At ten o'clock in the evening, my girlfriend sent me a voice, and the desperate colleague Li Xing borrowed money from her?

When I was preparing to rest in the evening, my girlfriend suddenly sent me a voice call, her colleague Li Xing had just sent a message after work and borrowed money from her, and the kind-hearted girlfriend looked at the poor girl and did not reply to his message.

Li Xing is a colleague of my girlfriend's unit, I know her because of my girlfriend, before in a city, the three people who were not yet married often gathered to go shopping.

Li Xing's parents are in the public office, she is the second in the family, and there is an older sister above, because her parents want to have a son, so they fostered her in her grandmother's house from an early age, and did not take her back until her grandparents died.

She was 16 years old when she returned, and she may not have had the love of her parents since she was a child, and the alienation and hatred for her parents are deeply rooted in her heart, and they have not subsided now.

After graduating from college, her parents helped her arrange a stable job, and three months later, she resigned directly because she did not like the atmosphere of state-owned enterprises, and then helped her arrange multiple blind dates and was rejected, and the love object she found was an employee of X Coal Group.

Her parents did not force it until the eve of her marriage, and paid off a house of property for her in the provincial city as a dowry, which was considered pre-marital property and the cost of her future survival.

Everything seems to be so happy and peaceful, but since five years ago, she has successively borrowed my girlfriend's credit card, saying that it is a turnover, of course, the early stage has been borrowed and returned, and then after two years, it is said that the recent pressure is a bit large, and the girlfriend negotiated to make a three-year installment of 30,000 yuan.

Last year, at the beginning of the outbreak of the epidemic, near the last day of the credit card repayment date, the girlfriend saw that she had not yet repaid the loan and asked the reason, she only said that the turnover was not working, or today you pay back first, paid the salary I will pay you back.

The girlfriend had no choice but to pay back the arrears first, and two days after the incident, she received a call from the bank in the office, asking If Li Xing was absent, saying that if the arrears had not been repaid this month, the bank would start to sue.

The girlfriend received the phone call to realize the seriousness of the matter, it turned out that it was not a poor turnover, but that she was already in debt to the outside world, and even the bank's arrears were half a year in arrears.

Normal colleagues and friends may be difficult to imagine, Li Xing and my girlfriend are in the financial department of the listed company, my girlfriend is the person in charge, and she as a senior supervisor, the annual salary is not much and there are 100,000, the house is fully paid for the child, the original life should not have any burden worry-free, but where did the money go?

The girlfriend inquired through many channels and found that Li Xing not only borrowed her money, but also borrowed all the money that the company could borrow, because the old man in the family was sick and needed money.

The girlfriend asked her the real reason for the debt, and she said that her husband had been suspended from work for several years and had been doing business with relatives, losing a lot in the middle, and she did not know what kind of business it was.

In the past few years, not only her husband's credit card has been emptied, but her own credit card has also been emptied by her husband, and she has borrowed a lot of money for him.

The girlfriend stood in the perspective of a friend to advise her, the husband's hole let him solve it by himself, you don't help him fill this bottomless pit, who will pay back the money you borrowed? She nodded her head and said yes after listening.

It turns out that if a woman is not squeezed dry with the last drop of blood, she will not die, just when the girlfriend laments that the recent bank debt collection calls seem to be less, ask her if her husband's financial situation has recovered?

She said that her husband knelt in front of her and promised that as long as she mortgaged all the arrears with her pre-marriage property mortgage, he could return to his original unit with peace of mind and no longer be whimsical, so the property that her parents gave her life was mortgaged out for 1.5 million yuan, and she went to pay off the debt for her husband. Such a stupid woman, what do you say we say about her?

Three months later, the small loan company called again to collect debts, apparently in addition to the debt problem of 1.5 million, the husband also concealed other debts, and the day of chicken flying dog jumping was about to start again.

I said why didn't she get a divorce? The girlfriend said: She went to the Civil Affairs Bureau many times, her husband lost the appointment, and she did not want her son to lose his father.

This kind of woman mourns her misfortune and anger, and can only send her two words: "deserved"!

Every time I hear Li Xing, I can think of my eldest sister, the two people are simply god-like, hate iron is not steel, and gas does not fight.

Whether parents have a preference for children, I think that must be there, my eldest sister is the child that my parents dislike the most.

In my memory, since the eldest sister returned to my house after getting married, she had two words: "borrow money", to be precise, borrow money for her husband. From buying a house to buying an electric car, to opening a store, she always has many reasons to borrow money, every mother does not want to let her child be wronged, every time I open my mouth, my mother basically will not reject her.

Her husband is also a public worker, since marriage to my mother's death, only in the name of unit fundraising, took 50,000 from my parents, 50,000 more than 20 years ago to now no 50 but also 300,000, and belongs to the meat bun feeding dogs have no return.

From collecting money to going out to do business, she listens to what he says, and never thinks about the authenticity of things. My husband never asked his relatives to borrow money, and when there was something, he would saddle up and ask us to borrow money.

In the first few years when my mother was sick, my father took care of her in the hospital bed, and she went to collect her father's pension, and every time she finished withdrawing, she could give you three or five hundred, either the child had to buy clothes or pay the tuition for the child.

It wasn't until one day a woman with a big belly came to her house that she woke up like a dream. But at this time, even the closest people were reluctant to help her, and since my mother's death, she did not have the opportunity to take a dime.

Dad is a person who is more stingy about money, the family land is expropriated for three children to distribute, Dad directly removed her share, told her that the previous debt was written off, and the rest you do not have to pay back.

Even privately told me and the second sister that in the future, if he is gone, the money left behind should not be given to the eldest sister, do you see that the person who can let his father say such things, how much heart did he hurt his parents before?

I actually rarely advise people to divorce, because this is a very personal matter, it is normal for husband and wife to quarrel and quarrel, and marrying no one can guarantee that there will be no disputes. But if there is a contradiction of principle, then when the break continues, it will be chaotic!

Marriage is sometimes a gamble, and when you realize that something is wrong, the best outcome is to get out of the game right away, and the more you carry it to the end, the more you lose. In my previous arguments with my ex-husband, if I had chosen to let go earlier, my life would have been a different situation now.

Modern couples are more of an exchange of value relationships, can be shared with happiness and suffering, men hope that every woman is as tough as grass when they fail, life and death are followed, and after the suffering has passed, the vows of the past have disappeared.

Compared with women's impulsiveness and sensibility, men are more sober and rational, tragic things happen to women, less than 1% of the men who stay, but the stupid women who stay do not say 80%, there will be 60%.

We are all born in the 80s, most of our classmates are in financial positions, not in accounting firms or in major companies as heads, there is no benefit of civil servants, but the stability is really comparable to civil servants.

However, the development status of female students is uneven, excluding people with particularly good original families, only look at those who started from scratch, some people have tens of millions of property assets, some people have millions of dollars, and some people are ruined, the reason for this difference is the uncontrollable husband.

Men prefer venture capital, stock speculation, buy funds, do P2P, digital currency, read a few Buffett's investment Bibles and really think of themselves as Buffett, eager to change the world's richest man tomorrow.

In fact, many women initially want to find a husband to shield you from the wind and rain, but what surprises you is that for the rest of your life, the wind and snow are him, the bland is him, and the poverty is still him!

Even more, even if you go to hell, you have to drag your wife into the Yin Cao Mansion together, if you are unfortunate enough to meet such a person, don't get out now, when will you stay longer?