Some people say: "The love of parents for their children is harsh, and the love for their grandchildren is spoiled." Some people say: "Relatives of the next generation, close to the heart, relatives of the next generation, connected to the tendons." "People understand the love of grandparents for their grandchildren, but there are often parents who complain about the shortcomings of the next generation: different parenting concepts between the two generations, and as a result, the children develop bad habits because they spoil their children too much
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The scourge of spoiled grandchildren
Human nature is cold
The 10-year-old almost strangled his grandmother, who was dependent on him, for the sake of making videos for fun!
A group of older children forced the little boy to strangle his grandmother, and they were good at making videos. The little boy never let go, and in less than three minutes, Grandma was motionless!
It is rumored on the Internet that this child's parents went to work, and only grandma took him alone, which is really pitiful.
Such a child's human nature is really too evil! What is wrong with current family education and school education? Don't dare to imagine!
What he and his companions who filmed videos on the side lacked not only education, but also humanity!
What makes people feel chilling is that since the middle-aged woman entered the house, she has not seriously checked the situation of the old man, let alone given first aid, but just hit the boy on the head, and her indifference also makes people feel cold.
Fortunately, Grandma didn't have a big problem in the end
On a bus in Suining, Sichuan Province, a seven-year-old boy kicked a young man sitting opposite him three times for no apparent reason.
Unexpectedly, the man suddenly stood up, threw the little boy over his shoulder, fell heavily to the ground, and then stomped on the child's head three times with his foot.
The incident happened too quickly, and the passengers next to him reacted and quickly stood up to stop it. The little boy who was beaten was paralyzed on the spot...
Although the incident was effectively controlled, there were also different opinions on this case.
@阿懒暗恋你吖: Those who don't know whether they are dead or alive, they don't know the importance of their hands.
@大岩本色: This child is skinny enough, but this adult is so violent and outrageous! It must be severely punished!
@伽蓝yekaterina: If a child kicks you twice, does he deserve to die?
@一粒麦子: The batterer is certainly wrong, but this child is also naughty, keep quiet on the bus, he plays in the car, if the brakes sharply will cause an accident, then say that it is the driver's fault!
Some people say that this child is really naughty, how can he move strangers casually?
Some people also say that even if the child is wrong, the man should not start so hard, after all, the child is still young, and the mistake and punishment are not equal.
It is true that men are too ruthless and have no humanity to speak of, but are bear children just naughty?
How terrible is the evil of bear children?
Chinese parents like to say these four sentences to make up for their mistakes: they are coming, people are dead, and it is still children who are older than the New Year.
So "still children" has become an excuse used by countless parents to prevaricate accidents in an attempt to "turn big things into small things", but the "children" in their mouths are not at all the innocence and kindness they imagine, on the contrary, these children are often the most terrifying when they do evil.
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At a family gathering
A 120-pound bear child
Pushed a pregnant woman hard from behind
Fortunately, relatives hurriedly protected the pregnant woman
to avoid miscarriage
Afterwards, the family asked the child why he was pushing the pregnant woman
The bear child said nonchalantly:
"I watched on TV that pregnant women would miscarry if they fell down
I just want to see if she'll miscarry."
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In the elevator, the three children took the elevator to the 9th floor
A boy went out and pressed the elevator on the 18th floor
Hold the little girl who has already exited the elevator back in
But no one expected it
The guardrail on the 18th floor happened to be damaged
After the little girl reached the 18th floor, she walked towards the door
Stepped on the air and unfortunately fell to his death
Boys are murderers
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The little boy wants to play with the young girl's mobile phone
The girl didn't give it, and he spat into the girl's hot pot
The girl told the child's parents
They don't care:
"The child is small, not sensible, let it be good"
After the girl asked the boss to change the soup pot
The boy who didn't get his phone was furious
Splash the bottom of the hot pot at the girl
A young and beautiful face, say destroy is ruined...
Seeing this, do we dare to say "the child is still young"? Children who are "young" will kill dogs, and children who are "young" can kill people.
Sometimes, bear children and murderers are often only a thin line apart. Many of them are not even unintentional, let alone impulsive, they are just blatantly bad!
However, the formation of any kind of character has traces to follow.
Behind the arrogant, selfish and unreasonable bear children, there must be a group of harsh but spoiled elders who are very spoiled by children. It is precisely because of the maintenance of these people behind them that they dare to be unscrupulous; It is precisely because they know that even if they make mistakes, their parents will come forward to settle it, that they are lawless and fearless!
Behind the bear child stands the bear parent
For parents, who doesn't love their children? But if it is clear that his child has done something wrong, but still blindly shields him to bite others and sets a very bad example for his child, this is the "bear parent"!
Writer Zheng Yuanjie once said: The era of poor reasoning is outdated, and now is the era of rich reason, and the more irrational people are, the more chatter.
Embodied in bear parents, they always have ten thousand reasons to justify their children.
