Recently, "Longing for Life" has been broadcast, He Jiong is a veteran figure, and his presence in this show has also brought a lot of warmth to some guests.
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Teacher He's emotional intelligence is recognized as high, we all know that Teacher He is a person who warms most of the entertainment circle, and he can always take care of some star actors carefully.
I remember once in "Happy Base Camp", Wu Lei was a guest invited by the program group, and when everyone was chatting, Wu Lei praised Xie Na as a young girl and coaxed Xie Na to be very happy, but Wei Jia on the side said to Xie Na: "You also believe what the 16-year-old child says!" Wu Lei obviously couldn't catch this stem on the side, and then He Jiong cleverly resolved this embarrassment, he said: "Only those who say things that 16-year-old children can believe!" ”
One of the most memorable ones for me was when he was hosting "Strange Story", when he once met an "old acquaintance" who made him unforgivable, and in this episode, he was black-faced the whole time. The name of the guest in this issue is Chen Hanbin, which is the "strange flower" said in this issue.
The strange experience he shared on the show is still very attractive to us young people, because he really came to a walk-and-go trip, how many people want to do such a move but have not been able to achieve, and there are many wonderful moments in his trip. He was even an old friend of He Jiong's, and as soon as he took the stage, he asked to hug He Jiong and said that the two had not seen each other for five years.
However, He Jiong, a person who is warm and does not give any indifference to others, gives him an extremely perfunctory hug, and has a cold and hateful look throughout the whole process. But He Jiong did not protect his privacy, but only lightly expressed that he would not forgive him, because he did not bring her back to the girl he personally handed over to him.
Seeing this, of course, I was surprised at why He Jiong reacted like this, until someone later exposed the origin of the matter, I did not know that it turned out that he had openly split his legs in his self-bragging round the world, and abandoned the woman he introduced to him, the most important thing is that this woman sold her car and house and desperately accompanied her husband to realize this dream of traveling around the world, and the result was to be split halfway.
Of course, He Jiong, who has no sense of responsibility, cannot be forgiven, not to mention that he still speaks freely about his past in the show. But Teacher He's attitude is really a manifestation of high emotional intelligence, he did not let the other party get off the stage, he can also play round on any occasion, but when Teacher He is really facing a person's evil, he can show both contempt and will not expose the privacy of others, truly a righteous gentleman, he will not forgive Chen Hanbin, but also will not denigrate Chen Hanbin.
True high emotional intelligence is not to blindly compromise others, but to make others feel comfortable in the case of their own principles, if you destroy your own principles, then you will not break your own bottom line to forgive the other party.
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In a previous episode, Ren Jialun encountered trouble, so he asked He Jiong: "Teacher He, you have not met any friends like that - you had a good relationship when you were young, but because your career is getting better and better, he feels that the distance between you is getting farther and farther, and then he alienates you himself." ”
At this time, Teacher Huang Lei took over: "You think that is your best friend in your heart, right?" Then you'll get in touch with people. At this time, Ren Jialun replied: "But people will feel burdened, and he will think that he said he knew me and others would think that he was showing off." Huang Lei said: "That's his own business, he needs to digest it himself." He has to find a balance for himself, people are always suffering from widowhood and unevenness, he will often be lost at this point, this will take time. ”
I thought that the dialogue between Teacher Huang Lei and Ren Jialun was very exciting, but I didn't expect that what Teacher He said made me even more impressed.
He Jiong said: "To accept people's departure is a norm, although I have a lot of friends, I also care about this person, but I have never had the luxury of leaving anyone around for a lifetime, because this is really difficult, there is another point is very important, some people he came to him is to accompany you for a while." ”
He Jiong added: "What people can only ask for is themselves, and people cannot actually ask of anyone else. "Teacher He knows that this world is his own, and no one will accompany a person for a lifetime, whether it is friendship or love or even family affection."
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When a person really understands this, maybe he will not have such a problem. Many people always understand many truths when faced with problems in life, but they cannot really be relieved. It is true that everyone understands the truth, but action cannot do it. So when we really encounter difficulties and problems, we can think of this problem ourselves and accept it calmly.
Teacher Huang Lei later interpreted Teacher He Jiong's words, saying: "People should try to learn to be vague in the face of friendship, love, and marriage. Because as soon as you know it, you become harsh, you become calculating, which is particularly troublesome. "Why is that? Because you have heard too many truths, but you have only heard them, and you have not really achieved the unity of words and deeds.
Teacher He Jiong's words are very correct: I don't expect anyone to stay by your side for a lifetime. Because tomorrow and accidents you don't know which one comes first, sometimes the betrayal of friends, the death of relatives are sudden, these will affect our emotions, will make us doubt the world, but this is the reality of normal.
People can only demand of themselves, and they cannot be too demanding of others. In the process of interpersonal communication, we often encounter some confusion, we will encounter various problems, we will think: "Why did he do this?" Why did he do this to me? "Actually, there is no why, and what others do is his own choice. If the other party hurts you, we just need to change ourselves and let ourselves have a lesson next time, so people will always encounter a lot of confusion in their lives, but it is the most valuable and difficult to ask themselves not to ask others.
If we were Ren Jialun, perhaps we would think why his friend was like this and should not be like this. But Teacher He Jiong and Teacher Huang Lei are a look of contempt, which may also be experienced, this is the norm in the world, can obey their own heart, strict requirements for themselves is the most valuable.