(A mother's help in the education community)
A mother asked for help in the education community, her child was bullied by classmates one after another this semester, at first the child did not tell the parents, and then it was too frequent, only to learn that there were 3 children during recess and besieged him with a clear division of labor, and such bullying has lasted for a semester. I told the teacher during this period, but the situation has not changed! The bullying continues. The mother said that she felt sorry for the child, but did not know what to do!
01 Parents do not know enough about school bullying
The same parents, seeing the mother's reaction after facing the bullying of her child, expressed their incomprehension, on the one hand, they hated the abusers who united to bully their classmates; On the other hand, they were shocked by the attitudes and reactions of children and parents after bullying.
First of all, the child did not tell the parents at the first time, and when the parents asked, they deliberately concealed it, but it is conceivable that he did not dare, was afraid, or thought that the parents knew and could not do anything.
Secondly, after knowing that her child has been bullied for a long time, the mother does not know how to protect her child, which shows the lack of parents' understanding in this regard.
So, what exactly should we do after school bullying happens?
Parents should pay close attention to their children's situation, when the child suddenly does not want to go to school, unwarranted mood swings, complains that classmates target him/her, scars on the body, abnormal behavior, sleep problems (insomnia, nightmares, bedwetting, etc.), then it may imply that the child is being bullied at school, and parents need guidance, communication, and attention.
02 What should children do after being bullied
What can students do when school bullying happens?
The most important of these is the fifth rule: no matter what kind of intimidation you encounter, tell parents not to suffer physical and psychological trauma yourself. And the classmates above did not do this! He deliberately conceals his parents, which is to block the opportunity for parents to participate in the solution, and is isolated when he is hurt.
(National Young Workers Committee Text: Expand! What you should know about school bullying)
03 What parents should do after being bullied
What should parents do when their children are bullied?
After the child tells the fact of being bullied at school, parents must stand up to actively support and help the child, contact the class teacher, put out the fact of the bullying incident, seek solutions and support, and if necessary, inform the school to seek stronger support. The attitude of parents will determine whether the child feels safe, whether the damaged soul can be repaired, and the parent's presence is extremely important!
(National Young Workers Committee Text: Expand! What you should know about school bullying)
04 Write at the end
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