Recently, a group of parenting bloggers have emerged from Little Sweet Potato and a certain sound, which is worth talking about.
These bloggers are different from the bitter hatred of ordinary dads, changing the public's inherent impression of parenting, and all young men in their early prime.
In them, the hard work of parenting did not leave any traces.
What kind of magical effect does it make them look good.
unruly killed Matt before marriage, and became Yang Yang after marriage; The prodigal son of the love scene before marriage, evolved into Wang Yibo after marriage.
When others are still hesitant to review marriage and childbearing, they get married and have children just after the legal marriage and childbearing age, and they are happy to mention the second child, which can be called a winner in life.
Compared to the big winners in life, their love story is comparable to dreams.
Everyone holds idol scripts, and romance novels shine into reality.
Blogger @LvGewu and her husband @ took an iron.
She fell in love with his play on the subway at first sight, and after taking the initiative, she found her running to the script in both directions in hand.
First encounters are coincidence, and love is premeditated.
Then the two got married at the speed of light, and within a year they met and had children.
Blogger @pomelo and husband @pomelo behind the scenes.
He happens to be single and happens to appear in Yuzu's single group chat.
She happened to brush his picture and was fascinated.
She chased him and ran away, chatting all night, and the next day she switched roles and ran away from him, and the online relationship was successful.
The two met with a casual touch, wrapped into ten fingers.
The deep kiss when getting out of the car completely locked the two people.
Counting their stories, it is not difficult to find that it is the same ordinary women who love handsome guys, scumbags who develop well-behaved husbands, from campus to wedding dresses; Having a daughter for your first love is pure love.
In the stories they output, women's anxiety about marriage and childbearing is completely absent.
If you want to be happy, you can get married; If you want to reach the pinnacle of life, just marry a handsome boy. If you want to have the perfect husband, just have a child.
The husband is the best medical beauty for the wife, and the child is the medicine for a happy life.
To be honest, if I hadn't seen the story of the first batch of popular parenting bloggers @Daddy Xiaoqiang, I would really believe it and fall into marriage with a hot head.
Of course, which blogger has no design, which story has no script, we don't have to be obsessed with arguing whether it is true or false.
What we should be wary of is how many traps for women are hidden in these seemingly perfect marriages?
part 1
Click on the accounts of these bloggers, without exception, you will find that they have emphasized more than once:
Getting married is not something worth worrying about, and there may be a surprise when you marry.
For example, a caring husband shares the pressure of parenting for her.
In their videos, the first rays of the morning sun shine in, and what awakens them is not the sunshine but the coquettish of the children and the teasing of the husband.
At this time, the husband had already changed the child's diapers and was playing with the child on the side.
And they can continue to lie in bed, take a coquettish nap, roll over and sleep until they wake up naturally.
When he woke up, the husband had already carried the sleeping child back to the crib and told bedtime stories by the crib.
Looking at such a warm picture, it seems that fertility has taken away something for her, but it has made her doubly happy.
Of course, it is not denied that there are indeed people who live well after giving birth and are spoiled by their husbands.
But is it really just happiness, as these bloggers show?
In Mango TV's "Mom is Superman", actress Yi Nengjing is not only responsible for the diet and living of the entire family, but also takes care of the child.
Once, because he did not look after the child well, the child accidentally fell from a stool to the ground.
Seeing this, Yi Nengjing slapped himself fiercely, holding the child and collapsing and crying, blaming himself for not taking care of himself.
Although Yi Nengjing explained later, her husband Qin Hao had hired an assistant, driver, and childcare sister-in-law for her.
But from Yi Nengjing's busy hands taking care of the children, and Qin Hao's calm and calm playing with his mobile phone, you can still glimpse the shadow of "widowed parenting".
Female celebrities are still like this, not to mention ordinary people.
In Tieling, Liaoning, the 38-year-old mother with her baby suddenly died of a heart attack at home, and her husband learned about it 3 days later.
In Nankai, Tianjin, a father's slight inattention caused two young children to fall from a height, in order to falsely rumor that they became a mother.
On the banks of the Wuhan River, a policewoman hanged herself late at night after tutoring her child out of control and slashing her 7-year-old son with a knife.
