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A few days ago, Ai Fukuhara, who had been silent for a long time, suddenly rushed to the hot search because of two news.
The first news is that Japanese media reported that Ai Fukuhara and her boyfriend have moved out of the love nest, the specific reason is that her boyfriend has no financial resources, and renting a mansion can relieve the pressure of life.
The second news is that when her ex-husband Jiang Hongjie attended an event, he suddenly accused Ai Fukuhara of deliberately disconnecting with him, ignoring the court verdict since July last year, and suddenly took away his son so far, without even a video message.
If the two news are true, then taken together, the real state of Ai Fukuhara now is:
Life is stressful, lack of money, because I miss my children, I secretly took my son against the court decision, but I still can't see my daughter after all.
The divorce has come to this point, which is really miserable.
A woman who once had such a high voice has become so passive in divorce, in addition to the other party's reasons, has she not done well enough?
This is a question I can't help but think about after seeing the news.
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Ai Fukuhara was the pride of all Japan. started playing at 3 years and 9 months; At the age of 12, he became the youngest athlete of the Japanese national team;
At the age of 24, she led Japan to the first Olympic women's table tennis team runner-up, which was the first medal won by Japanese table tennis at the Olympic Games.
I will not repeat her professional achievements.
Because, rather than saying that Fukuhara is an athlete, I recognize her other identity: a national idol.
Ai Fukuhara's life has been exposed to the public eye since she was a child, and she has a life like "Truman".
From the age of 3, the film crew began to follow Ai Fukuhara, and the documentary "Ai Fukuhara: A Quarter of a Century Under the Lens" was filmed for 24 years until she got married.
Fuji TV's archive contains 3,000 videos of Ai Fukuhara in 60 boxes.
Wang Nan once said that when she came to Japan with Fukuhara Ai, she knew that she was so red that old and young would scream when they saw her.
It can be said that Ai Fukuhara is a "national girl" who the Japanese people have watched grow up with, and she is loved by thousands of people.
Even when the Japanese emperor saw Ai Fukuhara, he couldn't help but ask "why didn't your husband accompany you", the implication was that he pulled me out for interrogation, and kept asking "where to live after marriage".
Why is she first an idol, and then a player, a Japanese player has poked the truth of the halo: in China, there are at least 1,000 such excellent children.
Being noticed from an early age will accumulate traffic and convert it into money, but is it really beneficial to the growth of a child, especially a girl? I don't think so.
She amplifies a lot of "flattery", "social projection", but rarely gets real emotional nourishment.
My mother knows the rules of circle fans, and every time she appears, she will help Ai Fukuhara choose cute clothes with bright colors, and the styling has never lost, taking the doll route.
Whenever Fukuhara cried and laughed, the media camera would not dodge at all, but would directly push over, give her a close-up, and use this method to frantically absorb traffic.
The filming team would live in her home and shoot her non-stop, even her school life.
There have been media exposures that sometimes, my mother will deliberately make Fukuhara cry at the request of the director.
Wherever she goes, Ai Fukuhara will be recognized. She said she felt like everyone was like her own relatives.
Because of its popularity, even though Ai Fukuhara lost many battles in the future, the commercial value became stronger and stronger.
According to media statistics, Ai Fukuhara's advertising endorsement income at its peak was 80 million yen, the bonus was 40 million yen, and the annual income was as high as 120 million yen (now more than 6 million yuan).
As a result, parents' expectations of Ai Fukuhara are increasing day by day-
This led directly to another problem, she was too young and began to work as a family provider.
Ai Fukuhara's parents initially focused only on raising their older brother, but after Ai Fukuhara became famous at the age of 4, she has been moving from Sendai to Osaka to Aomori in order to give her daughter a better practice environment.
At every new home, Ai Fukuhara has her own exclusive table tennis court.
In elementary school, the daily practice time has reached 4.5-6.5 hours.
Ai Fukuhara said in the interview: As long as I don't train seriously, he (my father) will beat me and beat me almost every time.
In the fall of 2002, his parents spared no expense to find a Chinese coach for Fukuhara, former Liaoning captain Tang Yuanyuan.
Mothers are well aware of the importance of athletes' bodies, and fast food and snacks are contraband.
He would carefully cook her every meal, even the potato chips, which were handmade by her mother.
But on the court, her mother never hugged Fukuhara because she was crying, but instead pushed her back to the court and told her, "The next ball is good." ”
With no parents, only coaches and athletes, Ai Fukuhara never dared to coquette her mother like other children.
Deformed upbringing creates deformed family relationships.
This is the third problem in Ai Fukuhara - she has never indulged or even relaxed since she began her childhood.
20-year-old Ai Fukuhara was complained by the Japanese people because of her love, delaying the "future of Japanese table tennis".
Ai Fukuhara, who was chased and blocked by reporters, finally burst into tears on the scene, bowed and apologized, and promised that he would not delay training because of his relationship.
Ai Fukuhara is a cash cow in the family, and if her father's investment fails, Ai Fukuhara can only desperately increase matches, transfers, and shoot advertisements to pay off her father's debts.
Ai Fukuhara as a child, there was almost no time to play, and only when the ball was played well, her parents would take her to Tokyo Disney to play.
Therefore, she put her wedding with Jiang Hongjie on Disney.
■ 03
Having said all of the above, I want to say why Ai Fukuhara is so miserable in marriage and divorce, I understand.
On the surface, the first is the problem of personality, in "Happiness Trio", she and Jiang Hongjie are too sweet.
In connection with her cheating later, everyone will feel very hypocritical.
