The reader's letter says:
My wife and I are both only children, both parents have stable jobs, and in addition to both parents having independent houses, my wife and I also have our own houses, so that my wife and I did not have material ties when we got married. When it really came to talking about marriage, I found that my parents-in-law had no requirements for bride price, housing and other aspects, but just hoped that my wife and I would be happy together. It's just that my parents were a little overwhelmed and took the initiative to prepare a bride price of 180,000 yuan, but what I didn't expect was that my parents-in-law returned the gift of 680,000 yuan. In this regard, my parents' attitude: Your parents-in-law are more sensible people, and in the future life, you must be good to your wife.
In the blink of an eye, my wife and I have been married for 7 years, and the more important thing that happened during this period is that we have two children one after another, and in the process of growing up our children, both parents have paid a lot to help us raise children. In fact, after my wife and I had our first child, we didn't plan to have another child, but we had a second child despite my parents' persuasion. There are two main reasons why my parents encouraged us to have a second child: 1) there are so many houses in the family, and there are two parents at the level of raising children; 2) I hope we have a second child and can take my wife's surname. Although my parents-in-law did not ask for this, they were very happy to see that we had this intention.
Regarding life, I have always been grateful, because my wife and I both grew up in relatively rich families on a material level, so my wife and I did not have to suffer from bad money in life; Both parents are more sensible existences, which makes my wife and I reduce too much trouble in the trivial matters of life. Overall, married life is a relatively happy embodiment in the eyes of my wife and me. During this period, because my wife and I were able to understand each other and both worked hard, our married life inevitably became the envy of those around us. Of course, there is another major factor that leads to the happiness of my wife and I's married life: we are very content with a life that is more than the top is more than the bottom.
Perhaps everyone's situation and experience are different, so that everyone will have their own perception and perception of life.
Muzi Li's emotional analysis:
People in this world who have different situations can be described as cold and warm self-aware of their own lives. When someone gets married, their parents prepare a garage for themselves and will not have difficulty at the bride price, and they also study hard during the period of study, resulting in a stable job. However, the existence of these people is only a microcosm of society, not a representation of the whole body. After all, there are still some people, either because of the limited family environment, or because they missed the opportunity to learn during school, and some people are born with disabilities, resulting in these people's lives are often in a state of poor money, and even some people will hit walls in the process of finding a job, so that these people have to face the embarrassment of sleeping on the street during a special period.
There are also some people, after working, they have no plans to get married, have children, buy a house, or they have experienced the harm of their parents' divorce in the process of growing up, or because they are more selfish in their bones and just want to live for themselves, resulting in them having such a life goal: after saving a certain amount of savings, they will no longer be a slave to money, but find a city with relatively low consumption and a better environment, and start a flat life. For these people, their life is a relatively simple life model, whether in the process of accumulating wealth or after finally achieving their goals. And because these people's life patterns are relatively small, so that they do not get the agreement of more people, but it is also a way of life.
At least 60% of people in life are in this state of life: 1) parents belong to the hanging without pension, perhaps in the process of growing up, parents will give them financial support, but they also need to bear the living expenses of their parents when they are old; 2) Originally grew up in a small city, but finally chose to work hard in a big city, resulting in them buying a house in the city where they work, which has become the most difficult thing; 3) It's not that they don't want to find a job or start a small business in the city where they grew up, but because there aren't many employers to accept them, or because not everyone is suitable for business, so we see too many people have to leave their homes to make a living. It's just that there is no empathy in this world at all, so that when everyone's situation is different, there is no way to empathize with people who are in a different situation from themselves.
I know a young man whose hometown is in a county town, and his parents worked hard in the provincial capital, because he is the only child in the family, so his parents took out their savings from years of hard work to help him buy a house in the provincial capital. However, he did not study well during school, and really did not have the strength to do business, resulting in him now can only work for others, the key is that most of the jobs he applied for are in the service industry, there is not much rest time throughout the year, the key is that the monthly income is also relatively average. Can you say that he is too lazy to eat? Can it be said that his parents did not give much to him? It can only be said that in the case of average academic performance and average family conditions, you need to accept your life of hardship and hard work, and when you are particularly tired, occasionally sigh, in addition, you can only accept the reality of your life.
Often-heard words of encouragement: study well and you can live a good life; If you work hard, you can live a good life. I want to ask those who have been in society for many years: Is this really the case? In fact, for most ordinary people, in order to accumulate more wealth for themselves, they need to grasp the benefits of the limelight, however, not everyone will have this ability. It's like: in previous years, people who hoarded two or more houses in big cities now have a relatively good life. The key is that in the time when house prices are soaring, there are still people who can't get the down payment to buy a house, and can only watch the opportunity to make money slip away from them; Or, with your fixed monthly income, you want to achieve a small bourgeois life, do you feel realistic?
In the online world, we often see some people who make money easier, or people with tens of millions of assets, it needs to be admitted that some people's showing off their wealth is indeed because they are describing the objective fact that they have money, but many people are just showing off their wealth through strangers' envy in the virtual world, to satisfy their poor vanity, and they are just very poor in real life. In fact, when the news of showing off wealth appears, the real feelings of those viewers are often like this, feeling incompetent and feeling that they have been critted. I found that no, some positive energy on the surface can not stimulate people's effect, but will make some people have such feelings, they have worked very hard in life, still live a relatively poor life, simply lie flat.
Editor's note:
In this life, when their family is average, their academic performance during school is average, and they do not have much courage at work, they need to learn to adjust their mentality: while accepting their ordinary, they also know how to be content and grateful for life. Unfortunately, many people are already in a state of more than the top and the bottom, and they are still not satisfied with the current state, the key is that they cannot find a better breakthrough point, in this case, they will feel particularly tired.
In fact, in life, 40% of people are in a state where themselves, their lovers, and both parents have stable jobs (including 20% of families that control 80% of wealth), but the people who really feel that life is happier can not reach 40%, the reason for this phenomenon: in life do not know how to be satisfied, grateful, always set higher goals for themselves. In fact, people live a lifetime, be able to do what they can, and be worthy of giving and conscience, and make themselves less anxious, is the best state.
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