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preface
"If I had to induce labor, I would jump from the stairs." In July 2015, a girl stood upstairs and said this to her family.
Her name is Zhang Lijun, she has been pregnant for more than five months, but no one expected that when she was at her happiest, God played a joke with her, and she was found to have advanced pancreatic cancer.
In order for his wife to survive, her husband decided to have her induced labor for treatment.
But between the child and her, Zhang Lijun chose the child, it is obvious that she knows that even if she receives treatment, she will not be able to live, so she wants the child to continue living with her husband instead of herself.
But no one expected that just two years after Zhang Lijun's death, netizens broke out that Zhang Lijun's husband Han Shijun not only remarried, but also passed the child to others, and for a while, netizens called him a "scumbag".
So is Han Shijun really such a "scum"? Is that really the case?
Bad news from heaven
In July 2015, Zhang Lijun, who had originally come for a prenatal examination, slowly walked out of the hospital with two diagnosis notices, her face extremely pale.
She and her husband have just been married for a year, and the two are very affectionate. She became pregnant again at the beginning of this year, and it can be said that now is the happiest moment of her life. But no one expected that the heavens would make a big joke with her.
When she was five months pregnant, she was diagnosed with advanced pancreatic cancer.
At the moment of getting the diagnosis, Zhang Lijun repeatedly asked the doctor whether she had misdiagnosed, but cruelly, she neither misdiagnosed nor took the wrong diagnosis.
And the doctor also told her that if she wanted to carry out anti-cancer treatment, it would definitely hurt the child in the abdomen. When Zhang Lijun heard these words, she was immediately struck by lightning.
I don't know how long it took, she finally returned home, and along the way, she was thinking about how to tell her family about it.
Happy life
In 2014, Zhang Lijun from Shanghai married her husband Han Shijun, a doctoral student. and her husband Han Shijun also bonded because of love.
Before being found to be ill, Zhang Lijun and her husband Han Shijun lived extremely happily. The two are like glue, have similar interests, and have the same three views, in love and being loved, Zhang Lijun feels that this life is complete, and she lives a life of "not envious of mandarin ducks and immortals".
At the same time, the parents of both sides also love the couple very much, and her father-in-law even said to Zhang Lijun, "If there is a next life, I hope Zhang Lijun will be his daughter and Han Shijun will be his son-in-law." ”
The next year, Zhang Han and his wife, who were as loving as ever, ushered in the crystallization of their love - a newborn little life.
The couple rejoiced and often imagined the future of their family of three.
In order to take care of his wife, Han Shijun often took leave to accompany Zhang Lijun to the maternity examination, and took good care of her, and the families of both sides took care of her. It can be said that Zhang Lijun lives a very happy life.
The choice between life and death
However, the world is impermanent, and just when Zhang Lijun was enjoying the joy of happiness, the god of bad luck came to her.
During the prenatal examination, Zhang Han and his wife were still planning the idea of purchasing baby supplies. I thought that the prenatal examination process would go as smoothly as usual, but who knows, the god of fate actually threw a shocking hammer at them: Zhang Lijun was found to have cancer.
In the examination room, Zhang Lijun's hand clutched the checklist and looked at the diagnosis in disbelief: pancreatic cancer. After calming down, they decided to go to the doctor to discuss treatment options.
At this time, Zhang Lijun was five months pregnant, and watching the baby in her belly grow bigger day by day, Zhang Lijun couldn't bear to give up the child. When the doctor asked the child's age at the month, Zhang Lijun gently stroked the prominent belly and said gently: "He is five months old." ”
But the doctor frowned when she heard this, and after thinking for a long time, she hoped that Zhang Lijun could lead the child away and perform pancreas resection as soon as possible.
Zhang Lijun had not recovered from the news that she had cancer, and now she heard the news that the doctor recommended that she induce labor. In an instant, her heart was like a knife, and her husband and her husband were like dead ashes.
As a mother, how can you be willing to let the little life in your belly disappear that has not yet seen the world. So, she quickly asked the doctor whether there would be a chance of disease after the child was born, and the doctor said: No, the child is healthy after birth.
