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Li Guoqin, the niece of Li Hongzhang, a minister of the late Qing Dynasty, was a beautiful embryo. When she was 22 years old, she married Zhang Fuyun, the first person at Harvard in China, just as the so-called talent and beauty, the combination of the two became a beautiful talk for a while.
The days of harmony and beauty were broken when Li Guoqin was 40 years old. That day, her husband said to her with a guilty look: "I have children outside." Li Guoqin was slapped in the face, and couldn't help but ask bitterly: "Who is she?" And her husband's answer made her almost faint.
After much thought, Li Guoqin decided to divorce Zhang Fuyun.
Unexpectedly, the husband seemed to have changed as a person, contrary to his previous thoughtfulness and love, and coldly threw out a question: "What do you take to support yourself?" ”
In fact, during the Republican period, it was not a big deal for a man to have an outer room. So, why did Li Guoqin, a famous lady of the Republic of China, react so much to her husband's cheating? Will she compromise in the face of her husband's threats?
Pick one out of a hundred
Li Guoqin's father was named Li Jingfeng, the seventh son of Li Hongzhang's eldest brother Li Hanzhang, and was a proper second generation official. Although he is not as dazzling as his father's generation, he also runs his career and family well.
His wife was Wu Jingyi, a wealthy family in Hangzhou, and this outstanding-looking beauty gave him two daughters, Li Guoqin and Li Guoqing. The sisters perfectly inherited their mother's beauty, and the older sister was particularly prominent.
At the beginning of the twentieth century, under the influence of Western countries, schools began to be established in various parts of China. Girls can also get out of the house and into school.
The insightful Li Jingfeng feels that girls with knowledge are better able to find a good family. So he sent both of his daughters to the best schools in Shanghai.
It is said that the primary and secondary schools they attended were also the schools attended by the three Song sisters. Compared with her younger sister, her sister is excellent in all her homework and likes to learn new knowledge.
Unfortunately, the sisters went home to get married before graduating from high school. In the final analysis, Li Jingfeng is still a person with a serious feudal ideology, and he believes that the most important thing is for girls to marry, after all, "a woman has no talent and virtue".
At this time, Li Guoqin, who had good looks and talents and a family lineage, became the object of pursuit of many rich children. And when Li Jingfeng, who grew up in a scholarly family, chose his son-in-law, he valued his family lineage and talent.
After many comparisons, a young man named Ma Zhaochang entered the eyes of the father and daughter. But when it was time to talk about marriage, Li Jingfeng, a feudal patriarch, found that the two did not agree, so he resolutely interrupted this affair despite his daughter's objections.
But how could such a brilliant young man miss this? Fortunately, he also has another daughter, and the two are very compatible. Subsequently, the eldest son-in-law became the second son-in-law.
Under the feudal marriage system arranged by parents, a woman has the right to choose her husband. Like it or not, the marriage is all up to the parents. Although Li Guoqin was unwilling, he was helpless.
Soon, her father Li Jingfeng found a better young man for her, he was Zhang Fuyun.
How good is this young man? He was eligible to study in the United States because of the provisions on the refund of Gengzi's reparations in the Xinxiu Treaty, and was the first Chinese to study at Harvard. At that time, his fame far exceeded Hu Shi's, and he was very close to his classmate Song Ziwen.
The spirited Zhang Fuyun returned to China after completing his studies, and when he entered Peking University, he was nearly 35 years old but still a standard golden bachelor.
Zhang Fuyun naturally became the son-in-law of many rich and powerful people, and Li Jingfeng was one of them. This time, he learned the previous lesson and measured the eight characters of the two in advance, and the results were consistent.
And Zhang Fuyun chose left and right, and also fell in love with the beautiful and generous celebrity Li Guoqin at first sight, and took the initiative to invite someone to come to the door to ask for a kiss. Li Jingfeng was overjoyed, took charge of his daughter, and decided on this marriage.
Everything fell into place, 22-year-old Li Guoqin and Zhang Fuyun, who was 13 years older than her, entered the marriage hall in 1924 and began the life of husband and wife.
The two of them have a deep affection
Newlywed Yan'er, Zhang Fuyun and Li Guoqin are caught in the sweet life of you and my nong. This is the case with old-style marriages, where the parties do not understand each other before marriage, and love spreads from after marriage.
At that time, their husbands were deeply learned and amorous; The wife is as beautiful as a flower and gentle and lovely. There is no trouble of firewood, rice, oil and salt, some are the warmth of the veins, and love grows.
Of course, for men, the most important thing is career. Zhang Fuyun took advantage of his wife's prominent family lineage to make friends with more upper-class people, plus his original connections, and his prosperity was unlimited for a while.
