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How bad can a 7 year old be?
To tell the truth, before seeing the news of the past two days, the pregnant mother felt that the 7-year-old child was a lonely brave, playing Ultraman cards, naughty and dizzy parents.......
In general, it is a little more noisy, and it cannot set off a big storm.
But until yesterday, I watched the hot search #A girl in Yunnan threw a little boy into a well#, which really refreshed people's cognition.
Probably everyone should have seen the news, it happened in Songming County, Kunming, Yunnan.
At the time of the incident, the 7-year-old girl and the 4-year-old boy were "playing" by the well.
At first, the two children just walked around the well, occasionally lying down to see what was going on.
When I first saw the video, the pregnant mother thought that it was really unsafe for such a young child to play by the well without adult supervision.
Who knows, what happened later was completely beyond our imagination.
The girl didn't know where the strength came from, so she directly picked up the little boy.
This process of hugging lasted for a long, long time.
A car passed by halfway, the girl was still holding the boy, then let go, and the two began to play together again.
While playing, the little boy wanted to leave, but followed the girl back to the well, and at this moment, something happened.
The girl walked behind the boy, squatted down as best she could, and picked up the little boy directly, her target turned out to be the well!
At the moment she spoke, she threw the little boy directly, and this is not over.
The 3-year-old boy's desire to survive was extremely strong, he grabbed the edge of the well with both hands, he cried loudly, and screamed bitterly at his mother and mother...
(Image source: Modu Yan)
But the girl did not have the slightest idea of pulling the little boy up, but began to rip off the little boy's hand that was climbing the edge of the well hard, and abruptly wanted to break the little hand apart.
After breaking off one hand, the little boy still had one hand grasping the edge of the well on the other side, so the girl went over again and broke off the other hand and pressed the boy's head several times.
That's a boy's life-saving hand!!
In this way, the boy fell directly into the well, and the mournful cry resounded in the well.
The girl walked away directly, without any intention of helping or calling for help.
After watching the whole process, it was shocking, angry, uncomfortable, and distressing!!!!
Fortunately, later some villagers heard the boy's cry, and everyone worked together to rescue the little boy.
After the video was released, it quickly caused heated discussions, major official media were reporting, and the police also gave a notice:
The depth of the water in the well turned out to be 2 meters...
The two are not brothers and sisters, there is no contradiction .....
The parents of both parties have reached a settlement...
The little girl is imitating the TV series!
Because the parents of both sides reached a settlement, the matter was over, but netizens talked about it:
At present, the parents of both sides have reconciled, and the pregnant mother does not want to evaluate too much, but is just glad that the little boy is fine.
As many netizens said: I sincerely hope that parents can educate the little girl well, give her the right guidance, and let her know the preciousness of life!
Don't stop thinking that children are small and ignorant, and connivance with evil will only breed more evil!
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Kidnapped an 8-year-old boy and beaten for two hours and bleeding
17-year-old abuser mother: He's just a kid!
Whenever something like this happens, you can always hear this voice:
The child is still young and does not understand!
He's just a kid, how big a storm he can make!
What are the facts? The fact is that some children are children, and some children are raised as demons.
Remember the case of an 8-year-old boy in Hunan pushing a 3-year-old baby down a building in June last year?
Before he fell from the building, the 3-year-old boy was chased and beaten by an 8-year-old boy.
Hit with your hands, kick with your feet, step on, and even pick up and fall.
Then the 3-year-old was forcibly carried into the elevator by the 8-year-old, and a fall occurred shortly thereafter.
The 3-year-old entered the ICU, woke up once, and told his mother that his "brother" had pushed him down.
What is the most frightening thing in this incident?
When the older child beat the young child, the security guard came over to inquire, and the older child said that the younger child was his younger brother.
After the crash, the 8-year-old boy also gave false testimony, saying that the child fell from the second floor by himself.
Afterwards, a stool was specially moved and placed at the window on the 2nd floor to prove that young children have the ability to climb up the window through the stool and fall.
The boy kept lying, clearing himself, and calm, which was really frightening.
Even more angry was the attitude of the parents of the 8-year-old boy after the whole incident.
One did not apologize and the other did not take responsibility, until the other parent found the school, they took the initiative to talk.
When the other parent questioned why he knew that the child's intelligence assessment was backward and usually had to accompany the child to school, but still let the child go, the other parent just said, "The child is older, there is no need." ”
After that, there was no contact.
The same thing happened in Chengdu.
An 8-year-old boy in a residential area in Chengdu took the elevator home when he was followed by a man who dragged the boy out of the elevator to the underground garage and beat him.
When he was found, the little boy was covered in blood and wounds, but fortunately he was sent to the hospital in time, and the child's life was not in danger.
What is distressing is that the beaten child also enthusiastically pressed the elevator door open button for the abuser, but he did not expect that his own kindness was put into a demon.
What's more frightening is that the abuser Zhang Mouhao is also a "child", 17 years old this year.
Afterwards, the mother of the abuser said: I hope that the victim's family can give me, the mother of the loser, a chance, and also give my child a chance!
But who gave that poor child a chance not to be beaten?
Parents' love for their children is greater than the sky, can tolerate everything, can favor everything, even if there is a mistake, parents are willing to stand up and suffer for their children.
But "he is still a child" is by no means a master key to avoid mistakes and responsibilities, this reason is the connivance of the child's bottomless line, and there is infinite danger.
Young children, if their parents do not teach him rules, do not regulate good behavior, do not tell him right and wrong, when he grows up, how can he understand overnight?
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What has become of the children who have been pampered in the end?
I don't know if parents have heard the story of "stealing needles when they are young, stealing gold when they are old".
A child, when he was a child, stole a needle from someone else's house, and his mother did not stop it.
