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Swordsman Jun often receives all kinds of questions and help, and about military families, parental leave is really asked a lot.
I remember someone once told Swordsman Jun that if the good news cannot be introduced during breastfeeding and parental leave, there is really no strength to have another child.
Today, let's talk about parental leave!
In recent years, more and more provinces and cities have implemented childcare leave, and the practice in most cities is that couples within the age of 3 can each enjoy 10 days of childcare leave per year.
Since the implementation of parental leave, the military community has been very concerned, and everyone has been looking forward to the landing of military parental leave.
In fact, on the topic of "parental leave", swordsmen have written many times.
But this is a topic that is of great concern to military families, so no amount of talk will be annoying.
Because, military families really need this holiday so much.
Yesterday, I chatted with a sister-in-law and said that her child had recently been infected with influenza A and had a high fever, and she took her child to the hospital in the middle of the night.
She said:
"The doctor asked for a blood test, and after the blood was drawn, I sat there holding the child and waiting for the results. A girl next to her drew blood and needles and cried, and her father held her in his arms and coaxed her softly, saying that when she was sick, he would take her out to play and buy good food.
My child heard it and asked me, Mom, when will Dad come back? I missed Dad. I also want my dad to hug me, and I also want my dad to take me out to play and buy me good food.
When I got to the hospital, everyone was together with their parents, one holding the child, and the other lined up to register and pay. Only after I ran before and after holding the child myself, I already felt aggrieved in my heart, and when I heard the child say this, my tears suddenly came out uncontrollably.
Walking home from the hospital, I cried all the way. When I got married, I knew that it was not easy to be a military wife, but I didn't expect it to be so difficult. I don't care about myself, I just feel wronged and have grown up without a father since I was a child.
A children's hospital at night
You must know that the child's growth is only once, and there are many important moments in his life, and the father is absent. This is the child's regret, but also the father's regret.
I wish they had more holidays so that the children could spend more time with their fathers.
The parental leave mentioned before has now been implemented in many places, and I don't know when the troops will be.
If I don't start again, my child will turn 3 years old and I won't be able to enjoy it. ”
From my sister-in-law's words, I can hear her helplessness and feel her desire for parental leave. Or rather, the desire for the father to accompany his children.
The military is a very special profession, and due to the nature of the profession, it is impossible for him to be by his child's side every day and watch him grow up like an ordinary father.
Even regular companionship is not possible.
You can only spend a short time with your children during the annual vacation.
The reality of many military personnel is that the child on leave last year has just been born, and this year's vacation, the child will already run all over the place.
Many military children have no concept of their father when they are young. Some children even think that the one talking to him in the mobile phone is the father, and the father standing next to him on vacation is not the father.
I still remember a class leader who said that when he went home on vacation, the one-year-old saw him and hid behind his mother, holding his mother's leg and not letting go.
You need to live together for a few days, and only after the child is "bought" by the snacks and toys he buys, will the child be close to him and let himself hold.
But as soon as the child became familiar with himself, he was on vacation and had to return to the team. When the next vacation comes home, the child still does not recognize himself, and he has to please him again, just a few days after being close to himself, he has returned to the team on leave.
This situation is better until the child is three or four years old and knows that the father is the father.
He smiled bitterly and said: Now the treatment of soldiers is indeed good, but after being a soldier for a long time, the child does not recognize his father...
I believe that many people understand the bitterness and regret in these words.
It is enough to see that on the road of military service, the children actually pay a lot.
Children are the hope and future of the family, and if you want to be a military father and participate in the child-rearing process, you need more leave.
At present, military leave time is limited, and if you want military personnel to have more leave for childcare, you need to implement military parental leave.
From a realistic point of view, the implementation of military parental leave has several advantages:
First, it is conducive to promoting the healthy growth of children.
Psychologist Gerdi said: "Fathers are a unique being and have a special power to raise children"
According to psychologists' research, children who spend regular time with their fathers show better adaptive function to the environment and fewer cases of problematic behavior. Play activities carried out by fathers when they are with their children help to promote children's positive and healthy social attitudes and improve their social skills.
The influence of fathers on their children cannot be replaced by mothers.
Because fathers and mothers educate their children very differently, it is easier for children to develop the qualities of independence, strength, courage and self-confidence in the company of the father.
Especially in the child's early childhood, having the company of the father is more conducive to the development of character and mental health.
Second, it is conducive to promoting the harmonious development of the family.
Contemporary military sisters-in-law, on the one hand, work, on the other, family. Not only to struggle in the workplace, but also to take care of all the chores in the family, including housework, childcare, etc., is very stressful.
If military personnel have parental leave, they can have more time to participate in family life and help with childcare, which is equivalent to reducing the burden on military wives, which is conducive to the harmonious and stable development of military families.
Third, it is conducive to promoting the long-term service of servicemen.
The need for family care is the reason why many military personnel choose to retire.
If the military parental leave is implemented, the soldier has more time to go home, can help the lover take care of the family, educate the children, filial to the parents, make the family stable, and they can serve in the army with peace of mind.
Although parental leave is limited to 10 days at most, it is still precious to separated military families.
Before the child is three years old, ten days more leave every year to accompany the child's growth is a good thing for the family and the child himself.
Being able to let children enjoy more fatherly love and making fathers who are soldiers have less regrets has different values and significance for improving the happiness of military families and improving the quality of raising military children.
Again, the child's growth is only once, the military parental leave does not land, and the child grows up in a blink of an eye.