I know how to play when I get home from school, and I am still writing homework when I go to sleep.
When you see a snack, you have to buy it, and after eating the snack, you don't eat.
It is useless to get up in the morning and set an alarm, and it drags for half an hour to get up.
Are you also worried about such a problem?
Today, I have crumpled this problem, taken it apart, and told you how to solve such suffering.
The reason why children have the above behaviors, the key to the problem is that children lack the ability to self-discipline, commonly known as "self-discipline".
To know how to develop self-discipline in children, we must first know how self-discipline arises.
For self-discipline to arise, there must be a motivation. This motivation is simply put, one is to survive, and the other is to live.
In the Qing Dynasty there was a "high-quality" emperor - Yongzheng, this emperor, enough self-discipline.
Zi Yu: Not in his position, not seeking his government.
And in his reign, the emperor became one, and the whole country was his own. There are still so many people around who are eyeing the idea of the dragon chair. If this is not self-disciplined, the rivers and mountains will not be handed over.
It's about survival. This motivation is strong enough.
Therefore, Yongzheng himself said, "Today, the ministers inside and outside the inspection have returned more than 10,000 pieces of Zhu's approval. ”
Today, for people in our society, self-discipline also requires motivation.
Of course, I don't want to get up at 6 o'clock, and I don't want the blessing of 996.
However, I want to survive in society, and on top of that, I also want a high quality of life.
So, I also need self-discipline.
In addition, there are those uncles and aunts in the park who can do all kinds of kung fu, why are they so self-disciplined?
Isn't it also for a better life?
Exercise yourself for the benefit of future generations. If you are healthy and healthy, you will not cause trouble for your children.
This is the motivation for them to insist on getting up early every day and exercising.
The emergence of self-discipline must require a strong motivation to support.
Going back to the child's question, the reason why the child behaves involuntarily is because he has not found a motive.
For children, survival or life, it is not a big problem. Don't worry about three meals a day, knowing that there will be food when the time comes. Don't worry about having no place to stay at night.
Talk to your classmates about which Ultraman is the most powerful, and imagine whether to study missiles or go to space in the future.
You tell him that he needs to be disciplined and self-improving.
The child is not stupid, I am already very good, I have a lot of fun playing for a day, why not find myself happy? I don't lie down under the good bedding, I don't eat the crispy snacks, I go to the bowl of white rice.
Therefore, it is necessary to create motivation for children so that children can achieve self-discipline.
Next, knock on the blackboard, look at the key points, and take the small book to remember.
The first step is to split the target
It is unrealistic to let the child reach a very high level at once. Therefore, we have to take the goals apart and implement them, and divide the big goals into several small goals.
For example, children are not active in homework after school. Then, we can take the week as a small plan, make a schedule, and draw a tick to complete the tasks of the day. Perfect!
If the child thinks, he will go home every day to write homework, and he will not see the day of liberation at a glance. Negative emotions inevitably arise.
So, let's try to narrow the target. Short-term goals are easier to implement and easier to strengthen children's self-discipline.
The second step is to give the control to the child
Remember, where there is oppression, there is resistance.
In the process of raising children, we often get used to taking care of everything for our children.
And soon, reality will sober us up. The moment when a child can firmly say "no," it means it's time for us to delegate.
Children go to play first after school, don't worry. You can first communicate with your child when they can write homework.
Instead of stipulating, you have to write your homework now.
When the child wants to eat snacks, we can discuss with the child that how much to eat will not affect the normal meal, or when to eat will not affect the normal meal.
The principle is negotiable, and the bottom line is unquestionable.
When the child is in a respected relationship and can master some decisions on his own, it is the process of continuous growth of the child's self-discipline.
The third step is to pause, but be sure to stick to it
If a string is kept tight, it can easily break.
Similarly, in the process of developing self-discipline in children, it is not a big deal to indulge occasionally.
If the child does not complete the task in time, avoid being harsh. Do not rush to deny your child's negative behavior.
Occasionally pause your plans and save more strength to move forward towards your goal.
Some people say that it takes 21 days to form a habit.
Therefore, if you keep persisting, the ability of self-discipline will become higher and higher.
The improvement of children's abilities is not achieved overnight, give children time to grow and find the right way. We are all working hard and waiting for the flowers to bloom.
The above is the knowledge shared with you on how to cultivate children's self-discipline.
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