A netizen from Jiangxi said: "I slept with my parents when I was very young, at that time the bed was the kind of wooden brown cushion bed, often felt that the bed was shaky and crunching at night, I thought my parents were having fun, I also began to get my butt off the bed and start shaking the bed to play, I moved they didn't move." "How do parents cope properly when they are seen by their children when they are intimate?
Educator Sukhomlinsky pointed out that there is a deep-seated need in the human heart to become a discoverer, researcher and seeker. This need is especially strong in the spiritual world of children. Therefore, when children become curious about the intimate behavior of their parents, how should parents deal with it?
Don't blame the child in the first place. Avoid getting angry with your child or giving rough answers out of shame, which can hurt your child's sensitive mind. Guide appropriately according to the child's age.
1. Stay calm and don't show panic
II. Children under the age of 3, brought in simple language, they usually do not ask questions and will quickly forget.
3. Children over the age of 3 may think that their father is hurting their mother, feel fearful, or feel abandoned by their parents. At this time, parents can calmly tell their children that this is a way for adults to express love to each other and make mom and dad happy. And emphasize that only adults who love each other will do this, and children and those who do not want to do so cannot do this.
Tell your child that this is the privacy of parents and needs to be respected. Teach children to respect the privacy of their parents. From the point of view of politeness, teach children to respect other people's spaces, do not disturb and develop the habit of knocking on doors.
Five. Read sexual enlightenment textbooks to children. After the child is 3 years old, you can choose some children's sex education picture books or promotional videos, watch with the child, explain the content, and help the child gradually understand the knowledge of sex education. Teach children to recognize body parts such as "red light", "yellow light", and "green light".
a. Green light part: can be touched by playmates, classmates, teachers, relatives, and people who have just met, such as hands touched during handshakes.
b. Yellow light parts: can be touched by close friends, playmates who often play, familiar teachers, relatives who often come and go, etc., such as shoulders that are touched when comforting, arms that are touched when talking, and shoulders that are taken when excited.
c. Red light areas: Areas that can only be touched by oneself or when close family members helped bathe or apply medicine when they were children, such as "swimsuit coverings", which are sensitive areas of the child's body.