In China's variety show circle, there are two people's names, almost everyone knows.
They are Xena and Lejia,
He used to be the host of "Happy Camp" and "Do Not Disturb", and was also a national star.
However, their fate is very different.
Although Xie Na faded out of the screen, she still has 130 million Weibo fans,
Known as "Mango Sister".
And Lejia because of his gaffe in "Super Speaker",
It was banned and has since disappeared from public view.
Why did they have such a different ending?
I think the root cause is their attitude towards the platform.
Xie Na knows how to appreciate and cherish the opportunities and resources that the platform gives her.
Lejia, on the other hand, regards the platform as its own springboard and capital, forgetting its own duty and bottom line.
Le Jia and Xie Na's relationship dates back to 2012,
At that time, they participated in Hunan Satellite TV's program "Mr. Super" together.
In the show, Le Jia made some overly intimate moves to Xie Na,
Such as touching the chin, touching the head, sticking to the face, and even trying to forcibly kiss Xie Na.
Xie Na was very upset at the time, immediately rejected Lejia, and left the scene after the show.
This incident caused strong disgust among netizens, who accused Lejia of disrespecting women and invading the privacy of others.
Le Jia later did not apologize, but responded to netizens on Weibo: "Most of the good people are stupid people, and they do not have the most basic discernment. This attitude is even more repulsive¹².
The conflict between Lejia and Jin Xing occurred in 2013, when they served together as the mentor of Anhui Satellite TV's "Super Speaker".
In the show, Le Jia frequently burst into foul language because of his drunken gaffe,
and personal attacks on other mentors and players.
He also publicly insulted Venus as a "eunuch," alluding to Venus being transgender.
Jin Xing was very angry at that time, left the recording scene directly, and posted on Weibo angrily reprimanding Lejia: "You are not worthy of being a mentor!" ”
This incident also caused the indignation of netizens, and they all denounced Lejia's vexatious and low quality.
Le Jia did not apologize, but posted on Weibo to defend himself: "I am a good person with a good temper. This makes people even more speechless³.
The real reason why Le Jia was banned was not just because he offended Venus and Xie Na,
It was because he offended the program group and the audience.
He often drank gaffes while recording shows and disrespected other people,
He even scolded the program team and the audience.
His words and deeds seriously damaged the image and quality of the program, and also hurt the feelings of the audience.
Not only did he not reflect on his mistakes, but he repeatedly quibbled and provoked.
His arrogance and lack of sight cost him popular support and recognition.
In the end, he was criticized by Jiefang Daily and banned by major TV stations.
The reason why Lejia became popular was because he was talented and eloquent, and he was able to analyze human nature and emotions with personality color theory,
And give constructive suggestions.
His sharp comments on male and female guests in "Do Not Disturb" made the audience feel addicted and made him quickly out of the circle.
But after becoming popular, he did not cherish the opportunity, but became arrogant and rude,
In contrast, Xie Na knows how to appreciate the platform.
She joined "Happy Camp" in 2004 and has undergone many revisions and eliminations,
But she never gave up.
With her hard work and talent, she has won the love and respect of the audience and colleagues.
She is not complacent because of her popularity, but has always maintained a humble and low-key posture.
She once said: "I dare not say that I am a sister of Mango, I am just an ordinary host." She also once said, "I'm grateful for the opportunity I gave me to do what I love." ”
She knows that her achievements are inseparable from the support and cultivation of the platform of Kuaiben.
Secondly, Xie Na knows how to cherish the platform.
She never left Fast Ben easily because she had other opportunities and resources.
Even if she gets pregnant twice and has a baby, taking a leave of absence for a while, she will return at the right time.
She has a deep affection and sense of responsibility for Fast Ben.
She once said, "Fast Ben is like my home, and I will never leave it." ”
She also once said: "I hope to accompany Kuaiben to the end." She knows that she has irreplaceable value and significance on the platform of Fastbook.
In contrast, Lega is completely different.
His attitude towards the platform can be described in four words: no one in sight.
He joined Do Not Disturb in 2009,
With his sharp language and humorous image, it quickly became a highlight of the show.
He also won the title of "Brother Le" and became a national-level psychological expert and emotional mentor.
However, he is not grateful for the opportunities and resources that the show has given him because of his popularity,
Instead, I began to feel like the soul of the show, the master of the show.
