In 1913, Xu Yijing frowned and said to his daughter, "Zhuqing, if you are not filial, there are three, and no descendant is great, your physical condition has become a fact, but Yan Xishan can't do without the queen, otherwise the Yan family will hate you for the rest of their lives." ”
After listening to his father's words, Xu Zhuqing was so sad that he didn't want to speak.
Seeing that his daughter did not respond, Xu Yijing continued to persuade, "If you want Yan Xishan to continue to love you and respect you, then you must first be generous, the more generous a woman behaves at this time, the more he will love you..."
Hearing his father say this, Xu Zhuqing's head that had been shrugging was raised for the first time, and his eyes were full of affirmation.
But Xu Zhuqing was really unwilling!
Xu Zhuqing was righteous and awe-inspiring, taking a concubine for her husband
In 1897, Yan Xishan, who was only 14 years old, married Xu Zhuqing at the behest of his parents. At that time, Yan Xishan was still in huge debt due to financial speculation, and the situation could be described as unusually embarrassing. But Xu Zhuqing not only did not dislike it, but also encouraged him to go to the military academy in Japan, although the two have been married for 17 years, they have always been like a newlyweds, Qin Se and Ming.
Can create people, no matter how hard Xu Zhuqing tries, but there is no way to have a son and a half daughter for the life he loves, although Yan Xishan never mentions it, but as a woman, Xu Zhuqing is very mindful in his heart.
Looking at Yan Xishan, who graduated from the military academy, was young and prosperous, Xu Zhuqing was worried that she would be disliked, and when she saw her husband smiling at other children, she was even more heartbroken.
Yan Xishan also keenly discovered Xu Zhuqing's unhappiness, he was worried that his wife would think too much, and since then he has tried his best to control every time he sees the child, but he was still seen by Xu Zhuqing, and he also smiled and praised his wife for "knowing everything". But what Yan Xishan didn't understand was what a great shame it was for a woman not to be able to give birth! In the face of her husband's love, she blamed herself even more.
In fact, Xu Zhuqing did not consider marrying her husband another wife, but her husband never agreed, and lied that "I don't like children", and he did not take the initiative to mention anything about children on weekdays! For concubinage, Yan Xishan never mentioned half a word!
You know, in the era of warlords at that time, except for Yan Xishan, there was no official who did not have three wives and four concubines!
Xu Zhuqing thanked Yan Xishan for his loyalty from the bottom of his heart, but Xu Zhuqing always thought that "without children, how can I tie him up for a lifetime?" Who doesn't love children? ”
It wasn't until his father's persuasion that Xu Zhuqing's determination to take a concubine for her husband was strengthened! She quietly found Adjutant Guo, who was beside Yan Xishan, hoping that he could find someone who "satisfies Yan Xishan".
After inquiring and comparing from many parties, Miss Xu was brought to Yan Xishan. In addition to being handsome, smart and capable, Xu Zhuqing also has a requirement, that is, he hopes that the person who comes has a "non-competitive and competitive" personality.
Seeing the 14-year-old Xu girl, Yan Xishan was first shocked and immediately refused, but in the end he couldn't resist Xu Zhuqing, and he had no choice but to agree.
Yan Xishan set the rules for concubines
Unexpectedly, when the two got married, an incident happened that made Xu Zhuqing's mood instantly turn cloudy and clear.
In 1914, 31-year-old Yan Xishan married Miss Xu as the wife of the second room, and on the day of the wedding, Miss Xu was not much happier, but Yan Xishan announced two things in this good time: "First, from today onwards, change your 'Xu surname' to 'Xu surname', and your name is 'Xu Lansen'; second, your task is only to pass on the family, and your sister and I are true love." ”
In Xu Lansen's eyes, Yan Xishan, known as the "Emperor of the Earth", is a big hero in Shanxi and the object of her great worship, and in the era of "wives and concubines" at that time, Yan Xishan was able to be alone, which made Xu Lansen admire very much, to be able to marry a hero like Yan Xishan, she felt that she was simply fortunate in three lives!
She had also heard that Yan Xishan and his wife were in love, but she didn't expect that the rumors turned out to be true!
Hearing such news on the wedding night, how could he not make Xu Lansen feel sad? When some people are sad, some people are happy, and when Xu Lansen is sad, Xu Zhuqing can't hide the joy in his heart.
However, although her husband directly stated his attitude, Xu Zhuqing looked at this beautiful and moving woman in front of her, and she still couldn't like it, and she didn't even want to say a word to her.
When he meets her on the street, Xu Zhuqing will take a detour or simply turn a blind eye; When there was a need to contact, Xu Zhuqing would call the maid to pass a message or write a note; Even if she eats at a table, Xu Zhuqing will never take the initiative to talk to Xu Lansen, unless Yan Xishan is present, she will make a appearance, "Just let her husband feel generous." ”
Looking at Yan Xishan's firm feelings for herself, Xu Zhuqing's heart was much more determined, but only she knew that whenever her husband went to stay there, she would suffer in fear.
What Xu Zhuqing was worried about soon happened, Xu Lansen's stomach was getting bigger at a speed visible to the naked eye, and every time he saw it, Xu Zhuqing's blood pressure would rise a little.
Finally, one day in 1915, there was a cry of a baby in the room, "Shuai, it's a handle", hearing the midwife say this, Yan Xishan couldn't help but announce: "Good, good, from today onwards, invite the neighbors to eat, for three consecutive days, no interruption."
Suddenly, except for Xu Zhuqing, everyone in the family cheered, and even the servants smiled, "The family has never been so lively." ”
But before the baby was born, Yan Xishan gathered everyone together: "In the future, all children born to Xu Lansen will be called 'mother', and the second wife will be called 'aunt'." This decision immediately made the servants explode, leaving only Xu Lansen with a terrified look.