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Some time ago, Shanghai Disneyland
A young woman was killed by an 8-year-old boy
(Probably) accidentally touched his butt
The woman said a few words to the boy
As a result, he was pushed and abused by the boy's three parents
"Touched it, touched it, haven't you been touched in the ass?"
See the three parents handle it this way
Many netizens said that they were angry
It is believed that:
Whether the boy did it on purpose or not,
This mother's way of dealing with it is definitely not right.
Finally, the Public Security Bureau issued a circular:
The boy's mother compensated the girl 1,000 yuan
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Bear children go to relatives' houses to play
Deliberately sabotage the girl's cosmetics and high-priced figures
Parents Xiong said:
"He's still a kid
Can't you be considerate of a big girl?
Besides, your cosmetics and broken dolls can be worth a few dollars
It's a big deal to pay you
When asking for a price of tens of thousands
Parents Xiong spilled on the spot:
"You are all liars, deliberately trapping us..."
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The bear child poured mineral water on the piano of a relative's house
Relatives looked for the child's parent theory, but Xiong's parents said:
"My children are kind
See your piano is dirty, help you wash it"
Relatives have bitterness and cannot speak
Later, however, in the mall
The bear child dared to pour Coke on a piano
This is a Petroff triangle worth 680,000 ...
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On the subway,
Because I want chicken cutlets in someone else's hands
At the moment when the subway enters the station
The bear child reluctantly pushed the girl into orbit
If it weren't for the passers-by around to quickly grab the girl
One life is gone!!
And the bear child was dragged by his mother
Quickly disappeared into the crowded flow of people on the subway
Disappeared without a trace
Not even a word of apology...
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A hot pot restaurant, a mother and daughter in order to use straws
Remove the straw of the beverage being sold on the countertop
The waiters were afraid of affecting sales and proposed to change their straws
Unexpectedly, the little girl did not want to
She picked up the hot pot that had already boiled
The hood fell on the waiter's face
My mother didn't stop it
I also picked up a few other hot pots and poured them with my daughter...
The root cause of the evil of bear children is the bear parent. In the eyes of the bear parents, the child is going to be spoiled to the point of lawlessness, if you dare to teach my child, that is your fault! Their "tutor" is even more: you upset me? Then you die!
Zhang Ming once said in "There is a bear adult behind the bear child": Good habits may not necessarily be passed on, but bad diseases will definitely be inherited. The reason why bear children bear is precisely because there are bear adults in front of them as role models...
Therefore, if the bear child is a pool of sewage, then the bear parent is the undoubted source of sewage. Their "tolerance" is bound to push children into the abyss.
You don't care, there will always be someone to discipline you fiercely
The cherry blossom festival of the University of Science and Technology of China opened and the cherry blossoms were in full bloom, attracting many tourists to take photos and watch.
But in the crowd, there was such a scene:
The bear child climbed on the cherry blossom tree and trampled on it at will, and the interviewer asked the child's mother: Why don't you care about the child?
Unexpectedly, parents rightly said such a sentence: because children are not easy to manage, and we can't manage well, it should be the administrator to stop them.
These parents who "can't manage it", or "don't want to manage at all, don't think it's wrong" regard educating their children as a trivial matter, and let their children do whatever they want, and their upbringing is lacking.
But going abroad, often these seemingly inconspicuous "bear child trivia", can become an important case at the airport of the country in a blink of an eye.
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Bear child plane trouble
Punching and kicking the neighbor
The little brother asked the child's parents to discipline the child
Parents turned a blind eye
Scuffle with the little brother
They simply won't think about it
After getting off the plane, they waited for them
It's the FBI's law enforcement team
(equivalent to the Ministry of State Security of the mainland)
This time the lineup of law enforcement officers
It is also more than enough to catch a national-level criminal
And in the end,
The family was deported from the United States
Regarding the possible consequences of being deported
The answer from professionals is this:
Whether it is a bear parent or a bear child, sooner or later they will have to pay the price for the "lack of upbringing", whether it is today or tomorrow, children and parents, no one can run.
It is even said that many murderers grew up from bear children. This is a process of boiling frogs in warm water, and neither children nor parents realize that this moment is when life hangs in the balance.
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Recently, a news has been on the hot search again
A 17-year-old boy
Because the courtship was fruitless
A young girl in the same class was raped and killed in the classroom
The life of a young girl in the flower season
Just like that, he was buried by the evil thoughts of the bear child!
The murdered girl Yao
And when this 17-year-old boy killed someone, did he still think in his heart: Mom and Dad will settle it for me?
That's right, just after the crime, in order to protect him, his parents publicized that the girl voluntarily gave the first time to Wang Yizhe, did not admit the crime of rape and intentional homicide, and proposed a lighter punishment to the court on the grounds that Wang Yizhe had excellent grades.
Can good grades hide the fact that he raped and killed people? Bear children never grow up in a day. Does it have to wait until he really becomes a murderer that his parents will find out that they can't afford the discipline and punishment given by the law?
