyzed the pros and cons with him, and breaking up early while such a relationship was not yet married was the best result.

If it goes on, his life will not be better.

You know what?

This guy shared our chat history with his girlfriend without reservation.

Fortunately, he still has the last trace of sanity, so as not to be completely affected by this bad relationship, or make up his mind to break up.

No matter who you get along with, never point fingers at the feelings of others, especially the relationship between husband and wife.

No matter how you say it, the family is a legal couple who have obtained a marriage certificate, and they are a family;

No matter how good your relationship is, you are also an "outsider".

In the end, their husband and wife are reconciled, and your situation is very embarrassing.

They can comfort each other, they can give similar advice, but the final decision is up to them.

Topic:

What should you not talk about when dealing with people?