Every day, women's bodies are exposed to more and more social judgments. Social media is full of unrealistic photos that can really make some people feel uncomfortable with their own skin. For women with postpartum bodies, this topic is probably the most sensitive. To support others, the proud mother decided to stop hiding behind filters or clothes, but embrace the flaws that really set us apart.
Most mothers are not prepared for the challenges after childbirth.
Danisha, a mum of 4, recently started sharing her experience of accepting her body on social media. At first, she was really ashamed and always wanted to hide her postpartum belly, but with her last child, she wanted to change it.
"I didn't know I would have such loose skin and stretch marks as I do now. No one ever discussed it, and neither did my doctor," the mother explained. "I didn't know my body didn't look the same anymore. But I want to hug my body and I'm happy where I'm at. ”
Danisha believes that a woman's body works wonders.
Seeing countless celebrities and models posing with pregnant tummy gives us the wrong impression. They can make us believe that perfection can exist and that there may be problems with our own bodies, and even reduce our confidence so much that we forget to love ourselves.
In one of her Instagram posts, she pointed out to other moms that they were loved, saying, "Don't let society deceive you into believing that you need to be 'fixed.'" There is nothing wrong with your body, it is society that is at fault! ”
Society expects a different image of a woman's body after giving birth.
Women are expected to quickly return to their pre-pregnancy bodies. For many mothers, it feels like they are strangers in their own skin. Fighting your body will eventually lose the battle, but knowing how to accept it and start loving yourself from all angles is a different type of pure love that only a mother can do when she is 100% ready.
The brutal honesty behind Danisha's post made her even more proud of who she was. "Our bodies are destined to evolve and change, that's what happens growing up, and not everyone's body changes the same, and that's okay," she admits. "My wonderful body carries 4 beautiful blessings, my tummy reminds me and also symbolizes growth. It took me a long time to accept her, love her, and appreciate her. ”
Despite the ubiquity of negative comments, knowing how to stay positive is one of the most difficult jobs people face when it comes to showing their most vulnerable side online.
"I have a pouch and I have soft and elastic loose skin. What makes me beautiful is not my physical characteristics, but the fact that my body is capable of creating life itself for the fourth time. As a mother, I am strong. ”
Danisha didn't let the negative comments stop her. Showing the original reality behind mom's body is also a huge help for other moms. "A lot of moms aren't ready for the postpartum period."
As we age, it's a privilege to watch our bodies change.
Sometimes, despite all our efforts and efforts to keep our bodies healthy, genetics can step in and create a different person in the mirror. "I love people telling me that if my skin hydrates more, my tummy won't look 'like this,' or if I wear a waist trainer, I won't have pouches, and if I diet or exercise more, then my tummy won't be as 'big.'" ”
The mother of 4 continues: "The reality is that genetics plays a big role. My stomach is like this for 4 reasons. I created 4 lives and no oil or cream can miraculously stop it. My loose skin, stretch marks, and other signs of love all remind me to have a baby. ”
Every mother has her own uniqueness, and no one should be discriminated against because of their appearance.
"Mom in the mirror says: To make room for beautiful blessings, it's perfectly normal not to wear preconception clothes that no longer fit your body. There is nothing to be ashamed of," Danisha declared.
It wasn't easy, but Danisha began to accept her body.
Knowing how to fall in love with stretch marks and accept physical changes can be one of the most difficult steps moms can take. They are the body's natural reaction.
"A lot of people like to have tiger stripes. You can also have them without children. My tummy is home to my 4 kids and they love it," she said.
Beauty comes from the inside and from without.
Regardless of our appearance, regardless of our skin color or weight, all people have their own special features, and our bodies play an amazing role in sustaining life. To encourage those around her, the mother noted, "Whether you choose to cover your belly or not, you're still worth it, still beautiful." ”