#2023 Parenting Season#There are not only ordinary families who are troubled by educating adolescent children, but even celebrity families, such as Cecilia Cheung.
The impression of Cecilia Cheung is like a "desperate third lady", not only working hard, but also bringing children unambiguously.
But in a variety show, she revealed her troubles in educating her children.
Due to her long-term work outside the home, Baizhi cannot often stay with her children, and although she is not a "dead-eyed" parent, "open" education can also have problems.
Recently, the teacher told her that the two children's grades were getting worse and worse, and the second son could not keep up with his studies.
This was very bad for Cecilia Cheung, who was working outside, and quickly asked her aunt at home what was going on.
When asked, I learned that the two children had recently been addicted to online games, did not do homework when they went home, and did not listen to dissuasion.
Especially the eldest son is in adolescence, and he will explode his temper when he says it, and he can't control it.
Baizhi sensed the seriousness of the problem, and in order to stop the children from continuing to sink, she planned to transfer the children to Shanghai for a long time, and she had to wait for a long time in Shanghai for work reasons.
So she first called her sons to explore the news, and sure enough, the eldest son was playing a game.
Cecilia Cheung did not directly say about the transfer, and first told her son from the side that he had visited the school in Shanghai, and the environment was very good.
Unexpectedly, before she could get to the point, she was asked by her son: "Do you think the school is good?" Baizhi took the opportunity to ask him if he wanted to come, and he directly vetoed it: "No"!
Maybe the call disturbed him playing games, and then hung up impatiently.
Then she called her second son again, but she didn't expect to eat a closed-door soup again, it seems that the two children plan to "share the same hatred and swear to death."
Helpless, Baizhi had to leave it at that.
Seeing Baizhi's helplessness, many parents said that they saw themselves: the world's parents are as difficult as ah.
Because children are addicted to mobile phones and games, many parents are miserable, and even harm many families:
A 15-year-old boy in Guangxi lied to his parents about taking online classes, played games day and night behind closed doors, slept only two hours a day, and suffered a stroke a month later.
There is an 8-year-old child in Zhejiang who has been playing with mobile phones for a long time, because of unscientific excessive eye use, so that he is in the stage of physical development, and develops 2600° high myopia.
His parents regretted why they didn't stop it in time...
An 11-year-old girl in Henan, because her mother refused to let her play online games, chose to commit suicide by taking poison, and "responded" to parental control in an extreme and cruel way, which is too distressing...
Yayi has been a teacher for many years, and I know too well that if you want to root out children's Internet addiction, it is not fundamentally in the children, but in the cognition of parents.
As a parent, do you know why your child is addicted to the Internet?
Do you know the inner needs behind your child's Internet addiction?
Do you know that they also want to break free from the clutches of Internet addiction and be good students and children?
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In fact, what really affects children is not mobile phones, computers, tablets, but their neglected psychological feelings, which is the origin of the bane.
Seeing "reality" through "appearances"
What are the real reasons behind a child's addiction?
In life, if you look closely, you can find that not only children love to play mobile games, but many adults are also addicted to it.
Anyone who comes into contact with something new, interesting and exciting at the beginning will inevitably be firmly attracted to it, let alone children.
Actor Chen He loved to play games when he was at home, and he would play in front of children, and it can be seen from the photos that adults are playing with devotion, and children are also watching seriously.
So much so that later, his daughter played with her mobile phone in the dark-lit bedroom, and she was also so oblivious that she couldn't even hear her name.
was also reminded by netizens: the room is so dark that it is still allowed to look at the mobile phone, the child's eyes are still gone!
Because parents have created an atmosphere of online games at home, adults can play, why can't children play by themselves?
Even parents take the initiative to provide mobile phones for their children to play in order to make their children obedient.
Seeing the above scene, can you blame the child for being addicted to Internet addiction?
Do you first reflect on yourself, first of all, is it a qualified parent?
In front of your children, do you often play games online?
Or in order to make the child obedient, take the initiative to let the child play with the mobile phone?
Or don't have time to accompany your children, and can only let your children play mobile phones and games? ...
These are all factors that induce children to become addicted to the Internet.
What if the child really has an Internet addiction?
In fact, at this time, parents do not need to panic, first find the reason why their children fall into Internet addiction:
1. Is it that the child lacks parental care and wants to seek solace in the online world;
2. Is the child frustrated in learning and wants to gain a sense of achievement in winning the game;
3. Is it that children are inferior and introverted and want to enrich their spare time life with the Internet...
As long as the child's behavior is viewed correctly and given appropriate guidance, it can pull the child out of Internet addiction.
After finding out the cause, how to correctly guide children out of Internet addiction?
There is a real case of trainees, there is a little boy named Cheng Cheng, who has been well-behaved and sensible since he was a child, and has not let his parents worry since he was in elementary school.
However, in junior high school, a shocking reversal occurred:
A failed exam caused Cheng Cheng to drop from the top 5 in the class to 30, and he began to blame himself, anxiety, and even boredom;
Cheng Cheng, who was depressed in his heart, was not only not understood, but also criticized, which made him more sad, so he began to indulge in games...
After psychological counseling, Cheng Cheng said: "As long as I close my eyes, I can see the blameful eyes of my parents, and I can only escape reality online."
This sentence is too heart-wrenching!
The child is in pain in his heart, and he can only vent it through the Internet, and he is not willing to say it to his parents, and maybe he is not given the opportunity to tell it at all.
Finally, it is also us who successfully drive children into school weariness, depression, Internet addiction, and destruction of children's learning ability.
After understanding Cheng Cheng's problem, Cheng Cheng's mother adjusted her practice.
Be with him and not against him: give up preaching, scolding, accept his mistakes and feelings of powerlessness;
Positive psychological intervention: help him reduce the frustration of learning mistakes and the guilt of playing games;
Help him rebuild his self-control: recreate a learning environment for children, relieve learning tension, and can properly surf the Internet to relax, combining work and rest;
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As a result, in less than a semester, Cheng Cheng's academic performance returned to the top 3 of the class, and the confident and cheerful Cheng Cheng was recovered.