"Does having children cement a marriage?" As soon as this question came out, it caused heated discussions, and some people felt that it was okay, the husband and wife were upgraded from lovers to baby parents and mothers, deepening the bond between each other and making the whole family more solid; Some people think that if marriage can only be consolidated by having children, then it can only be said that the marriage foundation of the husband and wife is not solid, and the children will become victims of this marriage. In this regard, it is recommended that everyone: do not try to solve the problems in the couple's marriage by having children.
To a certain extent, children can indeed deepen the bond between husband and wife, bring change and fun to dull times, so that both husband and wife have a stronger sense of belonging to the family and greater expectations and hopes for the future, so that the home has a more homely taste, but children have never been a factor that promotes family stability, and what really makes the family stable and consolidates the marriage is the emotional connection between husband and wife.
First of all, in the matter of giving birth, it is not so easy, from pregnancy preparation to preparation to regular prenatal check-ups to pregnancy in October, and then to the upbringing after the birth of the child... The whole process is full of all kinds of trivialities and precautions, which requires huge energy and money, plus women have to pay more and more in childbearing, so it is very difficult. And during the wife's pregnancy, there is generally no husband and wife relationship, then the husband's physiological needs have to be suppressed for ten months, plus after the birth of the child, the wife will focus more energy on the child, it is inevitable to ignore the husband, easy to make the husband's emotional needs unable to be satisfied.
These are the issues that need to be considered when having children, if the husband and wife relationship itself is strong, the husband is a responsible and responsible man, then in this process he will be very considerate of his wife, will not be dissatisfied because his needs cannot be met, but will be more distressed about his wife, together to bear the responsibility of parenthood, will be more considerate and care for the wife, so that such a marriage itself is very stable, for both husband and wife, having children is just the icing on the cake, children make their lives happier.
However, if the relationship between husband and wife itself has loopholes, the husband is not attentive to the family, and has boring emotions in the tedious process of having children, then having children will not only not consolidate the marriage, but will accelerate the bad relationship between husband and wife, because having children can neither change the partner, nor fundamentally improve the relationship between husband and wife.
Therefore, if you want to consolidate your marriage, you can't put all your hopes on your children, you should find problems from both husband and wife and then solve them, and rebuild your husband and wife relationship, so that the marriage can be happy.