However, she quickly calmed down and said, "Yes, this is as it should be", but when she turned around, she burst into tears.
Xu Lansen endured all the unwillingness and grievances, and did what she said, not only agreed to the child to call her "aunt", but also respected her in-laws as always, always loved and cared for her husband, and respected her sister-in-law from beginning to end. She cheered herself up: "I will definitely be able to keep my husband's heart."
Seeing that Xu Lansen did not have any outrageous behavior, Xu Zhuqing immediately took off all his defenses, and secretly praised in his heart: "Adjutant Guo has found the right person!" "Since then, the atmosphere at home has suddenly become very happy!
Xu Zhuqing looked at the baby in his arms and cried with joy, "Who doesn't like children? ”
Yan Xishan alienated his wife?
Since then, they can often be seen like a pair of real sisters, shopping together, laughing together, and talking together. Gradually, Xu Lansen's weight in Yan Xishan's heart also became heavier, not only letting her take care of her own food and living, but also often taking her to various banquets of important people, allowing her to show her face and give speeches.
Before 1928, Xu Lansen gave birth to 4 sons and 1 daughter for Yan Xishan, and when Xu Lansen felt that her position had been consolidated, something happened that made her regret extremely much!
In 1930, Yan Xishan returned from defeat in the Great War with Chiang Kai-shek and had planned to flee to Dalian with his entire family, but his parents were old. At this time, Xu Zhuqing proposed that she stay and take care of her, "My parents have always been taken care of by me, and I have experience, and you and Ransen take the children to pay attention to safety all the way." ”
Watching Xu Zhuqing think about himself in every possible way, Yan Xishan once again vowed to be good to his wife for the rest of his life. In this way, Yan Xishan took Xu Lansen and the children to leave together.
Until they met again in 1931, after a year, they met again very cordially, and the children had long forgotten that Xu Lansen had long told them about things.
The day after Yan Xishan and Xu Lansen arrived home, just after breakfast, a child said to Xu Lansen: "Mom, you let it go, I'll clean it up." Xu Zhuqing, who happened to hear this, turned to look at Yan Xishan, who was sitting next to him indifferent, and his face turned purple with anger.
However, without waiting for her husband's comfort, Xu Zhuqing was furious, she felt that this was Xu Lansen mocking herself in this way for not being able to give birth, "She definitely wants to be 'corrected', I want to educate her well and let her remember for a long time." ”
However, even if Xu Zhuqing used the family law on Xu Lansen, he could not wait for her husband's comfort. Xu Zhuqing went back to her mother's house in a fit of anger.
In fact, although Xu Lansen dreams of children generously calling themselves "mother", but she can't, Fuzheng? She hadn't even thought about it.
Yan Xishan looked at his wife and thought to himself: "It's not just a matter of one sentence, why make a fuss?" But when he learned his wife's true thoughts, he quickly went to Xu Zhuqing to explain.
From beginning to end, no one cared about Xu Lansen's feelings, the children she gave birth to with hard work called others 'mother' under their noses all day long, all the joys, angers and sorrows were shared with others, and finally had the opportunity to stay with the children, but it was only a year.
But now, just because of the child's slip of the tongue, she was subjected to the family law, but as a husband she was indifferent, how sad it was!
Xu Lansen's fate
At this time, Xu Lansen was completely disappointed, and she remained depressed and never had the sunny appearance she once had until she died of depression in 1946, when she was only 48 years old.
In fact, Xu Lansen has the ability to decide his own destiny. In 1940, she also served as the director general of the Shanxi Wartime Child Care Committee, and established women's associations in more than 10 counties controlled by the World War II zone, mobilized knowledgeable women to serve the war, and held training courses for women's officers, with a cumulative total of about 250 people.
However, her failure is that she cannot get rid of men!
In fact, there are such women in history who rely on themselves to make a difference in the world. Just like Qin Liangyu at the end of the Ming Dynasty, everyone from a famous family is beautiful, but he is eclectic, and he has learned martial arts and the art of war since he was a child.
Qin Liangyu's father was originally worried that Qin Liangyu, who had a "manly character", would definitely find a partner, but unexpectedly, she was caught in by the brave and resourceful Xuanfu Shi Ma Qiancheng, and the two were Qin Se and Ming, like-minded, and both were keen to lead troops to fight.
Qin Liangyu not only transformed the weapons himself, but also established the white pole soldiers with her husband, which made great contributions to the subsequent war.
But there are not many popular things, and Ma Qiancheng was used by people with intentions to go to prison. But just when Qin Liangyu was rushing for her husband to be able to sink into the snow, her husband unfortunately fell ill and died in prison. The grief-stricken Qin Liangyu was asked by the society at the time to "die for her husband", but she decisively refused.
There are two reasons for this: first, they also have a young son to take care of; In addition, she cannot abandon the white pole soldiers that she and her husband have worked so hard to build.
All the decisions Qin Liangyu made were based on the benefit of herself and society, and there was no time to consider who she needed to rely on, because she had the ability and courage to take responsibility for herself!
Just like many modern mothers, to see if she is happy, in fact, to see who she lives for, for her husband? For children? Or for yourself?
A woman who lives for herself, no matter how busy she is at work, will find time to dress herself up and improve herself, instead of spending all day around firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea.
I have seen such a paragraph: the most beautiful appearance of a woman, not a husband and a godson is not plain face, not honest and obedient or well-behaved and saves money, but you can already live a better life on your own, but still with exquisite makeup do not forget the original intention, this is the most beautiful and cute look of a woman!
May you have the courage to take responsibility for yourself in the future, not be attached to anyone, and live as you really want!
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【Author: Ye Seed Reading】