For many couples, the origin of the child will break the mode of getting along with two people, although the origin of the child will make the relationship more stable, but at the same time, it will also make the couple focus all their attention on the child, ignore each other, it is easy to cause some quarrels, today let's talk about how to adjust the mode of getting along after the couple has children.
A woman who has just become a mother sometimes acts in front of her husband as if she is a jack of all trades. Although she will pay lip service to the fact that they should share the burden of caring for the children together, she inadvertently casts herself as an overseer, constantly directing and even commanding this new father.
If he didn't do things exactly her way, she would even condemn him, saying, "Don't hold her like this!" "Your back patting is too short." "The bath water is too cold!" In the face of this bombardment, some husbands are more willing to quit, ceding the role of expert to their wives (after all, their fathers never knew how to care for babies), willing to accept their own incompetence.
The downside of this is that the husband does less and less, becomes less and less skilled in the care of the children, less and less confident, and finally inevitably feels excluded from his wife.
The solution is very simple: the wife needs to give in. She needs to know that many factors can cause burps in babies; She should remember that this child is also her husband's child and it is good for the child to take care of it in a different way. There were times when the water was not warm enough to bathe the baby, which was a small price to pay to allow the father to continue to dedicate himself to the family, a baby and a marriage.
The birth of a child is also a major change for both parents personally. This means that you need to set aside a large piece of your personal life to play the role of father and mother. This means that you need to take on more responsibilities, your personal world will be squeezed further, and you need to take on more pressure.
This change is very huge, because playing the role of a parent, although you will get a lot of happiness, but also bring a lot of sacrifice, you will need to change the personal life routine, social communication style, work development plan, and even life blueprint. Therefore, both husband and wife need to readjust their life structure and refocus their lives here. Some couples, when faced with this process, will want to have their significant other help them with this kind of adjustment. Maybe they will try to increase their dependence on their other half to make up for the lack of parts of their lives, or they will try to increase their sense of control over their lives by having more control over their other half, without actually actually planning their lives. Either will only have a bad impact on your marriage, not help you adjust yourself.