The controversial two-year-long "cooling-off period for divorce" is finally coming.
The "divorce cooling-off period" clause implemented on January 1, 2020 stipulates that divorce must be applied by both parties, and after 30 days, they must jointly go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to obtain a certificate, and one party is deemed to withdraw the application after the deadline.
As soon as the new regulations came out, the #divorce cooling-off period # rushed to the hot search, just when everyone was still discussing "whether divorce is good or not" and "should not be divorced", the Korean variety show, which has always been bold and advanced, released a king fried.
Since you don't know what will happen to divorce, then shoot the divorce for you! The name of this Han Zong is also very direct, it is called:
"We're Divorced"
This variety show is very simple, invite a divorced celebrity couple to a 3-day, 2-night trip.
How they got along under one roof, and what were the details that led to the divorce at the time?
In the studio, the audience followed several guests to observe and analyze.
At a glance at the observation and analysis from the third perspective, it is actually full of the taste of eating melon, and there are wood!
So why does a once-beautiful, blessed marriage end in divorce?
1. Korean veteran stars: Lee Young-ho and Shin-woo Yin-sook.
Lee Young-ho, 71 years old, is a young student of Korean first-generation romance drama, a three-time Korean Film Grand Bell Award, and a generation of Korean superstars.
Xian Yu Yinshu, now 62 years old, was pure and beautiful when he was young, and has starred in TV series such as "Full House of Romance", "Dangerous Love", "Fairy Tales in Autumn" and so on.
The two golden children and jade girls of that year not only held the much-anticipated wedding of the century, but also took a lot of advertisements together after the marriage.
However, the marriage of the star model couple came to an abrupt end after 26 years of maintenance, and because the attention was too high or even yinshu, she had to hold a press conference to explain the situation.
After 15 years, when the two met alone, there was no familiar greeting, only the embarrassment of the courtyard.
On the day of the meeting, XianYu Yinshu, who was already full of expectations, saw her ex-husband appear with a rice cake gift box, and her heart could not hide the joy.
The next moment, her heart was poured with a basin of ice water.
Li Yinghe:
This is a meet and greet for the neighbors.
Looking at Xian Yu Yinshu's expression, it can be seen how speechless her heart was at that time.
In the face of the people who were once loved and intimate, after 15 years of separation, Xian Yu Yinshu obviously had countless words to talk to Li Yinghe. However, Li Yinghe either avoided or quickly changed the topic.
Seeing his ex-wife walking toward him, his eyes staring directly at himself, he quickly turned his head and looked around.
When Xian Yu Yinshu talked about the place where the trip was the place where the two first dated, Li Yinghe's reaction was: Don't say I choose! I didn't choose it!
When the ex-wife talked about her mother-in-law and sister-in-law, she said with tears in her eyes:
Don't you think time is a pity?
Even when the guests looked at it with regret and almost wanted to cry, Li Yinghe came to a sentence: Even a cup of coffee did not just talk, they were thirsty.
In an instant, the guests laughed, and the tears were hard to hold back.
If the embarrassment is only due to the strangeness that the two have not seen for many years, then the contradiction in marriage is the key to the divorce between the two.
After they were just married, the two went on a honeymoon trip to Busan, but Li Yinghe invited a group of friends to drink until the early hours of the morning, and even let the bride's Xian Yu Yinshu stay alone in the empty room.
Addicted to socializing, he couldn't help himself from the liquor store and didn't go home until 6 days a week until early in the morning.
Indulging in socializing is even more frightening is the indifference and emotional infidelity to his wife.
Xian Yu Yinshu gave birth to a child for a week in the hospital, and he did not come to bed for a day.
What is even more shocking is that when Xian Yu Yinshu returned to her mother's house in the countryside to recuperate and learned that her husband's crew was filming nearby before visiting the class, she encountered a scene that shocked her.
The husband got off the train with the female crew in his hand, not only remembering his residence clearly, but also asking his wife to drive the family. (Note Li Yinghe's arrogant expression)
After so many years, Xian Yu Yinshu is obviously worried about this and wants to untie the knot between them through this trip.
But decades have passed, and li yinghe is still the same Li Yinghe.
Dinner that originally belonged to the two of them first looked at their mobile phones impatiently, then rudely interrupted their ex-wives, and finally called a group of friends to drink.
The excluded Xian Yu Yinshu sat dry in the car for 30 minutes, waiting for Li Yinghe to return and only waiting for one sentence: Go home.
As soon as he turned his head, the ex-husband was already lying on the co-pilot and snoozing, as if the honeymoon trip of the past had been staged again.