Zhang Lijun can't bear to give up this little life, and even more can't bear to give up her husband to stay in the world alone. So she decided to go home and discuss it with her family.
Zhang Lijun told the family the sudden news, which exploded between the two families, and the family advised Zhang Lijun to save his life, and the child will have again.
But Zhang Lijun said that this is cancer, even if labor is induced, he may not survive. Hearing this, the family fell silent.
In fact, Zhang Lijun has her own ideas: she wants to keep the child and then do treatment, although the chances of her survival are low, but she does not regret it.
Looking at the sad faces of her family, she comforted: "I am 26 years old, I have seen this world for 26 years, and I already know what this world is like, so I also want my children to see this world."
Seeing that persuasion was fruitless, the family could only respect Zhang Lijun's opinion.
As a husband, Han Shijun has silently accompanied his wife Zhang Lijun from beginning to end, respecting and supporting all her decisions.
Give up your life for love
While waiting for the birth of the child, Zhang Han and his wife had already thought of the child's name, "Xiaolongbao", and the Shanghai homonym is "Xiaolongbao".
She said that in the future, when telling the child his name, she could say to him: because the mother belongs to the snake, the father belongs to the dragon, a heavenly dragon, a ground "dragon", the big dragon and the little dragon, then you are our baby, so the homonym is called Xiaolongbao, in Shanghainese it is Xiaolongbao.
The daimyo is called Han Heming, "The crane sings in Jiugao, and the sound is heard in the wild." "This is a mother's best hope for her child, but also the love and desire for a new life.
At each subsequent examination, the doctor would tell Zhang Lijun that the child would have a better chance of surviving and the smaller her chance of being cured if she stayed in the body for one more week.
Despite this, Zhang Lijun is still very happy, she thinks that there will be a life in the future, which can be born in her body, she will be very happy, and the expectation of a new life will be more than the fear and worry about death.
Her husband always wept silently after learning of his wife's illness. On the contrary, Zhang Lijun is more optimistic, every time she sees her husband worried about her condition, she will always hug her husband to comfort her, and sometimes even stroke her stomach to ridicule her husband to the child: "Xiaolongbao, dad is still crying his nose." ”
Han Shijun knows that his wife left children regardless of her life, not only because of her mother, but also because she loves herself very much. Because they loved each other deeply, the wife wanted to keep the children as a continuation of their love.
Han Shijun knows that his wife suffers more during pregnancy than ordinary pregnant women, so he always takes extra care of his wife's emotions and feelings.
In a body where cancer cells are spreading, Zhang Lijun relies on love and willpower to give birth to a little life that is about to be born. She struggled to stay optimistic, endured the pain of illness, and battled cancer.
Her body grew thinner and thinner, and in the later stages, she had to cut off her long beautiful hair. By seven months, the weak body was no longer able to conceive life.
The obstetrician and gynecologist recommended that she have an immediate caesarean section, but the child was not yet full of week, Zhang Lijun was worried that the child would not survive, the doctor saw her worries and told her that under the conditions of modern medical science and technology, the survival rate of premature babies is generally more than half, and there is an incubator, the baby must be able to carry it.
The doctor's words were like a reassuring stone, suppressing Zhang Lijun's restless heart.
On December 3, 2015, "Xiaolongbao" was born. The child was born crying loudly, as if telling her tenacious mother that her efforts had finally paid off.
When the midwife wrapped the baby and carried him to Zhang Lijun's side, Zhang Lijun finally showed a satisfied smile.
To make matters worse, he suffered from Injung cell carcinoma
Shortly after Xiaolongbao was born, Zhang Lijun was found to have Yinrong cell carcinoma, a rare form of pancreatic cancer with little chance of healing.
Because of her pregnancy, she has delayed the optimal treatment period, and even the surgery does not make any sense. So doctors could only do chemotherapy for her, one to reduce her pain, and the other to prolong her life.
But chemotherapy can cause hair loss, in order not to see herself lose hair, Zhang Lijun asked her husband to shave his head with his own hands. Until this time, Han Shijun couldn't bear it anymore, he knew that his wife had always loved beauty the most, and she always wanted to keep her beautiful appearance.