He took his beautiful wife in and out of various high-end places, and all he heard were extremely flattering words, and he also accepted envious and jealous eyes, and his heart was greatly satisfied.
At this moment, Li Guoqin had a sense of crisis.
At those staggered banquets, the husband talked eloquently, switching between Chinese and English freely, which caused the men and women present to look at each other. Moreover, the female dependents and wives present also have their own merits.
Some of them are brilliant, some speak fluent English and can join the conversation at any time. And Li Guoqin often couldn't insert a word, as if he was an outsider.
Li Guoqin deeply realized the shallowness of his knowledge. She understood that her face would eventually grow old, and what should she stand with her husband then? Only couples who raise their eyebrows together will stay together for life.
Her desire to learn something grew stronger. After thinking about it, Li Guoqin decided to pick up his hobby of painting and learn English from scratch. Zhang Fuyun was very supportive of his wife's idea and personally introduced her to painting teachers and English tutors.
After that, in addition to accompanying her husband, Li Guoqin went headlong into studying. Painting is a slow work, but English can improve rapidly.
With a ready-made English sparring partner at home, Li Guoqin's English has improved by leaps and bounds, and he will soon be able to communicate easily with people. This made her more comfortable in social situations and became a well-known top circle socializer at that time.
After Zhang Fuyun caught up with the Li family, not only did he live happily and satisfactorily, but his career was also smooth sailing. It was an era of thirst for talent, and Zhang Fuyun, who had a Harvard degree, was favored by the Beijing government and held important positions in the Ministry of Communications and then the Ministry of Foreign Affairs.
Then, at the heartfelt invitation of his classmate and Minister of Finance of the National Government, Song Ziwen, Zhang Fuyun took the first chair of the Customs Administration (General Administration of Customs) and the National Tax Commission (State Administration of Taxation).
But where in the world is there anything perfect? The glorious and decent Zhang Fuyun couple also have an unspeakable secret. They were married for many years, and neither wife conceived a child.
Although Zhang Fuyun has received the most advanced ideas, the concept of inheritance in his bones is still deeply rooted. He took his wife everywhere to seek medical treatment, but the conclusion was that her wife had a problem with her uterus and was extremely difficult to get pregnant.
Li Guoqin felt very guilty in his heart. As a woman, she could not continue the incense for her husband's family, which was like a sin during the Republican period, when feudal thinking was still very serious.
But Zhang Fuyun did not blame his wife, but comforted her in every way, and also said that he would never find other women because of this.
For her husband's kindness and love, Li Guoqin was full of gratitude in his heart. She poured all her love into her husband, and wherever she was needed, she would do her best.
If Li Guoqin did not have the idea of adopting later, perhaps their marriage would have become a good story.
Dark crossing Chen Cang
Zhang Fuyun's career is thriving, and his work is getting busier, and it has become common to travel abroad or go abroad to attend conferences. He sometimes took his wife with him, and most of the time she was left alone at home.
Fortunately, Li Guoqin has an independent side in his personality, and even if he is alone, he can live his life well. She spends her alone time reading, painting, etc., and sometimes goes to the gatherings of friends, and lives a full life.
Li Guoqin met Ye Mingzhai, a comprador of Japan's Zhengjin Bank, by chance, and formed a bad relationship with a young granddaughter of his family.
This little girl has a lively and cute personality, and is very likable. In this regard, Li Guoqin's maternal love began to flood, and she really wanted to have such a daughter.
Ye Mingzhai saw all this in his eyes, and he said to Li Guoqin with a smile: "If you really like it, I will make you a daughter." ”
Li Guoqin thought that Ye Lao was joking, who knew that people were serious. The Ye family has many descendants, and the Zhang family was in the limelight at that time, and if they could climb such a relative, why not Ye Mingzhai? He was a profit-seeking businessman.
So, after obtaining Zhang Fuyun's consent, the little girl moved into Zhang's house. Li Guoqin gave this adopted daughter all the maternal love that had nowhere to be placed for many years and gave her meticulous care.
Since adopting his daughter, Zhang Fuyun has returned home more often, and the relationship between father and daughter is very harmonious. Li Guoqin was very glad that he made this decision, and the feelings of the husband and wife were even stronger.
As the saying goes, women change eighteen times. The little girl gradually grew into a big girl, and the whole person looked youthful and beautiful. Li Guoqin saw it in his eyes and was happy in his heart. In addition to being happy, she couldn't help but sigh that her years had passed and her youth was no longer there.
On the other hand, Zhang Fuyun, a man over fifty years old, looks younger and more attractive under the light of his high position. In this regard, Li Guoqin's heart was a little flustered.
