Hello everyone, I'm Marshmallow Mom~
"I've never been more distressed and don't know how to deal with what comes next."
My friend was unexpectedly pregnant with a second child, and I didn't know whether to be happy or sad. The eldest is more than 2 years old, and now the second is here again, who will bring the child when it is born? The eldest is the mother-in-law who helps to bring it, if there is another child, and 2 children at the same time, the elderly may not be able to eat physically, and the friend himself does not want to resign because of the child.
For dual-career families like my friend, there is a question that has always been in front of them: Who will bring the child after it is born?
I gave a little advice to my friend: find a sister-in-law.
Childcare sister-in-law is not equal to confinement sister-in-law
The child-rearing sister-in-law and the concubine are still very similar at first hearing, but there is still a difference between the two.
Confinement sisters-in-law, also known as maternal and infant caregivers, are professional nurses in charge of maternity and newborns. Not only to take care of the newborn, but also to be responsible for the physical and psychological care of the mother.
Childcare sisters-in-law are different, also called nurseries, which are people who are specifically responsible for taking care of children. Mainly responsible for the daily life of children, but also shoulder part of the responsibility of educating children. It is mainly to help new parents better scientific parenting.
Therefore, when the child is full moon, the mother's body has basically recovered, there is no need to continue to invite a confinement sister-in-law, you can hire a child-rearing sister-in-law for the child, and the care of the child is more scientific and targeted.
Why young people are willing to hire a childcare wife
When I gave birth to my daughter, my colleagues knew that my family had hired a childcare sister-in-law, and they said that I was showing off my wealth and was a rich person. Why do young people want to hire a childcare wife? It's not about showing off your wealth, and you may not know the reasons behind it.
Our family is a dual-income worker, my child's father and I are busy with work, and I can't get the children myself, plus there is no elderly help, all rely on the childcare sister-in-law to help! Seriously, I asked for a sister-in-law because of my own needs, not to show off my wealth, and I think this point should be distinguished.
The old people in my family can only simply help with cooking, cleaning, and raising children, which are tiring and hard, and the old people can't do it alone. And I don't want to quit my job to take care of my children, so asking for a sister-in-law is exactly what my family needs. For our old people who can't help and novice parents who are not good at technology, it is not an exaggeration to say that it is a lifesaver.
Put yourself in the child's shoes
I'm a new mom and I don't think I'm able to figure it out, and sometimes my child has a little condition and may be anxious. As a professional, my childcare sister-in-law has more experience than me and can take better care of children.
Look from Mom's point of view
Taking care of children is a very tedious matter, changing diapers, coaxing sleep, drinking milk, adding complementary foods, early education development... Childcare sisters-in-law have expertise in this area and experience in caring for children. Childcare sister-in-law allows you to have no worries, can return to the workplace, and can relieve the financial pressure at home.
From the perspective of the family
With a childcare sister-in-law, parents will be more relaxed in terms of physical strength in raising a baby, and they can also learn scientific experience with their childcare sister-in-law. Asking for a sister-in-law is a short-term thing, and in the long run, the mother's return to the workplace will bring more benefits to the family.
How to find a satisfactory childcare sister-in-law
Before I thought that my childcare sister-in-law could find an acquaintance in my hometown, but after contact, I found that the sense of boundary between acquaintances was not easy to grasp, because there were too many emotional factors, which would make me fall into a passive state. For example, acquaintances who do not do well in some places will be embarrassed to bring them up.
You can find a professional agency, because there are filtering conditions, it will be better to get along.
My childcare sister-in-law likes children, is very comfortable with children, and will guide children. There are boundaries to doing things, it is good to discuss things, and those who cannot be done also know how to refuse, and we will communicate in time about some small problems.
To sum it up from my experience:
1. Don't blindly trust intermediaries, some intermediaries are very irresponsible and only know to say good things.
2. Be sure to try it for a few days, observe more things, and treat children in a way.
3. It's not easy to find the right one, but don't settle for it, especially if there are problems you can't bear, sometimes it depends on fate.
4. Although the nanny is here to earn money, but also be respectful and friendly to her, you are good to others, people can take your children well.
Conclusion: To put it bluntly, asking for a childcare sister-in-law is to spend money to buy labor-saving, spending money to buy time, and childcare sister-in-law is here to reduce the burden on you.
If they complete their job duties, it's worth the money. You can't ask someone to be perfect, and I can't be perfect with my own children.
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