Hello everyone, I am a family education instructor Guo Ma~
Ever heard of "confinement sister-in-law", but have you ever heard of "child-rearing sister-in-law"?
These two are really different.
01 Baoma's maternity leave ends and wants to hire a "childcare sister-in-law", causing a family war
Yaoyao is Guo's mother's college sister, and recently had trouble with the family because of the "childcare sister-in-law" matter.
Yaoyao has a 5-month-old baby, and her husband is distressed that she is weak after giving birth, so he hired a sister-in-law for a month and has been taking care of her here for 3 months, and then the schedule of the sister-in-law is really not available, so only Yaoyao and her mother-in-law can bring it.
In the process of bringing the baby, Yaoyao found that her mother-in-law still loved to hold a mobile phone, and at 6 p.m., she quickly finished dinner and went to square dancing on time.
Therefore, most of the time, it is Yaoyao herself who is taking the child.
The baby is almost 5 months old, Yaoyao's maternity leave is over, and she needs to go to work. Just 1 week before going to work, a "new guest" came to the house - the childcare sister-in-law.
For her son to ask Yaoyao for a concubine, the mother-in-law was already quite dissatisfied and felt that it was spending money indiscriminately. Now there is another "childcare sister-in-law", this is still available? So, the mother-in-law cried, made trouble and hanged herself three times at home, and after her father-in-law found out, she also blamed Yaoyao for being unfilial and her son was useless.
Including Yaoyao's own mother, she also said that there is no need to spend this money, and she really does not like her mother-in-law to bring the baby, so she will help bring the baby.
Yaoyao spoke her heart: Mother-in-law can only bring a baby, but cannot give the baby the right early education.
The mother-in-law said: What do you understand for such an older child?
In the end, Yaoyao decided: I pay someone to take care of my child, and you seem to have no right to object.
For this reason, the mother-in-law was so angry that she moved back in with her father-in-law.
02 "Sister-in-law" and "childcare sister-in-law", where is it different?
"Confinement sister-in-law", as everyone knows, takes care of maternal confinement and newborns.
At this time, it is a time when the mother and newborn are very weak, and even the mother-in-law and mother who have given birth experience may not be able to give the mother and newborn a better care.
In addition, taking care of confinement and newborns is very tiring, so it is more understandable to ask for a "confinement sister-in-law". Because the time is relatively short, it is generally 1 month, at most 2 or 3 months, it will be over, and most families can afford it.
So what is a "childcare sister-in-law"?
The so-called "parenting sister-in-law", she is more accusatory, is in the matter of "parenting". Childcare sisters-in-law need to take on the responsibility of caring for and educating the baby.
For example, guide breastfeeding, carry out reasonable artificial feeding, make complementary foods according to the age of the month, be responsible for the nutritional matching of the baby's diet, develop a good habit of falling asleep on your own for the baby, change the baby's clothes and diapers, touch the baby, arrange the baby's room, touch the baby, train the baby to raise the head, sit, climb and other large movements, carry out early education tasks such as visual, tactile and hearing, exercise the baby's language and cognitive ability, and so on.
Under normal circumstances, the confinement sister-in-law is to take care of the confinement, and the service period of the childcare sister-in-law is generally from 0-3 years old, that is, until the baby goes to kindergarten.
So, now understand, what is the difference between a childcare sister-in-law and a confinement sister-in-law?
03 More and more families are asking for "childcare sisters", is it really worth it? The truth behind it is not clear to ordinary people
Because the confinement sister-in-law is very tired, the price of the confinement sister-in-law is relatively expensive. However, the time is relatively short.
Although the price of "childcare sister-in-law" is slightly lower, it may be thousands of yuan a month, but it is a process that needs to be continued, and after 3 years, the expenses are also quite a lot.
In addition to Yaoyao, many of Guo's mother's friends who work in big cities have also hired childcare sisters-in-law.
Is this really worth it?
Yaoyao thinks about it this way:
Regarding the price, she works in a big city, earns more than 20,000 a month, and the salary of her childcare sister-in-law is 8,000, so the ability to pay a childcare sister-in-law is sufficient. And many families will send their children to early education centers, and the price is not low;
Regarding education, Yaoyao needs to work, and she does not understand parenting and early education, and the elderly do not understand it, too many old people take children, children have many bad habits, and always love to play mobile phones to watch TV, so it is better to hand over professional things to professional people to do, so that babies can get the most correct cultivation in the golden period of brain development and habit formation;
Regarding parent-child companionship, those more important parent-child companions, she is not absent, and the childcare sister-in-law will also correct some of her wrong parenting methods, which can also make Yaoyao understand children better and develop children's good character.
So, is it worth it?
Ordinary people see "money", can not see the truth behind their childcare sister-in-law, many parents will feel that the problem of children's education is learning, and children can grasp it after school.
However, Yaoyao sees the baby's future, education problems, need to be grasped from a young age, moreover, education is not just academic knowledge.
So for Yaoyao, it's really worth it.
Because many critical periods of children, once missed, then they can no longer make up for it later. This is also an important reason why more and more families are willing to hire a childcare sister-in-law.
Of course, everything has to be done according to your ability, and for ordinary families, whether this is worth it or not depends on the conditions.
Condition 1: Be able to pay the childcare wages for 3 years;
Condition 2: Family members really do not understand parenting, do not have time to study parenting, or do not have time to accompany the child;
Condition 3: Be able to hire a professional and responsible childcare sister-in-law.
If these 3 conditions are met, it is very worthwhile.
Topic discussion: So, do you think it is worth asking for a "childcare sister-in-law"?