#头条家时光 #
如今，在温饱不再成为人们的首要问题时，孩子的教育问题成为了父母最为头疼的事情。 When disciplining, parents who often can't scold or beat them, reason with them but don't listen, but can only be reasonable, often fail to discipline their children.
I believe that every parent has experienced the rebellious period of their children's youth, addiction to games, waste of learning, disobedience to discipline, and various problems emerge one after another.
This contradiction piles up and becomes a gap between children and parents.
I believe we also heard the nagging of our parents when we were young:
"You're still playing games, are you done with your homework?" Is the preview for tomorrow's class finished? ”
"The most important thing for you now is to study, and you are not allowed to touch other unrelated things!"
"You don't study well, get a good university, how can you find a good job in the future?"
In fact, these are our clichés, and they are undoubtedly correct.
But adolescent children may not listen to these bitter words in their heads, and as parents, what we need to do is to communicate with our children in a different way.
A good communication style is often the beginning of a healthy parent-child relationship.
In the past, many parents have asked me: "Teacher, why doesn't my child listen to my advice, but if I send him to you, he will be obedient. ”
The reason for this is actually that there is a problem with the communication between parents and children, and after understanding, this parent often only tells his child how important learning is, no matter what the cost to provide for his child to go to college.
This undoubtedly does not look at the problem from the child's point of view, and this kind of words will cause a great psychological burden to the child.
Because the editor has also experienced a period of rebellion, he will use his own experience to compare with them, and at the same time, he will not blindly urge them to study to death, and the combination of work and rest is the best choice. Learning is far more efficient than long periods of time.
“世界上最无效的努力，就是真心实意去对孩子讲道理，你讲的道理越多，越有深度，孩子越反感，更加拒绝和你沟通。”
In fact, we have long discovered that reasoning with children is the most useless way.
All they can do is go in and out of their left ear.
Here, the editor once met a parent whose child was addicted to games, basically playing games as soon as he returned home, and his studies were wasted.
I also often say some big truths that "reading is useless", thinking that my father can still earn money without reading much.
In this regard, the parent used the summer vacation to find some connections and sent his child into the factory to experience "life" for a month.
After this experience, the child is no longer addicted to games, and learning slowly catches up.
But instead of forbidding his children to play games, the father encouraged him to combine work and rest.
Therefore, every family to raise excellent children is not casual and has no method.
When our words poke into the child's heart, he will listen to the words and make corresponding changes.
The problem of children's education itself is a long slow process, when we have enough patience to get a perfect child.