In 2021, Qiu Ze was nominated for the Taipei Film Festival for the second time with "When Men Are in Love", proving to the world his superb acting skills.
But this alone does not revoke his label of "scumbag" in the public's mind.
From Rainie Yang to Chen Qiaoen to Tang Yan, Qiu Ze's every love affair ended in displeasure, and even after many years, the woman did not want to hear his name.
And Qiu Ze also paid a heavy price for this, not only did his career plummet, but he has not recovered to this day, but also let the good audience be permanently buried.
Today, let's follow Qiu Ze's love history and see how the former "cream boy" stepped into the abyss of destruction step by step.
One
Qiu Ze was born in Taipei in 1981, and when he was 3 years old, his parents divorced, and he was sentenced by the court to his father.
Qiu Ze's father, a taxi driver, spends 16 hours a day running orders outside, making no time to take care of his children.
In desperation, he could only foster Qiu Ze to his grandmother's house.
It was this move that affected Qiu Ze's life.
Grandma didn't like this grandson, and could even be said to be disgusted.
Because he looks too similar to his daughter-in-law, and his relationship with his daughter-in-law is very bad,
Because of this, Grandma is usually very grumpy with Qiu Ze, either foul-mouthed or sticky.
Especially after every time her mother came to visit, the stick that fell on Qiu Ze's body was even more fierce.
This led to the young Qiu Ze being very resistant to his mother, who once mentioned in an interview:
"Other children from divorced families want their mothers to come to see him more often, but I hope that my mother will not come, because when she comes once, I will sleep on my stomach for several days."
The lack of family affection and the lack of love have made Qiu Ze form a strong self-centered personality, never considering others.
Simply put, it is selfishness, loving yourself more than loving others.
But it is precisely because of the lack of family affection and love that Qiu Ze is full of longing for love.
He is looking forward to finding a remedy from the relationship and treating emotional aphasia.
This kind of personality and desire that arises from the same root is like two contradictions,
It not only doomed Qiu Ze's emotional road to ruggedness and misfortune, but also laid the groundwork for the destruction of his future career.
Two
In 2003, Qiu Ze met Rainie Yang in the crew of "Original Summer".
The two have a lot of emotional drama in the play, plus similar native families, and they are also very talkative in private, and they come together as soon as they come and go.
At the beginning of the love affair, the two got along quite happily, but as the days went on, the weaknesses in Qiu Ze's personality were exposed.
He overemphasizes his feelings, and when to be enthusiastic about this relationship and when to be calmer, depending entirely on his mood.
As for Rainie Yang's ideas, they are not important and do not need respect.
At that time, Rainie Yang's fame was much greater than Qiu Ze's, but in the relationship, Qiu Ze has always controlled the absolute initiative.
He was happy, so he called Rainie Yang to accompany her for a romance;
If he is in a bad mood, don't say meet, even if the other party makes a burst of calls, he will not answer;
Over time, this behavior has formed an extreme cold violence,
Sometimes, this cold violence lasts a long time, and it's not unusual for a week or two.
Rainie Yang is a weak girl in the end, needs the care of her boyfriend, and once she was really worried about Lang, she called.
The phone call, which she mentioned during the recording of "Kangxi Lai," described the waiting time as long as a century had passed.
In the end, Qiu Ze took over, but only said: Can you give me some free space? Just hang up.
This behavior made Rainie Yang extremely passive, and she once suspected that her boyfriend's feelings for her had weakened, although the two would be together for less than five months.
However, out of love for Qiu Ze, Rainie Yang finally chose to endure this grievance.
He also reflected many times on where he was not good enough, and his concern for Qiu Ze was more meticulous.
But even so, it did not change the latter's attitude, but hurt her more.
Many people know that Rainie Yang set foot in the entertainment circle very early because of the reason of paying off her father's debts.
She had just turned 15 and had not yet finished high school.
This has led to Rainie Yang being envious of people with high academic qualifications, and often inferior because of her low level of education.
Many people in the circle hurt her, took care of her emotions, and tacitly did not mention this matter.
The exception is Qiu Ze.
More than once, he took Rainie Yang's academic qualifications and said things with thorns in his words, mocking the other party because he was uneducated and did not even watch the programs he watched.
These behaviors are a typical PUA today.
But Qiu Ze did not know it.
Long-term mental torture and verbal blows have made Rainie Yang exhausted.
Eventually, when the two were in love for eight months, she broke up with Qiu Ze.
Of course, the breakup was also sent via text message, because she couldn't contact Qiu Ze.
After that, it was a long wait, until Rainie Yang suspected that her breakup letter had sunk into the sea, and Qiu Ze's side finally had an echo.
He asked Rainie Yang to meet and said that he would have a good talk.