He began to dictate to other guests and choosers, even at the cost of hurting the feelings and dignity of others.
He once said, "I'm not here to do the show, I'm here to be myself." ”
He also once said: "I don't care what others think of me, I only care how I see others." ”
He forgot his duty, forgot that he was a guest, not a host.
Secondly, Le Jia does not know how to cherish the platform.
Because he had other opportunities and resources, he easily left Do Not Disturb.
In July 2013, he joined Anhui Satellite TV's "Super Speaker" as a mentor.
He also had a conflict with Jiangsu Satellite TV and was banned by Jiangsu Satellite TV.
He once said: "I don't want to do "Do Not Disturb" anymore, I think this show is too boring. ”
He also once said: "I think "Super Speaker" is more suitable for me, this show has more depth and content. ”
He did not know that he had irreplaceable value and significance on the platform of "Do Not Disturb".
However, "Super Speaker" did not bring more honors and achievements to Lejia,
Instead, it became a turning point in his career.
On June 7, 2015, the recording scene of "Super Presenter",
In order to encourage the disabled Choi Wanzhi to completely let go of his concerns, Le Jia gave a passionate speech.
He took out two bottles of 52-degree liquor that he had smuggled into the recording site of the show.
Le Jia poured two glasses of white wine, one to Cui Wanzhi, who was preparing to give a speech on the stage, and the other glass for himself.
The two drank a glass of white wine on stage.
For Lejia's move, first of all, guest Lu Yu accused Lejia,
Lu Yu said that speakers should not drink alcohol on stage, and Le Jia thought that alcohol would add points to a speaker's speech was pure nonsense.
Subsequently, guest Jin Xing also joined the ranks of denouncing Lejia, and Jin Xing thought that Lejia was grandstanding and taking the opportunity to hype.
Maybe Lega was right, but maybe the speaker will backfire after drinking.
The "bombardment" of Lu Yu and Jin Xing ignited Lejia's anger, and they thought that Lejia's behavior was irresponsible,
It is disrespectful to the show and the contestants.
Le Jia believes that he is helping Cui Wanzhi out of good intentions.
The two sides were at loggerheads, and the atmosphere was very awkward.
Finally, Cui Wanzhi, stimulated by alcohol, completed a passionate speech that won applause from the audience.
Le Jia also thought that his approach had been proven, and said triumphantly: "Look, I'm right, right? ”
However, the turmoil did not subside.
After the program was broadcast, Lejia's behavior triggered strong criticism from netizens.
Many people think that Le Jia is using Cui Wanzhi to hype himself, is playing with the feelings of disabled people, and is destroying the image and quality of the show.
Le Jia was also terminated from the contract by Anhui Satellite TV and expelled by the "Super Speaker" program group.
He also lost his last stage where he could showcase his talent and charisma.
The impact of this incident on Le Jia was enormous. Not only did he lose his career support,
I also lost the trust and support of many fans and friends. He began to fall into self-doubt and self-denial.
He once said, "I don't regret anything I've done, I only regret what I didn't do." He also once said: "I am not afraid of others criticizing me, I am only afraid that others will ignore me." "He doesn't know why he got to this point.
In the end, Le Jia chose silence.
He withdrew from public view and disappeared from people's memory.
He did not participate in any more TV shows or events. He did not make any further remarks or opinions.
He was just an ordinary person, a lonely ordinary person.
After Lejia was banned, he rarely appeared in the public eye.
He occasionally posts videos on Weibo, shares his personality color lessons, or posts photos of himself and his daughter's life.
His daughter, Lele, is the only child he and his ex-wife.
After Lejia divorced his ex-wife, his daughter lived with him. Le Jia loves her daughter very much and attaches great importance to her education.
He once said, "I want my daughter to be a confident, characterful, intelligent, loving person." ” 。
Lega now lives basically in the United States, where he opened his own Character Color Institute,
Mainly teaches some courses on personality, communication, leadership, etc.
He will also return to China from time to time to give some lectures or training.
He once said, "I don't do these things for money, but to achieve my ideals and mission." ” 。
Although Lejia is no longer the figure of the year,
But he still has some loyal fans and students who appreciate and support Mega's talent and philosophy.
Le Jia also said that he is no longer in the unexpected world of evaluation and pressure, but focuses on what he likes and is good at.