I think of the psychological expert Liu Yun once said one thing:
When she goes to pick up her children from kindergarten, she often meets a foreign father who also comes to pick up his children.
She was curious and stepped forward and asked, "Don't you work?" ”
The foreigner replied seriously: "Work." ”
Liu Yun continued to ask: "Then why do you often come to pick up the children?" ”
The foreigner looked puzzled and asked rhetorically:
"I still wonder why you always pick up your children from mothers and old people?"
Coincidentally, educator Sun Yunxiao also said one thing:
One evening, he took a taxi and met an enthusiastic brother.
When his brother got into the car, he asked, "What do you do?" ”
Sun Yunxiao replied: "Do children's education." ”
As soon as this remark came out, the brother was a little disdainful:
"The masters are still engaged in children's education!"
During the chat, Sun Yunxiao learned that the other party also had a daughter, so he asked rhetorically: "Don't you care about your child's education?" ”
's brother said proudly: "Educating children is the child's mother's business, I will manage to earn money!" ”
You see, when it comes to earning money, it's a man's business, and when it comes to education, it's a woman's responsibility.
It is obviously the child of two people, and in the end, the childcare falls on the head and the woman has to take care of it.
Real life is often not as rosy as in blogger videos.
The reality is often that the husband is a decoration and the wife is forced to be superman.
Parenting is a person's weight to move forward.
part 2
Looking through the videos of these bloggers, you will find that in the stories they construct, men are women's careers, and women use fertility in exchange for merit.
Just like the male protagonists in the novel have an unusual past, these daddy are not stable masters before marriage.
Although they love to mix bars, bungye dies, and often mix Internet cafes all night, giving people a sense of cynicism and game unease in the world.
After marriage, there is no doubt that he has changed 180 degrees, matured in an instant, and is willing to be a personal nanny for his wife and children.
The key to this transformation lies with the child.
The wives behind the daddy use fertility as a scalpel and use it to transform their men.
In their worldview, children are the catalyst for the husband's maturity; It is a panacea for women to domesticate their husbands.
If you want to tame a prodigal son, it is enough to bear him a child.
Therefore, they took the trouble to "Amway" and persuade those homophobic people of the same sex:
Sister listen to me, have a child, and the lover will be transformed.
Is that really what they say?
Remember Wang Ling, a pregnant woman in Thailand, who was pushed off a cliff?
Four years later, she still can't divorce her murderer husband, so she can only ask Quan Quan to change her name.
Four years ago, Wang Ling, who knew Yu Dong, listened to the nonsense that marriage would change men, and chose to hesitate when Yu Dong embezzled 5 million yuan from the company's public account.
Cruelly retaliated by her dear husband, she pushed off the cliff with one hand.
Crushed kneecap, shattered hip, broken thigh bone, damaged arch, broken arm, contusion of right eye...
It turns out what the nature of men was before marriage; After marriage, it is unlikely that there will be a makeover.
The stupidest act in a relationship is:
Always feel that you can change him, always feel that because he loves you, he will definitely change for you.
As the saying goes, rivers and mountains are easy to change, but nature is difficult to shift.
The adult world can only be screened, not educated.
epilogue
Marriage is not a fairy tale, and feelings cannot exist only in the script.
But any adult with a brain will find that behind this explosion of personality is a criticism of young people's refusal to have children.
It is an attempt to beautify marriage and childbearing, create marriage dreams to brainwash young people.
Let young people fall out of the hallucination of self-hypnosis, self-blinding, and enter the marriage scam with a hot mind.
Blindly beautify marriage, blindly cover up the unbearable marriage situation.
In this way, the character is either stupid or bad; This kind of behavior is kind and black.
Sadly, after packaging, there are always people who are gullible, and there are always people who work.
There is a guest of a reality show in South Korea, so he has strayed into the strange circle.
Look, following bloggers is only responsible for showing a happy marriage that can exchange for traffic, and the price of stepping on the trap has to be paid by themselves.
It's just that this price is too tragic; The consequences of this are too painful.
Sure enough, some videos can be watched, and some marriages will be obtained under envy.
Although daddy is good, marriage needs to be cautious.
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