Source l Reverse Liu (ID: yuanyuankaoshi)
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="01" data-track="120" > no one wants me anymore</h1>
The most pitiful of women is around 35 years old.
That's not what I said.
It was Song Dandan who said it.
When I first heard it, I couldn't believe it, because Song Dandan was not an ordinary woman, she was 35 years old and had already achieved a successful career and became a household name.
So I went over the causes and consequences.
She said:
When I was about 35 years old, I had just divorced my ex-husband (Indah) and felt that no one wanted me anymore, not even an old man in the village.
I even thought that if there was a person who would accompany me and my children, even if I gave him all my money.
Humble to this point.
In the case of marriage in name only, she confessed that she had cheated:
I was too lonely, too much in need of love, and then fell in love with someone very quickly.
On the third day, I called Indah and said I was having an affair and that we should divorce her.
The other party agreed.
But the most poignant thing is that they don't go to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce, one is different.
After completing the divorce procedures, Song Dandan sent Yingda home, Anda accidentally dropped the pager on Song Dandan's car, and at this time, Song Dandan saw another woman's ambiguous message: Is the matter done? When are you coming back?
She finally saw with her own eyes enough to make people die, my husband, has long since stopped loving me.
After the divorce, Indah was unashamed and very quick to be with a third party, to start a family and have children, and to be with Mimi.
But Song Dandan, who is divorced and alone with a baby, was beaten to wash his face with tears all day.
At the age of 35, she suffered such a marital accident and collapsed.
Emotionally, I don't have the slightest confidence to feel that I am not chosen and that I am not worthy of being loved.
The whole person withered.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="02" data-track="119" > the company suddenly dissuaded you</h1>
At 35 years old, will you really be unemployed?
I felt for a while that the 35-year-old couldn't find a job was written in the article.
Until I really witnessed it one day.
A friend's monthly salary would have reached 60,000.
However, the company could not pay salaries later because of business reasons.
He asked for his salary through legal means and then left his job.
Then, you really can't find the right job.
One is because they are older, and indeed no young people are competitive, and the other is because the entire industry is shrinking.
Some people say, so if that's the case, put down the body, low, right?
But the pressure of life is already there, no matter how low you can go down? How low is it?
Jiang Fangzhou is still very right in saying this:
The life that can be seen at a glance is very mediocre, but it is particularly secure and extravagant.
Some people are 34 or 35 years old, and the company suddenly dissuades you, and your life suddenly stops.
Mediocre life is originally a good road, and everyone can walk as long as they follow the steps.
But now?
Either you work very, very hard, or you are very, very smart, and we can barely live this mediocre life.
I also saw a 2020 post with the theme of layoff warnings.
The poster said:
Decided to cut the second mother in the group.
It's really cruel, the big primary school goes to middle school, the small one is less than three years old, because the child takes a lot of leave, and he is already 38 years old.
Considering the value for money, you can only cut her.
She begged my men to be merciful, to raise children and to get a mortgage, and I couldn't do anything about it.
If you want to blame yourself, blame yourself for your general ability, and the burden of the family is more and the husband is not angry.
You say, how is life like this?
It's not like building a wall, you put brick by brick, and it becomes very stable, very solid.
It's like a Tetris game.
Overnight, something might be, gone.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="03" data-track="118" > life does not allow you to retreat</h1>
Why is life at 35 years old more difficult?
Because we are far from when we were young, so dare we.
When I was young, I parted my hands, dashed and sprinkled, and went forward.
It doesn't matter if the empty window period is a few years, concentrate on career and money.
35-year-old hands, a lot of things, how to divide the property, who belongs to the child, how to raise the child?
It is hard to get used to the division of labor between two people, partnership, and suddenly return to the life of a person, in case I usually have no job and have been out of society for a long time, what should I do?
When he was young, he left his job, jumped a job, and even stayed at home for three or four months.
All seem to be acceptable.
Anyway, you are still young, just out of society, your parents are behind, dragging you, carrying the bottom, it is not a big deal for your parents to raise you.
Unemployed at the age of 35.
Parents are older, their health is not as good as before, and they need to worry; the children are young, they want to go to school, and they also need money for education; if they have a mortgage and a car loan, the money in the bank card has to be crossed out one by one.
Where can I afford to lose my job?
We are the most competitive when the pressure is highest.
Can this not be difficult?
It is true to say that an inch of time is an inch of gold, and it is difficult to buy an inch of time.
As long as you are young, as long as you can still afford to work hard, as long as you are still healthy, there are things to do.
Just try a little harder, try a little harder, and save more for the future.
Don't choose comfort at the best age.
Do you think it's chicken soup?
Again, the saying: This is the future you sent, distress signal.
Source of this article: public number @ against Liu, author Liu Yuanyuan.
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