Lu Xiaoman, who is it?
She is one of the four talented women of the Republic of China, the first lady in Beijing, the wife of the romantic poet Xu Zhimo, and the literati Hu Shi who called "a must-see scenery in Beijing".
Her life was controversial, and many people admired her while constantly slandering and insulting her. But she has never defended herself, and has only lived in her own world all her life.
Lu Xiaoman was born in Shanghai and grew up in Beijing, his father was a late Qing dynasty juren and the main founder of the China Savings Bank, and his mother was a famous lady in Jiangnan. She is the only daughter of the 9 children in the family to survive, and she is the proud son of heaven and the pearl in her palm at birth. She has been proficient in English and French since she was 16 years old, and is also good at piano and oil Chinese painting, and also writes beautiful fly-headed small letters, and is known as the "campus queen" on campus.
At the age of 17, she served as an interpreter and foreign envoy of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs of the Beiyang Government, she is not only magnificent, but also has a high emotional intelligence. During a visit to China by the French general Xia Fei, he saw the Chinese honor guard moving messily, so he mocked: "Your Chinese military training methods are probably different from those of other countries in the world, and your posture is strange." When Lu Xiaoman heard this, he calmly replied: "It's no different, probably because you are a famous hero in the world today, and everyone can't help but be excited to see you, so the movements are a little chaotic." ”。 Lu Xiaoman's high emotional intelligence answer is really amazing, not only raising the French general, but also saving the country's face.
In his three years of diplomatic career, Lu Xiaoman often participated in balls held by the Ministry of Foreign Affairs because he often received foreign guests, which made Lu Xiaoman develop an incomparable love for the dance venue. Regarding Lu Xiaoman's personal charm, someone once commented: "Xiaoman is a dancing master, if there is no her silhouette on this dance floor, almost the pavilion seat is very unhappy." Of course, Chinese and foreign male guests are fascinated by it, even Chinese and foreign female guests are also dazzled when they see her, and they want to talk to each other. As Lu Xiaoman's fame grew, Beijing social circles named her a "unique darling", and even referred to her as "Southern Tang Beilu" along with Tang Ying, a famous lady in Shanghai. Hollywood studios also invited her to make movies in the United States and remitted a huge sum of five thousand dollars to her, but she declined and remitted five thousand dollars back, with a patriotic feeling, thinking that it was dishonorable to become a star abroad as a Chinese.
In the Republic of China era of high-yield talents, there was such an unwritten rumor: all ink scholars with a little artistic atmosphere liked to visit Lu Xiaoman, and senior students in academia liked to consult Lin Huiyin, writers and poets basically went back and forth between these two, and those who could not enter these two doors went to Bingxin. Therefore, it is not difficult to see that Lu Xiaoman, a talented woman, was no less well-known at that time than the current first-line female star. Then there are naturally many suitors around her, but even such a talented woman with all manners and talents has not escaped the shackles of arranged marriages by her parents in the old era.
The order of the parents, the words of the matchmaker. At the age of 19, Lu Xiaoman married Wang Geng, a man he did not love, under the arrangement of his parents, and the wedding of the two caused a sensation in Beijing at that time, and major newspapers and periodicals rushed to report that "a generation of famous flowers fell to Wang Geng". Wang Geng was born in a family of officials and eunuchs whose family was declining, and he was sensible and precocious since childhood, and studied diligently to revitalize the lintel. As a soldier, he is cautious and serious, not only a workaholic, but also a typical straight man of steel, a bit dull and rigid. This is sad to be poetic all day, sad spring and autumn courtesan Lu Xiaoman. Wang Geng himself could not accompany Lu Xiaoman to spend the moon before the moon, count the stars and admire the moon, and specially acquiesced to a person to accompany Lu Xiaoman instead of himself, this person is a woman, but it is a man, he is the romantic talent Xu Zhimo who stays merciful everywhere, and since then Wang Geng has willingly knitted a big green hat for himself.
As soon as Lu Xu and the two came into contact, it could be said that they hated each other, so the two quickly took a big step forward in poetry, and since then, there has been a lot of trouble, and the city is full of news that a generation of famous ladies with husbands cheated on romantic talents who abandoned their wives and abandoned their children. At the age of 22, Lu Xiaoman and Wang Geng ended their first marriage for 3 years, and the following year they risked the world to marry Xu Zhimo, after which Lu Xiaoman began a life of infamy, arrogance and luxury.
The combination of Lu and Xu was strongly opposed by the Xu family, and Xu's father demanded that the contemporary celebrity Liang Qichao must be invited as a witness to save a little face for the Xu family, otherwise he would resolutely disagree to the marriage of the two, and all the expenses of the wedding of the two must be borne by themselves.
At the wedding, Liang Qichao Huo Ran stood up and preached the most alternative testimony ever: "Xu Zhimo, you are an impetuous person, so that you can't learn anything, you can't do learning, and it's a failure to be a person. Lu Xiaoman, you and Xu Zhimo are both from here, I hope that from now on you can abide by the way of women, review your personality and behavior, divorce and remarriage are caused by the fault of your character, I hope you will not make mistakes again and again. Don't take selfishness as the criterion for acting, don't take absurdity and pleasure as the purpose of life pursuit, stop treating marriage as a child's play, think that you can get married if you are happy, divorce if you are unhappy, make your parents shame, make your friends disdainful, and let society see jokes! In short, I hope this is the last time you two will get married in your lives! ”。
I never thought that Liang Qichao's testimony turned into a scolding marriage word, which made Lu Xu's couple red on the spot, extremely embarrassed, and the wedding was attended by celebrities from all walks of life, this unprecedented large-scale social death scene became a ridiculous joke in an instant, and then it was once called the most embarrassing wedding in the history of the Republic of China.