Rainie Yang, who got this news, was once again more emotional than rational,
She thinks qiu Ze may still care about this relationship and want to keep it.
But after the two met, Qiu Ze broke her illusion with only one sentence.
"I agreed to break up."
The grievances and tortures that have been suffered for a long time all broke out at this moment, and Rainie Yang couldn't help but cry.
Qiu Ze only looked at her coldly, no comfort, and finally blamed a sentence:
"Don't you want candy like a child?"
After this incident, Rainie Yang was completely discouraged by Qiu Ze, and also made her have a shadow of love that lasted for 5 years.
It was not until he met actor Yuan Junhao in 2008 that he gradually came out of the haze.
As for Qiu Ze, he has never been a man who will be trapped by love, and the love affair with Rainie Yang only makes him think that it is a failure lesson, teaching him to be extra cautious about love.
Therefore, in the next 6 years, Qiu Ze has been looking for objects with extremely high standards, but he has never been able to do so, and his feelings have been in an empty window period for a long time.
It was not until 2009, when he and Chen Qiaoen met because of filming, that the desire for love was rekindled.
Three
The two became friends through the idol drama "Blessing and Well-being", and later collaborated in "Good Times Like Dreams" and established a relationship.
Compared with Rainie Yang, Chen Qiaoen is generous and rational, and at the same time, has a very calm judgment on feelings.
The most important thing is that she has a strong independence, never clings to people, and does not need men to give her a sense of security.
On the contrary, she will also be very considerate of Qiu Ze's emotions.
The man is late for the date, and Chen Qiaoen is never angry, but Qiu Ze is in trouble, and she will do her best to help.
These qualities make Qiu Ze very satisfied, and they are also in line with his consistent concept of love:
Appear in time when you need it, and don't show your face when you don't need it.
Based on this understanding, Qiu Ze took the initiative in this relationship, often interacting with Chen Qiaoen inside and outside the play.
The relationship between the two progressed very quickly, and also provided a lot of material for the media.
In 2009, some media filmed Chen Qiaoen privately visiting Qiu Ze, who was suspected that his feelings were heating up.
The heat of this news has not yet dissipated, and there is more explosive material appearing:
Chen Qiao'en stayed at Qiu Ze's house overnight and did not return all night.
At that time, the Taiwan media was famous for loving nonsense and had no bottom line, and had also hyped up the scandal of Chen Qiaoen before, but in the end it was confirmed that it was all fake, and the audience had long been immune.
Curiously, this time, Chen Qiaoen did not directly deny the relationship, but responded very subtly.
She first said that she had broken up with her former foreign boyfriend, and then said that it was normal for unmarried men and women to be unmarried and make friends.
Dazu took this opportunity to warm up the love affair announcement.
However, Qiu Ze did not think so,
Chen Qiaoen's vague words turned into a resolute denial to him, defining the relationship between the two as friends, and ending here.
This sentence caused Chen Qiao'en's dissatisfaction,
She questioned Qiu Ze, but the other party only said, "If you understand my position, you will not announce it to the public."
Chen Qiaoen asked him, then have you understood me? Qiu Ze was silent for a long time, and finally ended the conversation with a sentence that you can understand yourself.
This incident became the beginning of the gap between the two people's feelings, and also made Qiu Ze question Chen Qiaoen.
Perhaps, she is not a good couple who really understands herself, and she can't give the love she wants.
However, questioning is questioning, at that time, Qiu Ze could not cut off the love with Chen Qiaoen,
He has just completed his military service, his career is at a low ebb, and he needs the help of Chen Qiaoen, who has already made a name for himself on both sides of the strait.
Therefore, Qiu Ze did not mention the breakup, but became indifferent to the feelings,
During that time, the media did not take pictures of the two getting along, not because they were not magical enough, but because the two did not have much interaction, and most of the time they relied on telephone contact.
For Qiu Ze's change of attitude, Chen Qiaoen also had a premonition of something, but still helped Qiu Ze get a lot of resources, including the mainland drama contract.
Perhaps she still had some expectations at that time, thinking that Qiu Ze's career had a look, and she had the courage to announce the love affair between the two.
But Qiu Ze was never such a person, he did not show any expression of Chen Qiaoen's efforts, and was as silent as ever.
A healthy love needs two people to maintain together, and if one party never contributes, it will only make the feelings unbalanced and eventually collapse.
The result of the two can be imagined, they broke up unhappily, and Chen Qiaoen's attitude toward Qiu Ze also dropped to a freezing point, and it can even be said that he was disgusted.
After the breakup, a reporter asked her about her feelings for Qiu Ze, and Chen Qiaoen blackened on the spot, saying that he had not been in contact for a long time and did not associate the two together.
