#影视杂谈 #
Brother Onodera
When we give for others, we always stand in our own shoes, and when we give, we will be complacent, and look, that's the best thing I've ever done for you. But we never asked each other if he/she was willing to accept the beautiful tenderness I had given him or her, and whether my tenderness had caused psychological harm to him. I didn't think about it.
When I was twenty-four years old, I met a boy who mistook his gentleness for a liking, so I took it upon myself to regard him as a potential boyfriend, and I thought it was only a matter of time before he confessed to me. With this unexplained confidence, I once ran to his suburban campus alone just to see him, and I also took pains to make desserts for him, full of hopes of learning to cook only to make a loving breakfast for him in the morning, and so on. In the end, he only said plainly, I just regard you as a friend, I hope to be a friend in the future.
Friend? Friend, your sister, since you are a friend, why are you so gentle with me, don't you know that your inadvertent behavior will make me misunderstand? Also, if you don't like it, say it earlier, and don't say it until I ask, don't you know that this rejection hurts more? If at the beginning you told me that there was no hope, I was disappointed at best, but you gave me hope, let me chase all the way along this light, I thought I was about to find the light source, but you blocked the light with your body, and told me with your back that this is a light that shines on the world. From then on, I hated gentle boys, especially those who didn't have gentle principles.
Several emotional lines throughout the film are also using the wrong place of gentleness to reflect on the harm they have done to others, but the hateful thing is that they do not realize this hurt, and continue to use good reasons for each other to comfort themselves and seek peace of mind for themselves.
We all understand the truth when persuading others, but if we really put it on ourselves, we may not be able to be so transparent.
To say that the most transparent thing about the whole film is the actor in his thirties who is still acting in a drama that no one watches, and the illustrator who is always rejected, and the teacher who is always ridiculed for saying the wrong thing, they seem to be nonsensical, but they understand the meaning of life better than those who look serious, they know what they want, and they are better at expressing their feelings than ambiguous, ambiguous, confusing and burdensome tenderness.
Muro's looks and acting skills constitute a convincing answer; I don't have my own answer.
This is the bridge that I keep convincing myself: last second, I know that I am inferior and self-pitying.
The next second, probe the breath, secretly cheer yourself up: there are thousands of happy appearances, how can I not be interpreted?
Only eating can relieve my depression.
So when you despise the extra flesh of middle-aged people, can you count the pressure stuffed in each fat?
Your eyes are slightly past the hairline, and the hair follicles are smoothed out by overtime.
We always think we are a burden to each other.
He did not dare to ask for happiness, for fear that the other party would think that he had exchanged his misfortune for it.
Yes, that's what I think, and that's what the other person thinks.
But I didn't dare to ask. This is probably an implicit representation of East Asian culture.
Leave what I think is the best for you, can you understand my intentions? This is the silent and deep love of our ancestors.
Because of yourself
I'm the one who bothers you.
This should be the concept of many people: because of me, you have given up your own happiness, how can I enjoy my happiness in front of you without psychological burden.
So, we all know the answer, that is, not to be open and honest.
Finally, the director borrowed the words of the illustrator to tell the male protagonist, but also told us, what is the real tenderness?
But we still don't understand, we will only realize it after losing it.
Next time, maybe remember, maybe repeat the same mistakes.
Open your mind is not necessarily true bravery, the real bravery is that after being rejected after opening your mind, you can still be afraid of rejection and open your heart in later life. Although the two were rejected on the same day, there are traces of coincidence deliberately done by film and television, but the camera only records faintly, as if it is us, although sad, but not depressed.