Children of counselors also make mistakes.
Dongyun, founder of mindful self-parenting, inventor of internal drive trainer, national second-level psychological counselor.
I have a lot of visitors and often ask a question:
Teacher Dongyun, your child is 17 years old, and they are very well-behaved and obedient in the process of growing up.
In fact, as a psychological counselor, we have studied educational psychology, we have studied developmental psychology, and we understand very well that children must learn to make mistakes, and then learn to make mistakes and then solve problems. Their continuous trial and error link, in fact, we attach great importance to it. We treat all mistakes as an opportunity for them to grow, and I will be invited to parents.
When I came to the principal, I felt that the principal, thank you for paying so much attention to my children, I finally came here. Because in fact, in our education process, we have indeed avoided many pitfalls. Things like frequent parental visits do not happen to us, and we still encounter children making mistakes. After the child makes a mistake, it doesn't matter, we go to the school to understand the whole process, and then when we get home, we will also let the child talk to us, let the child find his own solution. Then in this process, the invisible is another opportunity for us to communicate with each other, so that children will always know that we parents will help them hold up their lives. This is very important.
I think you want your child to be influenced by you, and all you have to do is have a good relationship with your child. When he makes mistakes, it is a normal phenomenon. First calm your mood, talk to teachers and schools, and see what room your child has for improvement. I am really grateful to the teachers and principals who have grown up with my child all the way, it is your professional education methods and your love that have shaped the child's achievements today.