When cutting her hair, Zhang Lijun also quietly asked her husband if she could grow her long hair again, and her husband whispered with tears on her forehead: Yes, it will definitely do.
Then a long hair fell to the ground, as if to suggest that life was about to end.
On January 3, 2016, the moon was full. However, due to the fact that the physical fitness of "Xiaolongbao" has not yet reached the standard, Zhang Lijun cannot see Xiaolongbao. The only time they saw each other was when they were born, and Zhang Lijun was looking forward to seeing her children every moment.
At the end of the month, Zhang Lijun's condition suddenly deteriorated, she lost sight in her left eye and a bag bulged on her forehead.
Zhang Lijun knew that she was coming to an end, and she decided to record a birthday greeting video for her child with her husband, from one year old to eighteen years old, which is the imprint of her mother.
When recording the video, Zhang Lijun constantly fantasized about the child's growth, and she hoped that through these memory videos, the child would feel that his mother was not absent from his growth, and he also had blessings from his mother.
After that, Zhang Lijun offered to go out for a walk, so her husband took her on a trip. Leaving the cold ward to feel the temperature from the world, the two went for a walk on the bridge together, saw the river passing in a hurry, and saw the breeze blowing through the fine willows on the shore; Go to different places and walk through the noisy streets, see the beauty of the sunset and the silence of the moonlit night.
Zhang Lijun hopes that time can stop at this moment, and she can accompany the people she loves a little more, a little more.
In November of the same year, Zhang Lijun left this world forever.
Her biggest concern before her death was nothing more than her family, husband and her young children. At the same time, she also hopes that the 27-year-old Han Shijun can find another partner to spend the rest of her life.
On the day of Zhang Lijun's death, Han Shijun was like a walking dead, hiding her face and crying at "Xiaolongbao", recalling the happy times and the days of sharing happiness and hardships day after day.
Zhang Lijun said in the last circle of friends: fate is predestined; I was doomed to suffer this. Luck, it will turn. Please give me luck and let me accompany my husband, family and children more· · · Zhang Lijun left the child, which is a continuation of love.
She hopes that the child can replace her loved ones and husband to make up for her shortcomings. She also hopes that the child can be like an angel, sweeping away all the sadness and depression in the house.
Her family and upbringing had given too much for her illness, and she wanted to leave them with a thought that she was still alive in this way.
The ex-husband remarries and the child is sent
In 2019, Han Shijun was revealed to have remarried, and there were rumors that he would give away his children with Zhang Lijun to be raised.
As soon as these words came out, there were many opinions, and some people accused him of being sentimental and cold, and turned his head to find a new love, regardless of the pain endured by his wife who sacrificed her life for him to give birth to a son.
Until the public opinion on the Internet intensified, the parties came out to clarify: Han Shijun did remarry, but did not give the child away, but temporarily entrusted it to her cousin to take care of.
What's more, Han Shijun's remarriage is also a common human feeling. He did not owe Zhang Lijun, and after Zhang Lijun's death, he took good care of the elderly on both sides and took care of the children, while also immersing himself in the pain of losing his wife. Zhang Lijun also said before her death that she was not willing to firmly believe that such a husband thought that he was immersed in the past, but should look away.
But the point of anger that outsiders feel angry is probably that Zhang Lijun has only passed away two years ago, and Han Shijun will marry again. I thought that the love that shared happiness and hardship should last for five to ten years.
But the world is impermanent, life is disorderly, and there is no absolutely eternal love that can withstand the passage of long years.
epilogue
Human life is so long and short.
Some people have not yet seen the rise and fall of this world, and they have passed away; Some people would rather sacrifice themselves to let unknown beings see this splendid world.
Just like Zhang Lijun, she gave birth to a little life with great maternal love and made a continuation of love. Perhaps her husband did not wait for him for many years, but there is no denying that the child is the continuation of her life and her other self in the world.
When Xiaolongbao grows up, he will also know this touching story and will understand how great his mother used to be.