I received a private message today, and I was quite confused when I saw it, and I was thinking "what did I do", and I could say such malicious things to me. Later, I found out that it turned out to be because I posted a message last night about "breastfeeding after giving birth". I didn't think much about the video at that time, maybe because I didn't adapt to the role of my mother, I may not be used to staying up late to breastfeed, or it may be that my emotions are easy to be pretentious at night. In addition, there has been no update recently, so I simply wanted to complain about my recent status to my sisters who followed me, so I sent a daily routine.
But I didn't expect to attract a wave of scolding, saying that I was creating anxiety, saying that I had such a good husband, lived in such an expensive confinement center, and had money here? I really didn't create any anxiety. I also feel that anxiety is not of others' making, but of self-creation. I myself have some postpartum anxiety, but I am also adjusting my mentality, and the video later says "be satisfied with the moment".
I often see people say that the condition that you have money has exceeded 80% of people, and they are still not satisfied there, and they are pretentious. I would say that everyone's money is their own hard-earned money, not the wind. If I spend other people's money and use other people's money to live in confinement centers, I really can't say it. But I used my hard-earned money to live in a confinement center and complain about the hard work of breastfeeding, and I don't think I'm wrong. What is wrong is that it should not be sent out to make everyone anxious.
Moreover, my husband and I are evenly matched financially, I have the ability to make money, I am not financially dependent on him, and I will also provide him with equal emotional value. No matter how high I demand of him, I will demand the same of myself. Many people have only seen my husband's goodness, and I want to say that I am also very good.
Before we got married, the bride price money was not enough, I paid myself, the down payment for buying a house was not enough, I also paid money, I don't care about the house writing his name, I also paid for decoration, why now I have become a person who is "worthless", "just married a good husband", "not satisfied and vexatious every day"?
I am indeed happy now and do not deny this, but it is wrong for me to not control my postpartum emotions. As a blogger, you should not casually post something that makes others anxious, which I deeply reflect. Then someone said I was already luckier than a lot of people.
But I don't think I'm lucky, if I was lucky (more than a decade ago) I wouldn't have been able to have facial paralysis, and this sequelae have not been cured until now.
The reason why I keep this side of the face video is because of the sequelae, nerve adhesions, shallow nasolabial folds, etc. I posted it before, I don't really want to mention it, but I don't think God has taken special care of me. Everything I have now is my own efforts, don't easily deny the efforts of others.
I still have to say about this point, why don't I use nursing pads when I am covered in milk stains, because the anti-epidemic breast pads are very stuffy. The milk scented nipple has become very sensitive and painful, and the nipple will be stuffy and painful after using the breast pad for a long time, and I have used 3 brands to be stuffy. So sometimes I don't go to the days when I was hospitalized by caesarean section, and I have to pad the puerperium every day, because it is not breathable, and I have a lot of rashes on my buttocks until now, which is the disadvantage of confinement in hot weather.
Others say that I don't love my children to find breastfeeding hard. Here I want to say that you can say anything bad about being a mother, but you can't say that she doesn't love her children, she loves her children more than anyone else.
In fact, I am used to being scolded often as a blogger, but I hope that everyone can give more understanding and tolerance to all mothers except me. Being a mother is indeed not easy, although giving birth and breastfeeding with a baby is something that women have to experience, but it is not something that women have to experience. Therefore, if a woman chooses to be a mother, then the hard work she has paid is not taken for granted, she needs to understand, especially the understanding of her family. In the future, I will be cautious in my words and actions, show everyone my positive and happy side as much as possible, and I will also strengthen my ability to adjust my mentality.
Thank you also for comforting my sisters with private messages, thank you, your words warm me like the sun.