Both relationships ended in failure, and neither of them could be talked about getting together and dispersing, so Qiu Ze's wind evaluation in Taiwan was very bad.
When the media writes about him, they always habitually add a scumbag prefix.
However, Qiu Ze did not mind,
At this time, he had shifted his focus to the mainland and met Tang Yan in 2011 when he was filming "Three Thousand Golds of the Xia Family".
Four
At first, Tang Yan did not call Qiu Ze, but the chemistry between the two in the play was quite strong.
"Xia Family Three Thousand Gold" won the ratings championship that year, and Tang Yan and Qiu Ze's CP sense was indispensable.
The investor valued the cooperation between the two and intended to match, and then invited the two to cooperate in two plays, "Impeccable Master Like a Forest" and "Love Awakens".
These two dramas, both big hits in 2011, not only triggered a ratings frenzy, but also made the audience's call for Tang Qiu's love more and more loud.
Coupled with the help of the media, the hypocrisy within this play has finally extended to become the true intention outside the play.
Tang Yan is a love brain, once she has a heart for someone, she is dead set on being good to each other.
But Qiu Ze is not.
He chose Tang Yan only because the other party was gentle and obedient.
A purely self-centered person rarely reflects on himself, coupled with the failure of the first two loves, did not cause substantial damage to Qiu Ze's career, so he lacked growth and did not realize his personality problems.
Therefore, in the love affair with Tang Yan, Qiu Ze still continued the attitude when he fell in love with Rainie Yang and Chen Qiaoen.
Cold violence, moodiness, and extreme egocentrism:
I only ask for love, and I don't think about reciprocal giving.
But Tang Yan is not Rainie Yang, nor is she Chen Qiaoen, she has her own means.
And this time, Qiu Ze finally paid a nearly devastating price for his character defects.
It is said that when Tang Yan and Qiu Ze fell in love, they would personally handle the housework for each other, and they would not abandon any dirty work.
Tang Yan is a Shanghainese, Shanghai women have a very high status in the family, these housework she never touched at home, so this matter surprised the media at the time, the report rendered Tang Yan as "humble".
But Qiu Ze did not appreciate this.
Tang Yan's concern for his private life fell into his eyes, and it became an excessive invasion.
There is no warmth, only distress and anger.
To this end, Qiu Ze reprimanded Tang Yan more than once, asking her to pay attention to the scale, come again when needed, and hide without need.
During that time, Tang Yan had a very hard time, she thought about letting go, but out of love and luck, she failed to hurt her heart.
He also lowered the standard of love for this reason, as long as Qiu Ze admitted the feelings of the two, and the others did not force it.
However, Qiu Ze could not even fulfill this wish,
He felt that Tang Yan had made the mistake of Chen Qiaoen at the beginning, which was a kind of trampling on his self-awareness.
In 2012, Tang Yan celebrated Qiu Ze's birthday on Weibo, and Yang Mi, who was intimate with her at the time, took the opportunity to shake off the news, intending to tell the public the fact that the two were in love.
As a result, Qiu Ze denied it, saying that he was only a good friend with Tang Yan and had no deeper relationship.
Tang Yan has always respected Qiu Ze's ideas, even if she wants to open her relationship, before Qiu Ze agrees, she is silent and cooperates with the performance.
Qiu Ze felt that this was the duty of his girlfriend, and he did not praise it well, and if he did not do well, he would be scolded.
Once, Tang Yan went to Taiwan to visit Qiu Ze, and the other party did not care about her long-distance fatigue, and only took out the exact same words that criticized Rainie Yang: Do I have no personal space?
Tang Yan, who has no freedom in Taiwan, is locked up at home by Qiu Ze, occasionally goes out to ventilate, and will also be reprimanded by the latter:
"What are you wearing?" Have you been photographed? "You're so tall, it's obvious what you wear."
Soon, Tang Yan could not bear the pressure to fly back to Shanghai, Qiu Ze did not even send a greeting message, and the two began a months-long Cold War.
During the Cold War between the two, the media suddenly broke the ironclad evidence of their love.
Dramatically, this ironclad evidence came from Qiu Ze, who was the most reluctant to expose his relationship: his car was photographed with Tang Yan.
In this regard, Qiu Ze initially insisted that it was accidental, but later Tang Yan went to the happy base camp, and the host telegraphed him to inquire about this matter, and Qiu Ze changed a very strange statement: "Pray for blessings."
All in all, it's not to admit the relationship.
Tang Yan laughed awkwardly in the show, and her patience with Qiu Ze in life was close to its limit.
And the next thing that happened became the fuse for Tang Yan's complete death to this relationship.
In 2012, when Qiu Ze was filming "Miss Screw Wants to Get Married", he had a scandal with Li Yufen of the same crew.
