I believe that many parents have experienced: every time their children write homework, they either need to drink water or go to the toilet; Either look at this or touch that; Either the refill is broken, or the eraser can't be found... A few hours passed, and I saw that there were no big words written in the homework book. Every time there is homework assigned to Dabao in class, I am ready to work overnight with him.
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Children do things grinding, homework procrastination, these are common phenomena. However, let it develop, as far as the current stage of learning activities is concerned, the behavior pattern of procrastination and work grinding will inevitably lead to a serious decline in learning efficiency, and grades will continue to decline, resulting in boredom. As far as the future is concerned, it will be difficult for people who procrastinate to find good opportunities for survival and development in this competitive society.
The sooner this behavior habit changes, the better. So how can it be changed?
First: change the assessment indicators to quantitative
Did you always tell your child that you must finish at what time, and if you don't finish, you are not allowed to rest? But now there is a need to change this practice and move away from time as a criterion. For example: you can now stipulate that the child must go to bed at 10 o'clock every night, if he finishes his homework at 8 o'clock, 8 to 10 o'clock is his free time, during the free time period, you can tell him that during this time you can do what you want, you can watch TV and play mobile phone, etc. If you can't finish your homework at 10 o'clock, you won't have free time and can't continue to do it, so just wait for tomorrow to go to school and be criticized by the teacher!
You can say to your child, "Don't you want to watch TV? Don't you want to play with your phone? All right! Every day! As for whether you can play or not, it depends on you. ”
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Second: segmented operation method
The segmented operation method is to divide the total amount of work into several sections, and the easiest way is to segment by discipline. For example, evening homework includes math, Chinese and English. After doing math, take a 10-minute break or play, then do your Chinese homework, take a 10-minute break after doing it, and finally complete your English homework.
It is worth noting that elementary school students generally do not pay attention for more than half an hour in a row, and when they feel that they are not concentrating, let them rest for a while to ensure that they can pay full attention while doing their homework.
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Third: token reward law
When is the token method used? You can ask your child what he wants to do beforehand, such as going to an amusement park or buying a toy he's long-coveted, and you can use token rewards. So how to use it? For example, if it would have taken 3 hours to do homework at night, but today it took only two and a half hours to complete, then reward him with a five-pointed star or a little red flower. When the child gets 10 five-pointed stars or 10 small red flowers, his expectations can be met. This positive expectation is a powerful motivator, both for completing current assignments and for developing concentration.
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Job procrastination and work grinding is a long-term habit formed based on internal physiological and psychological factors, influenced by the environment and parenting style. It is often said that it takes at least 21 days to develop a good habit, which refers to the premise of a blank sheet of paper. And to change a bad habit, it can take several times longer. Therefore, parents must be patient. This cannot be done overnight, it will take a long time. This requires our parents to lead by example, starting from small things and paying attention to every detail of life.