I don't think this hypocrisy is proactive, you could even say that she PUA herself.
In the soil nurtured by parents, the media and fans, she is an emotionless robot with absolutely correct procedures.
There are many examples of Ai Fukuhara's unhappiness after marriage, but under her "efforts", those hurts have become testimonies of affection.
Before marriage, she was madly sucked by her eldest sister and introduced ring advertisements without authorization at the press conference, which she described as: The press conference was busy for us.
Jiang Hongjie only goes home on Saturdays and Sundays, and does not like her to wear more expensive clothes, and will pua her open mouth to look like a "prostitute".
Written by Ai Fukuhara: Thank you for loving me, thank you for tolerating me, and my husband silently prepared a lot of surprises for me.
On the wedding anniversary, I almost posted a nine-square grid for the photo of my ex-husband
Fukuhara said that she especially likes to lie in bed, but her mother-in-law took her to the vegetable market at six o'clock in the morning, and she modified her as: a lot of vegetables and fruits that she has never seen before, really cool B.
The whole family bought clothes for Ai Fukuhara at the stall, which she described as: the clothes are good-looking, powerful, and not very good at picking.
She also had no chance to learn and understand her true love life, and showing affection was not so much seen as a pledge as a "self-persuasion" - I lived in a fairy tale and asked for praise.
Ai Fukuhara cheated very thoroughly, and in November last year, Ai Fukuhara was accused of "cheating in marriage" by her boyfriend's ex-wife, and asked her to compensate 50 million yen, equivalent to 2.5 million yuan.
Ai Fukuhara took this recording to the police station, saying that his ex-wife was extorting. This practice angered her boyfriend's ex-wife, and directly threw out the chat records and 4 love letters between her ex-husband and Ai Fukuhara.
She even gave up custody of her children.
I also fully understand, because being born in front of the camera means that her life does not allow, let alone make mistakes, she needs to maintain beauty, kindness, cuteness, bravery, purity, virtuousness, positivity and other ideal traits that ordinary people cannot do themselves.
Responsibility was something she was tired of, and she had carried it for too long.
■ 04
We don't know much about the details of getting along with her current boyfriend, but we can imagine that a little warmth is not enough to make her moth to the fire regardless of property and child custody.
Stepping into love twice, there are no worldly considerations, just a lonely courage.
In the past two years, Ai Fukuhara is paying for her choice.
She lost custody of her children, and her property was divided after the marriage, 60 million.
The compensation for advertising expenses in Japan alone is as high as 200 million yen, about 10 million yuan.
The parents went to the publishing house to complain and asked to delete the content about Fukuhara Ai from the textbook:
"When something like this happened, she became a negative lesson in morality. It will make children have bad associations and make many people feel unhappy. ”
More very negative reviews I don't put away.
In the whole network clip, Ai Fukuhara has quietly deleted her studio Weibo account and cleared all content, a move interpreted by Taiwan media as "because love completely ruins the career".
Previously, the professorship he got at his alma mater, Aomori University, had been suspended for 17 months due to the serious public opinion turmoil.
In the Japanese media's "Bulun Artist Ranking", Ai Fukuhara topped the list with overwhelming votes.
The few announcements were also ridiculed by the Japanese media: completely reduced to a B-grade coffee, selling stupid on the show.
On the other hand, Jiang Hongjie, because he thoughtfully sent his mother-in-law to the airport after the divorce, broke down in public several times, expressed his reluctance to love Fukuhara, hated himself for not working hard enough, etc., was praised as a good son-in-law who was sensible and filial.
Jiang Hongjie's performance is a little true and miserable, we don't know, but at the very least, he has an "adult thinking":
Understand what can and cannot be done, and even more understand what cannot be done.
The rules are well mastered enough to allow Jiang Hongjie to have a normal job after the divorce.
He appeared on the All-Star Games TV show, which is still being updated.
He won advertisements for aesthetic medicine, eye surgery, and even gave talks at TED, and accepted an invitation from ELLE Taiwan magazine to speak for breast cancer prevention.
In contrast, the price Fukuhara paid in pursuit of happiness and freedom was too tragic.
To be honest, I'm not particularly worried about Ai Fukuhara's financial situation in the future, after all, she is so strong and good enough.
Even if she has lived in "Truman's house" for so many years, from the phrase "there is life in not table tennis, but there is ping pong in life", it is enough to prove that she will grow.
I wrote this article just to give a little inspiration to ordinary middle-class women.
First, how exactly are you going to raise your children?
Ai Fukuhara is different from the way ordinary people grow up, and she is destined to be "rugged" when she grows up.
She does not have a clear understanding of the rules of the world.
In the table tennis arena, she is an experienced fierce general, but in life and feelings, she has no experience and almost still lives in the underage world.
The situation of children in Truman's world after middle age is actually very tragic.
Second, a private little advice.
Ai Fukuhara is a public figure a little helpless, and I don't recommend women to show their affection too much.
Because the fact that likes to present a "perfect life" is often a hidden trauma in the heart, and an excessive self-proof of "not being happy enough".
In the face of complicated life, we are forever elementary school students, if we do not feel that we have mastered it thoroughly, it is better to learn to keep silent about it.
In the end, I still hope that Ai Fukuhara can get out of the haze as soon as possible, because she is still very young, and everyone will make mistakes in life, and after the end of a thousand sails, everything is just the sound of apes on both sides of the strait.
Please come on. (Sister Yi, Sister Shan)
(Excerpted from WeChat public account Sister Yi watching movies)