The media took photos of the two meeting in the car, and it was later proved that it was only Li Yufen who hitchhiked home, when her legitimate boyfriend was Luo Zhixiang, and both of them came forward to clarify the matter.
Only the other party, Qiu Ze, did not have a clear statement.
He has always been accustomed to thinking only from his own point of view, and feels that the purifier is self-purifying, and it does not matter how the outside world rumors are.
As for Tang Yan's feelings, Qiu Ze had never thought about it from the beginning, or rather, he was confident that Tang Yan would understand him.
But Tang Yan did not understand, during that period her emotions were very sensitive, and she could not sleep for several days with a little wind and grass.
Under the impulse, people inevitably do something other than reason,
At the beginning, Tang Yan was filming "Gone with the Wind", and in the play, the male second Luo Jin chased after her very fiercely, and Tang Yan almost did not hesitate to throw herself into the arms of the other party.
She did not break up with Qiu Zeti, which can probably be understood as a punishment, but cheating is wrong after all, Tang Yan calmed down and broke up with Luo Jin, but in the end it was still difficult to resist the other party's meticulous tenderness, and she was not willing to give up this relationship.
Since then, the two have carried Qiu Ze on their backs and begun a secret underground relationship.
Of course, there is no impermeable wall in the world, and many people have exposed the relationship between the two, including the staff around Luo Jin and some senior media practitioners.
These convincing words once caused a lot of public opinion storms, causing Tang Yan to almost fall into a negative crisis.
At the critical moment, it was her public relations team that not only solved Tang Yan's troubles, but also beat Qiu Ze into a disaster.
Five
Tang Yan and Luo Jin came together in August 2012, and Qiu Ze did not learn about it until four months later.
He never recovered his feelings and voluntarily withdrew.
However, the matter did not stop there.
In February 2013, just half a year after Tang Yan and Qiu Ze broke up, Tang Yan's assistant officially opened the prelude to the destruction of Qiu Ze's career with a question on Weibo that "I dare not admit my love affair until now".
At first, Tang Yan and Qiu Ze's fans each occupied half of the sky, arguing with each other.
But soon, a news of "Tang Yan was hurt by love, cut her wrist and self-harmed" swept through the major hot searches, and passers-by ate this sympathy card and took sides with Tang Yan and attacked Qiu Ze.
Under the tremendous pressure, Qiu Ze's camp was unable to do so, and coupled with the fact that the main lord never appeared to speak, they were a little chilly, so they gradually weakened their voices.
Tang Yan's team hit the iron while it was hot, and repeatedly issued press releases, consolidating the image of Tang Yan's victims.
He also took the opportunity to stuff a large number of private goods related to Luo Jin to pave the way for pushing the feelings of the two to the front desk.
At this point, public opinion was completely in the hands of Tang Yan's team, and Qiu Ze's wind evaluation fell to the bottom overnight.
Not only was he put on the hat of a scumbag, but even his career was seriously implicated.
No team dared to risk finding a bad artist, which led to Qiu Ze not producing any decent work for 8 years.
During that time, Qiu Ze, who was already low-key, became more silent, and there was almost no one on the Internet.
He did not open a new relationship, but spent a lot of time on honing his acting skills.
But he didn't know whether this effort was meaningful, and he often fell into confusion when thinking about acting skills, turning his head to think about whether he had any opportunities to act in the future.
It was at this time that Qiu Ze learned to reflect,
He later confessed on the show that his personality may not be suitable for love, which is the result of his introspection.
Unfortunately, this introspection was awakened by a terrible price, and it was somewhat late.
From 2018 to 2021, Qiu Ze has been shortlisted for the Taipei Film Festival twice, once won and was nominated once.
But this joy, he could not find anyone to share,
The most discussed in the comment area was how he hurt Tang Yan that year, and the message thanking him for not marrying.
After reading it in one circle, there is indignation at the scumbag everywhere.
The audience will not remember how many awards he has won, but the gossip about him can be remembered for a lifetime.
Perhaps Qiu Ze can still rely on superb acting skills to gain a foothold in the circle in the future, but the loss of audience popularity can never come back.
Feelings are never a child's play, and mutual understanding and respect for each other is the secret to keeping love healthy for a long time.
Of course, some people may have immature performance in the early stage of love for various reasons.
Just like Qiu Ze, because of family reasons, his personality has selfishness and extreme egoism.
These are actually not problems, because love can make people grow, and the reason why Qiu Ze will fall into a bad end is because he refuses to grow up and runs his own character defects throughout every relationship.
And if you want to avoid falling into his mistakes, you need to learn to refine your reflection on yourself in each setback and bravely face up to the tribulations.