The one who should come will come. One day, the man told his wife Li Guoqin that he had a child outside, and that the child's mother was their adopted daughter.
Li Guoqin's world collapsed at once. She thought that her husband might have an affair, but she would never have thought that the person who cheated was her adopted daughter. Such a dirty and unethical thing happened right under her nose.
No wonder the adopted daughter doesn't go home much after going to college, no wonder the husband comes home less and less... It turns out that everything is traceable.
Anger and pain occupied Li Guoqin's heart, and the two people she cherished the most betrayed her in the most shameless way. It is tolerable, who is unbearable, and Li Guoqin, who is heartbroken, resolutely filed for divorce.
Zhang Fuyun didn't expect Li Guoqin to be so decisive. In his heart, his wife was just his own vassal, and he could not live without him.
He thinks that his wife will cry a few times at most and will eventually endure it. And he just wants a child, and the public also acquiesces to this kind of thing.
Zhang Fuyun's wishful calculation snapped. After achieving fame, he no longer needed to rely on the power of the Li family, but he also did not want to divorce his wife. He wants everything, the glory of a famous wife does not want to be lost, and the concubines and descendants must also have it.
Li Guoqin regretted that he had led the wolf into the house in the first place, but now it was too late. Is there any other option for her?
Lao Yan flew separately
Faced with Li Guoqin's divorce appeal, Zhang Fuyun first begged bitterly. He hopes that his wife will understand his feelings of passing on the family, as long as he gives his children and "adopted daughter" a title, nothing else will change.
Li Guoqin was simply laughed angrily, the situation was so uncontrollable, what was immutable? It is clear that the sky has fallen apart. This home has no value for her anymore.
Zhang Fuyun saw that the soft one could not work, so he came to the hard one. He sneered and asked, "Without me, what do you take to live?" ”
Yes, Li Guoqin has been staying in the cage woven by her husband like a bird, what does she live on after divorce without the ability to earn money?
It's not that she didn't think about it, and her relatives and friends in the know also advised her to endure it. But she is no longer the Li Guoqin she was twenty years ago, she will no longer be at the mercy of others, and she will never want to endure this boundless shame.
It is difficult to harvest the water, Li Guoqin's intention to divorce is very resolute, but Zhang Fuyun has always been unwilling to let go. He was lucky, maybe after a while, his wife would figure it out.
But Li Guoqin's heart was as cold as a stone, and the desire to divorce was so strong that eighteen horses could not turn back. She packed her things and left the home where she had been there for twenty years without looking back.
Zhang Fuyun miscalculated, the woman who had been looking up to him was so tough. It turns out that fish and bear's paw really can't have both. Even so, he has not put his "adopted daughter" in the right position.
After the divorce, Zhang Fuyun began to decline in the officialdom. In 1949, he set off for the United States with his concubine and children.
Before leaving, Zhang Fuyun also managed to find Li Guoqin. He said that as long as the other party is willing, the position of the right wife is still hers. To this, Li Guoqin replied: "You have a partner, I will not have a partner anymore." ”
People with strong psychology can always live their most comfortable selves. Li Guoqin, who got out of marriage, met the person she had been destined for in the rest of her life, the Buddhist tantric master Qu Yingguang, and escaped into the Buddhist gate.
Having experienced the waves in the red dust and experienced the happiness and pain of the world, Li Guoqin was able to enjoy the ethereal and quiet of the Buddhist realm.
She took Qu Yingguang as a teacher, changed her name to "Li Yichen", and received the legal name "Yikong". Every day after that, in addition to copying and reading the scriptures, Li Guoqin also assisted the master in some work such as sorting out the classics.
After the death of Master Qu Yingguang, Li Guoqin, who was quite accomplished in Buddhist studies, was revered as "Vajra Guru", and there were more than 3,000 disciples, which can be described as meritorious achievements.
To this day, there are still rumors that Master Li Guoqin is still alive. If that's the case, she should be 121 this year. Sure enough, people outside the transcendent will live long.
epilogue
Li Guoqin's life is a legendary life.
In the first half of her life, she was the eldest lady of a famous family, a wealthy wife of high society, once glorious, but also injured to the point of incompleteness; In the second half of her life, she stayed away from the red dust, devoted herself to the Buddha, and found a clean place for her soul to inhabit.
And the entanglement between her and Zhang Fuyun has long disappeared in the morning bell and twilight.
Love and hate are all in one thought, learn to let go, in order to release everything, and only then will you have a more comfortable life.
For Li Guoqin's practice of asking for divorce when she learned that her husband cheated on her adopted daughter, do you think she has any other better solution? Li Guoqin did not choose another good person after his divorce, but retreated into the empty door, what do you think about this?