There are countless cases of bear child crime
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If a parent can't teach their children well, no one can save them.
No one knows what will happen when they really touch the bottom line of others, just like the young man on the bus mentioned at the beginning of the article who beats the child, you don't educate the child, there is always someone to discipline you fiercely! Even if it costs you simply not to be able to afford it!
There is an old saying in ancient times: drowning is equal to killing children. Although the words are a little heavier, the truth is still clear: you indulge your children, and sooner or later, you will have to pay for your children's behavior!
Poor and rich are not as good as good upbringing
Parents are the closest people to the ionic woman, and they are also the first objects for children to emulate. And tutoring is the inner soul of a family, the highest personality embodiment of parents.
Some parents regard their children's troubles as trivial, and some parents think that upbringing is not worth mentioning, because they simply do not know that only educated parents can educate educated children.
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The child steals four comic books in a bookstore
The parent found out and wrote a letter of apology
He also compensated the owner 40 yuan
The letter reads:
"Hello! Since I teach my son without direction
Got four comic books in your store
I should have brought my son to apologize in person
Your store is not open
I'll give you (the money) in it
I'm sorry."
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When flying,
Many passengers have received it
Small gift from parents with children
Inside are a few candies, earplugs
And a small card
It said in the voice of a child:
"During the takeoff and landing of the plane
I may be a little upset, a little noisy
But I will try to listen to my mother
Be a good baby"
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On the Beijing subway
The child vomited because he was unwell
The child's father quickly bowed to the others to apologize
Then squat on the ground and wipe the paper
Wiped for a long time
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On the way to work during the morning rush
After drinking the yogurt, the child casually throws the box out of the car
At this time, my father hurriedly got out of the car and picked up the box
And educated the children
For children, the importance of morality
Many years ago, I saw a news story on the Internet: "18-year-old girl cheated her retired father out of 3.2 million savings", parents, what do you think of when you see this news? We finally raise our children and give them the best education and resources they can, and in the end they will actually plant evil results, and retribution should be on ourselves!
When you see this, will you also empathize: "Ah, this is what I want my children to be!" "But it's hard to guide kids to do that.
The education of "virtue" is not as good as the cultivation of knowledge, visible and grasped, nor like the cultivation of emotional intelligence, which can be subtly realized through the establishment of feelings, it is intangible, but very important! The correct morality and the excellent traits that children develop will benefit them a lot now and even in the future journey of life.
And if in the process of establishing the three views, we do not pay attention to the cultivation of children's virtues, then even if other aspects are cultivated well, it will cause the destruction or collapse of a child because of insufficient virtue, so "virtue" can be said to be the soil for a child's growth, only this soil is more and more fat, so that the saplings can grow vigorously and spread their leaves. So what should we do to cultivate children's excellent character?
02 Need to pay more attention to children
The first step in cultivating children to establish a correct moral outlook is to pay more attention! Many parents place their children's moral cultivation on the school's examination education, but in fact, everyone who has been to school knows that the courses in various subjects and knowledge are already very heavy, and how can the school have so much experience to focus on cultivating a child's virtue?
We need to be good at discovering the excellent qualities that children already have, amplifying these qualities through affirmation, appreciation, and encouragement, so that children know that they are doing the right thing and are recognized by parents, so that they will be more positive and willing to continue to do the same thing!
At the same time, we must also be good at discovering children's bad morals, paying attention to them, criticizing and educating them, so that children can realize the seriousness of this behavior, so as to correct children's bad virtues and concepts in time.
03Cultivate children's good character and lead by example
And the most important point in cultivating children's virtue is to lead by example! Children start to understand the world from birth to establish personality in the stage of growth, in fact, to a considerable extent, it is derived from the imitation of parents, and then subtly, they have given birth to their own outlook on life, world view, values, and of course, morality.
Therefore, the first step is that we should avoid moral mistakes ourselves, so that children can live in a positive, good quality, and correct family atmosphere, and it is very important to cultivate their correct moral values!
At the same time, in the process of educating children, we always ask children to do what they should do according to their own standards, but this way can rarely be convinced and recognized by children.
So what we really do is to ask ourselves how to do it with our own standards, and then through this continuous behavior, so as to form an impact that the child accepts! In this subtle process, children will naturally have a correct standard about "morality".
04 Conclusion
We noticed that in fact, to cultivate good morality in children, the most important place is our improvement of ourselves, as the old saying goes: "near Zhu is red, near ink is black", when a child is everywhere in a virtuous living environment, educational environment, and family environment, of course, he cannot develop bad moral habits.
While leading by example, it is only necessary to add a little education, such as by allowing children to contact literary classics related to morality, positive energy and three correct views of fiction works, and in the interpersonal communication of peers, create more opportunities, so that children can make friends with outstanding moral character, which can greatly affect the establishment of a child's moral outlook.
There are no children in the world who are inherently immoral, only because of various excuses, do not implement plans to pay attention to the parents of children, and the cultivation of children's morality must start with you!