When he grew up, he stole corn, but his mother did not stop it;
When he became an adult, he stole other people's gold and silver treasures and was caught by the government.
Before he died, he said to his mother: I didn't stop stealing when I was a child, I hate you very much...
Parents favoring children who make mistakes, it is equivalent to conniving at children to make mistakes, children will think that someone supports themselves, and may go further and further on the "crooked road", then parents will become accomplices of children's future crimes! By then, it will be useless to say anything.
I read a news on the Internet that in a hot pot restaurant, a boy asked a young girl for a mobile phone, and after being rejected, the boy began to spit into the girl's hot pot.
The girl was angry and told the boy's parents, who knew that the parents not only disdained, but also sacrificed the famous quote of the bear parent: He is still a child, what do you think about him, just let him.
Next, the boy splashed the bottom of the hot pot on the opposite girl, the girl's face, thus disfigured.
Four children in Guangdong scratched more than 40 cars, and a total of 1.5 million yuan was claimed, including BMW, Maybach, Lincoln and other luxury cars, and a Maybach alone may have a loss of 120,000.
(Image source: @沸点视频)
It is understood that the four children are relatives, they come from three families, all of whom are in their teens.
Afterwards, parents ignore and ignore it, and this attitude is enough to see how they educate their children, and it is precisely because of parents who do not pay attention that there are children who do not care.
1.5 million, evenly spread to three families, one family 500,000, this is to pay for the "whim" of children and the "lax discipline" of parents.
Professor Li Meijin also once told a case: a nine-year-old boy molested a little girl, and his father helped him "settle" everything, and later the child became a habitual rape and murderer.
Why such consequences? Because children feel from the beginning:
No apologies for doing something wrong!
Don't be responsible for hurting others!
Someone comes and helps me settle these things at all times!
This is the consequence of parents' misguidance, if parents guide correctly at the beginning, tell children that this is wrong, teach children right and wrong, good and evil, and establish a sense of boundaries for children, the result will definitely not be like this.
No child is born a bad child, and no child can become good overnight.
The growth of each child is a gradual process.
When parents input to their children: positive and positive nutrition, the harvest is naturally also sunny and beautiful!
When parents give their children the input: let it go, let it develop, breed, naturally it is lawless and fearless!
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Teach children to have rules:
Timely correction of mistakes, positive encouragement!
Remember the previous Disney incident?
A girl and a friend were touched by a little boy while waiting for a float parade, because it was twice, so she immediately said: What for!
Who knew that the little boy's parents immediately insulted her: I, he's just a child!
(Video source: Boiling Point Video)
The time lasted for more than a minute, and after scolding, he turned back and scolded.
In this incident, the attitude of parents is the worst in this matter!
The pregnant mother remembers that there was a high praise answer at that time, and she was right:
"I would tell my son that he couldn't touch people casually, he couldn't pick a girl's skirt, he couldn't hug someone casually, he could understand.
When he was 3 years old riding the subway, he unintentionally hooked the skirt of the girl standing with his foot, and I educated him on the spot, and apologized in person to obtain the aunt's forgiveness!
Don't think that children are small and insensible, no matter how little boys and girls have to be educated from an early age, which ones should be hidden and not seen, which things are wrong! ”
Yes, children's right and wrong, good and evil are all guided by adults, when children make mistakes, parents must distinguish right from wrong and establish correct values for children!
There is also a parent's way of education, which is also worthy of praise.
The child peed in the elevator, and after the mother learned about it, she first apologized with the child in the owner group, and then, with the child, took the initiative to contract the sanitation of the elevator for a month.
It's really great to let your child know what is right and wrong, and to live with the consequences.
Parents are a mirror of the child, what you show the child, the child will learn, in order to let the child understand the rules, know right and wrong, can be humble, parents must be a good example!
Don't think that the child grows up, can instantly understand things, educate the child, should penetrate into every moment with the child, penetrate into all aspects of life, from a young age to start to guide!
So how should parents teach their children to be polite, understand the rules, and know right and wrong?
1. Start with the basics
Start with a very basic rule and let your child learn from a very young age.
Example of basic rules:
(1) Don't interrupt others.
(2) Don't put your elbows on the table while eating.
(3) Do not open your mouth and chew when eating.
(4) Try to say "please" and "thank you." ”
2. As your child grows up, gradually add rules
As long as you feel that your child is ready for the next rules of etiquette, you can teach him something new.
List of etiquette rules added to the basics:
(1) How to behave when eating at other people's homes.
(2) Answer the phone politely.
(3) Never gossip about anyone behind your back.
(4) Have a helpful heart.
(5) Be kind to everyone.
3. Impolite behavior is prohibited
In the child's daily life, there will be other things that affect the formation of the child's parenting habits. So at this time, you should give the child the right judgment.
Examples of impoliteness:
(1) Spitting
(2) Coughing or sneezing into someone's face
(3) Throwing things in anger
(4) Give others bad nicknames
(5) Improper touching of others
(6) Grabbing something from someone else
(7) Constantly interrupting other people's conversations
4. Parents should be good role models
American psychologist Watson once had such a "kyoyan":
Give me a dozen healthy babies and I can train them to be any kind of character – doctor, lawyer, artist, big businessman, even a beggar or robber.
Every parent needs to know what kind of education their children receive from an early age, and what kind of person they will become when they grow up.
They are like a blank piece of paper, the etiquette learned when they were children, the right and wrong they know, will affect his life, and also determine what kind of people they will eventually become!
Therefore, parents must be good examples, teach their children by example, teach their children the rules, and let their children know good and evil!
In this world, there is no absolute human nature intrinsically good, nor human nature intrinsically evil, there are just right and wrong ways of education!
Reference article
https://www.thespruce.com/teaching-your-children-basic-manners-1216584
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