Someone on Baidu Q&A said:
"I don't know what to do after I get married, and sometimes I run out in the middle of the night. I can't relax. Walking down the street felt helpless. I'm really tired, and when I cry, I want someone to accompany me, but unfortunately I don't have one. I just want to have personal understanding. No one can understand. ”
There are many answers below, and one of them replied:
"We are people connected to the same fate, the feeling of being tired makes people tired, we have been married for 7 years, and now I have no attachment to him, sometimes I want to quarrel, but I feel that even the strength to quarrel is gone, for him, at this moment there is only silence, look at him more than a glance is very tired, want to divorce, but also heartache children, heartbroken voice makes them suffocate, sometimes feel that it is meaningless to live, but even the courage to die, women are more than a tired word can describe." 」
Chen Xiaochun said:
"Once I get married, I will definitely not divorce, no matter what happens, I will think of a solution, so that the marriage can last, even if the other party has an affair, I will only put things on the table to think about solving, rather than impulsively divorcing." 」
Jia Jingwen said:
"I don't compromise too much because of marriage."
Men and women's thinking is not the same, men think that getting married is a stable life, women feel that getting married is just a good beginning, so the questions on the Internet are women, and it is also women who are sad in life.
So, women have been looking forward to it, and when they expect it, they are disappointed.
01. Cherish the people around you
Ding Yangguo said:
"Marriage is the graveyard of love, and after marriage, we must not only prevent ourselves from moving the grave, but also prevent others from stealing the tomb."
A lot of things are inherently difficult to maintain, and the same is true of marriage.
In marriage, if you just want to be a strong woman, in fact, there are many times, if you treat your object in this way, it will definitely be very depressed in the heart of the other party, and there will be some opinions about you.
When a person has an opinion about you, it is not a bad thing, but if the person has an opinion on you and then dare not say it, then the gap between two people may be very serious.
So as a woman, you must usually learn to cherish each other, if the other party has something wrong, in fact, you can tell the other party, instead of giving each other a tantrum.
Men and women's visual ways are not the same, women will hold on to their hearts when they have something, and now let the other party guess their own thoughts, but as men, they are better at saying it directly.
Sometimes you learn to be honest, that is, a kind of cherishing of the other party, when you are justified, the other party begins to communicate, he will feel some of the thoughts in your heart, and work hard in your direction.
But if you find that the other party has some shortcomings, then you will not tell the other party, but to blame the other party, and even lose your temper with the other party, and even do some extreme behavior to hurt the other party.
When you start doing this, it hurts not only the other person, but also the feelings between the two of you.
And in this case, men will become more and more rebellious, more and more disobedient to your words, although on the surface it seems that everything listens to you, but in the heart it is already getting farther and farther away from you.
Maybe in love, everyone will torture each other, and we all think that a domineering love is good, but after getting married, we often have to face chai rice oil and salt, often there are old and young lives.
At this time, we should not do things by our own nature, but we should stand in the other person's point of view, think more about problems, and sometimes think more about this family when doing things.
If a man is only smart enough, and this man knows how to be a true person, if this woman cannot cherish a man, she will definitely come to the end and will be very happy.
02. Appropriate will be done
Gorky said:
"Marriage is the spiritual union of two people, and the purpose is to overcome all the difficulties and hardships of the world together."
Therefore, beautiful love is mutual help, especially after two people are married.
There are many people's eyes, there is no room for a little sand, and then if you say that you will always encounter a lot of wind and rain in this society, the sand will always blow into your eyes.
If you really can't tolerate a little sand in your eyes, then you will bring a very difficult situation into your married life, because once something happens in life, you will summarize some problems from these, and even summarize some shortcomings of the other party from the simplest life process.
So as a woman, you must know how to properly handle it, you must understand that there is no fish in the water until it is clear, sometimes it is necessary to relax, and sometimes it is necessary to grasp it, and it must be clearly divided on this.
Some people are particularly confused in big things, but in small things, they are particularly sober, so that they will only bring trouble to themselves and others.
Therefore, we must be particularly sober in big things, and it is good to be confused in small things.
03. Think through
A few years ago, Ma Yili and the article of things made a lot of noise, at that time is Ma Yili knows how to tolerate each other, know how to retreat into progress, so she kept that marriage, although this marriage is relatively short, but At that time, Ma Yili was particularly smart, because if she did this, she won her own marriage, but let the two people lose the so-called love.
Many people think that Ma Yili is a particularly intelligent person, because how to say that he chose to quit, then in this relationship, in fact, the hurt is more of her, because people will have lovers and eventually become dependents, and they are alone.
And that year she chose to forgive the article, at this time the article is also particularly sad, apologizing to the other party one after another.
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
"Love makes people forget time, and time makes people forget love."
But smart people, even if they are forgotten by others, even if two people have no love, they will still become winners in life.
For example, this is the case, although he did encounter some difficulties in the marriage, but in the end he still won, because the two people who betrayed him were never together.
After a few years, Ma Yili divorced the article again, so that Ma Yili's husband article was empty, the marriage had no object of extramarital affairs, and her career was also in a slump.
In marriage, you want your husband to be obedient and obedient, in fact, sometimes you have to retreat into progress, sometimes you have to move some careful thoughts, if the other party betrays you, don't let the other party's treacherous plan succeed.
Sometimes you have to take Jukegang as the best policy, if you are tough, you will always be unable to touch men, so we have to take out our own advantages to deal with each other's strong points.