2. Internet celebrity couple: Cui Grill and Liu Shisu.
Cui Grill, 30, and Liu Zisu, 28, were both Internet celebrity anchors on Youtube who fell in love at first sight at the event that year.
All the way in love, marriage and children, during the 5 years of marriage, netizens ate enough dog food through the camera.
Compared with the previous pair of grandparent-level Li Yinghe and Xian Yu Yinshu, they obviously got along as if they were still in the sweet marriage period after 7 months of divorce.
Just met Cui said that he had become thinner, and Shunshi jokingly asked Shiso:
Do you want to touch your chest?
Shiso forgot to tie her hair when she washed her face, and Cui immediately helped her grab her hair and brush her teeth with her other hand, skillful and natural.
When he finished eating, Cui said jokes like a child, looking relaxed and comfortable.
When it was time to go to sleep, the two hovered at the door of each other's rooms, hesitant and worried.
In the end, the two couldn't resist doing what they loved most before: a massage.
Cui Roast And Liu Zisu, the relaxed and cheerful young post-90s, is obviously very different from the awkward strangeness of Li Yinghe and Xian Yu Yinshu.
Since the relationship between the two is still so good, why did they divorce?
Because Choi Roast Meat's father.
Cui's father, who is over 80 years old, adheres to the traditional concept that the man is responsible for buying a house and the woman is responsible for the dowry. But Shiso's family is not very well-off, so when they met, they said a lot of ugly words, which made the mother-in-law very hurt.
More importantly, in his eyes, Shiso was not a competent daughter-in-law.
Neither prepare meals, do not say hello on weekdays, and do not greet people on holidays.
It is also a direct evaluation in front of the granddaughter:
Being a woman and a mother are all zero points.
Such words were like a sharp knife deeply rooted in the hearts of the Shiso family, which still makes Shiso feel afraid.
When Father Cui sent his daughter Matsuba, Shiso only dared to hide behind the door and watch from a distance, and he could not even mention the courage to go out to face it.
Sandwiched in the middle, Choi Kebab was supposed to be the intermediary in charge of mediation, but he was kidnapped by Filial Piety.
In the end, in front of his 80-year-old father and young wife, the former was chosen.
Shiso's grievances, Cui's tolerance of barbecued meat, and the accumulated contradictions eventually broke out, and the relationship between husband and wife broke down.
3) Divorce is not about being happier, it's about not being unhappy anymore
In these two divorced celebrity couples, we see the roots of divorce between the older generation and the younger generation.
Li Yinghe and Xian Yu Yinshu are typical of the marriage of the older generation.
The man does not care about the affairs of the family, but only cares about his glorious image on the outside.
The woman carefully looks at her husband's eyes to live a life, and can only continue to tolerate and bear things silently.
The contradiction that led to their divorce was mainly in the individual, the unequal status and communication method between the two, and eventually the same bed, different dreams, parting ways.
The marital contradiction between Cui Roast and Liu Zisu comes from the outside world.
The traditional concepts and oppression of the parents' generations led to the two people who were originally sweet and loving, and finally forced to choose their own well-being due to prejudice and pressure.
"We're Divorced" had a premiere rating of 9.0% (Neeson Korea's national standard), a capital region rating of 10.2%, and a single episode with a maximum rating of 14.7%, reaching the top of the TV ratings of the same period.
Domestic attention is also high, with 1.1 billion reads of the topic #We are divorced on Weibo. Since its broadcast, it has received a high score of 8.3 points on Douban.
Although "We Are Divorced" is a Korean variety show, it has also received great attention from mainland audiences. This shows that the marriage content shown in the program has too many similarities with Chinese marriage.
The unequal marriage relationship, the way husband and wife get along, the influence of parents and relatives on the marriage of the young couple, and the division of responsibility for raising children, etc., these problems are all profoundly affecting the emotional relationship between husband and wife.
The reason for the divorce is by no means accidental, nor is it a contradiction between one or two, it must be accumulated over time. Once it breaks out, there is no going back.
Like the two divorced couples in We're Divorced, their divorce is avoidable.
As long as Li Yinghe learns to listen to his wife's words more, then he can dissolve the knot between the two as soon as possible; as long as Cui Roast meat supports his wife and maintains his wife's image, he can completely avoid the breakdown of the marriage between the two.
But in the end they didn't learn how to treat marriage properly.
Although the saying has clouds: it is better to demolish ten temples than to destroy a marriage.
But why an unhappy marriage should go on, it's not just the couple that hurts both spouses, it can hurt the children.
No wonder some netizens read it and said:
I don't want to get married anymore.
Instead, divorce can be a relief for all. As the guests on the show said:
Divorce is not about being happier, but about not being unhappy anymore.
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