When it comes to love, I want to say how many people who are deeply trapped in it are sober? But we have to admire the courage of Lu Xu and the two to pursue true love, not to mention in the context of the old era of feudal society at that time. No matter what their families oppose and what the world thinks, they at least have the courage to break the shackles and seek true love.
In 1924, Lu Xu and the two met at a ball, one of them was a beautiful generation of famous ladies, the other was a personable romantic talent. The moment they met, Lu Xiaoman instantly lived in Xu Zhimo's heart, and between the back and forth of poetry and song, the two were completely obsessed with each other, and Xu Zhimo also swore to the world: My willingness to risk the world is to seek the settlement of conscience and the independence of personality; Visit my soul mate in the vast sea of people; Yes, I am lucky; No, I die; So much for! As Lu Xiaoman, who also pursues romance and yearns for freedom, in the face of such a fanatical and romantic pursuit, this makes her originally silent and lonely heart instantly set off waves, which is also the look of love in her heart. Although she was still a married woman at that time, she completely fell in the face of Xu Zhimo's affection and obsession.
Xu's father cut off his financial support for Xu Zhimo in order to prevent the two from combining. So after the two got married, the romantic passion from the beginning slowly returned to the life of firewood, rice, oil and salt. may be carried away by love, after marriage, Lu Xiaoman is no longer as he used to be, as if he has completely changed as a person, addicted to the sound of dogs and horses all day, either going to the dance hall to drink and dance, or going to watch a play and play cards, sleeping until one or two o'clock every day before getting up. In addition, Lu Xiaoman has been accustomed to a life of pampering and spending thousands of dollars since he was a child, which made Xu Zhimo start to worry about his livelihood.
It is absolutely not false to say that Xu Zhimo spoiled Lu Xiaoman, and in order to buy her fruits, he did not repeat more than a dozen things for her in the winter. In addition, Lu Xiaoman has been weak and sick since childhood, coupled with the irregular work and rest now, and the illness left by the abortion of the first marriage, which makes her body extremely poor and fights the disease all day long. In order to treat Lu Xiaoman, Xu Zhimo looked for medical treatment everywhere, and then met Weng Ruiwu, Weng Ruiwu's traditional Chinese medicine Tuina treatment can effectively alleviate Lu Xiaoman's pain, in order to alleviate Lu Xiaoman's pain, Weng Ruiwu also proposed opium treatment, but did not think that Lu Xiaoman was addicted to opium since then, which is undoubtedly a huge expense, so Lu Xiaoman and Weng Ruiwu are getting closer and closer.
After Xu Zhimo's death, Lu Xiaoman, who was weak and sick and had no financial resources, lived with Weng Ruiwu until Weng Ruiwu's death. Weng Ruiwu has always had a deep affection for Lu Xiaoman, while he is supporting his family, in order to support Lu Xiaoman, who has huge expenses, he does not hesitate to sell his property, as long as Lu Xiaoman is happy, he is willing to do anything for her and respond to her needs. Lu Xiaoman does not drink milk, only human milk, and Weng Ruiwu specially hired a nanny for her.
But does Lu Xiaoman really love Weng Ruiwu? The answer is no, she just needs someone to take care of her, and Weng Ruiwu, who knows medical skills and takes care of her in every way, is naturally the best candidate.
After Xu Zhimo's death, Lu Xiaoman dressed in plain clothes every day, offered his portrait with flowers, and sorted out his posthumous works as a widow. On the desk was a piece of paper pressed with glass, on which she wrote a poem from Bai Juyi: "The sky is long and the time ends, and this hatred lasts forever", and vowed not to marry again. It is not difficult to see that Lu Xiaoman really loves Xu Zhimo, and the only one who only loves him.
It is particularly gratifying that Xu Zhimo's death finally awakened Lu Xiaoman, who was drunk with gold, and she made a bitter determination in "Crying": "I must be a kind of person you always hope I can be, I am determined to be a person, I am determined to do a serious career." After that, Lu Xiaoman dressed in plain clothes, closed his doors, said goodbye to the rotten life, abandoned all the prosperity and liveliness, no longer sang night and night, and also quit smoking addiction for many years, and then began to study painting with his teacher, which was also what Xu Zhimo expected before his death.
Just a few months later, Lu Xiaoman realized through painting with her amazing talent and hard work, and then she also joined women's calligraphy and painting, and held a solo exhibition, and later several paintings were selected for the national art exhibition, and later she entered the Shanghai Chinese Painting Academy and became a professional painter. Since then, Lu Xiaoman, a talented girl, has returned, and finally lived to become what Yu Dafu called "a Prometheus who shook the Chinese literary and art world in the 20s of the 20th century".
In 1965, Lu Xiaoman died of illness at the age of 62, and a generation of celebrities ended her controversial life alone. Her only last wish before dying was to be buried with her husband Xu Zhimo after death, but this was strongly opposed by the descendants of the Xu family and has not been fulfilled so far. She was childless, which led to her ashes being discarded unclaimed, and it took years for her nephew to erect an empty grave in her memory.
After that, Mei finally could see Mo, who she thought about day and night, and she finally had the opportunity to hand over the apology letter that was more than thirty years late to Mo, and she was finally happy to compare Mo with him with the appearance that Mo expected of her before his death.
I hope that one day her only last wish will be fulfilled, after all, she is Xu Zhimo's wife.