"I'm happy now, I have a lovely daughter, I have a passionate career and I have a group of genuine friends," he said. ” 。
Life in the United States has not been easy, and he has encountered some difficulties and challenges.
For example, his Character Color Academy is not officially recognized and supported in the United States,
His courses are also not professionally evaluated and validated, and most of his cadets are Chinese and few Americans attend.
He has also been questioned and attacked by some media and netizens, believing that his personality color theory is pseudoscience and has no basis and value.
Le Jia said that he did not care about these negative voices,
"I don't need recognition and praise from others, I just need my own beliefs and actions," he said.
I believe my theory is useful and can help people improve themselves. I also believe that my students have a vision and can distinguish between real and false. ”
Le Jia also said that he no longer wants to return to the Chinese screen,
"I don't fit into that circle anymore, there's so much hypocrisy and pressure out there that I don't want to deal with boring stuff anymore," he said.
I now prefer freedom and simplicity to life, and I prefer to be a teacher rather than a star. ”
Although Le Jia said it lightly, he actually had some regrets and unwillingness in his heart.
He once said: "I know I've done a lot of things wrong and I know I've hurt a lot of people and I'm sorry about that. But I also hope that people will forgive me and give me a chance to start over. ”
Le Jia also tried to apologize to Venus and Xena, but neither accepted his apology or responded to his contact.
Le Jia was disappointed by this, he said: "I think they are too petty, too vengeful, we are all adults, we should be able to be tolerant and let go a little." After all, we used to be friends, colleagues. ”
Although Legia's life in the United States is peaceful, it is also a little lonely and lonely.
He doesn't have many friends or supporters, and his social circle consists mainly of his classmates and partners.
He didn't get married or fall in love again.
He said: "I don't believe in love anymore, I only believe in family affection and friendship. The most important person I have now is my daughter, who is the only one in my life. ”
Le Jia is very doting and strict with her daughter.
He hopes that his daughter can inherit his talents and ideals, and that her daughter can avoid his mistakes and failures.
He arranged a lot of extracurricular activities and training for his daughter, allowing her to learn various skills and knowledge.
He also often takes his daughter on trips and explorations to broaden her horizons and insights.
"I want my daughter to be a well-rounded person, someone who has her own thoughts and judgments, someone who can live and work independently," he said. ”
Lejia's daughter is very sensible and filial. She knows her father's past experience and current situation,
She also knew what her father expected and loved her. She studied hard and tried to be with her father.
"I love my dad, he's my best teacher and my best friend," she said. I don't care what other people think of him, I only care what he thinks of me. I hope that one day, I will be able to make him proud and make him happy. ”
Although Lejia's life in the United States seems to be stable, there are still many uneases and struggles in his heart.
He sometimes thinks of his past in China, of his former glory and glory, of his former friends and colleagues,
Remembering his former lover and family.
He sometimes regrets some of his decisions and actions, thinking that if he could have done better,
More modest, more considerate, maybe he would not have fallen into the situation he is today.
He sometimes doubts his own worth and meaning,
Thinking about whether you still have a chance to regain the love and respect of the public,
Whether there is still a chance to achieve your dreams and goals.
He is no longer the man who is arrogant and aggressive, but has become more peaceful and humble.
He is no longer the one who disrespects and insults others, but becomes more respectful and understanding of others.
He is no longer the one who does not know restraint and proportion, but has become more aware of restraint and proportion.
"I feel like I've matured a lot and changed a lot," he said. I feel like I'm no longer the same person I used to be, but a whole new me. ” 。
Le Jia also has his own hopes and expectations, he looks forward to his personality color theory can be recognized and accepted by more people,
He is looking forward to publishing an English version of the character color book.
He looks forward to becoming an internationally renowned speaker and trainer.
He is also looking forward to his return to China and his reunion with old friends and colleagues.
Being able to reconcile with Venus and Xena is able to re-establish trust and friendship with the audience.
He said:
"I think my future is still very good, still very promising. I feel that my dream is still achievable and worth pursuing. ”
"I'm not a weak person, I'm just a person who persists. I know that life is not always smooth sailing, nor is it a bumpy road. I know that life is not static, nor is everything arbitrary. I know that happiness is not once and for all, nor is it nothing. ” 。