How cool is it for a woman to leave the shackles of an unhappy marriage?
Just look at Yang Mi.
At the New Year's Eve party at Mango Terrace, wearing a leopard print coat, a bandeau dress underneath, and black boots, as soon as he appeared, he made the audience "hi".
High appearance, good figure, good state is amazing.
Recently, she attended a brand event, wearing a rose-red tight hip skirt, with a slim and curvy figure, and her status is very online.
Take a dynamic screenshot at will, and the atmosphere of the top actress can also be full.
Her beauty, after the years, is more pure and intellectual.
01. Marriage like a shackle, broken up, just start over.
It seems that after the divorce, Yang Mi is more frank and transparent, and also blooms more light.
As a Beijing girl, Yang Mi has a capable and resolute body, and after entering the entertainment industry, there are many male stars who have scandals with her, such as Hu Ge, Feng Shaofeng, Ma Tianyu and so on.
But she didn't respond, and it wasn't until Liu Kaiwei's appearance that she disclosed her emotional situation for the first time.
From love to marriage, and then to a family of three, their love and marriage are envied by netizens.
But this marriage only lasted four years.
Liu Kaiwei once frankly said on the show that the reason for the divorce is nothing more than living apart and busy with each other.
But in fact, perhaps this is not the main reason.
As early as when the two were not divorced, Liu Kaiwei had connotated Yang Mi, and the implication of the different development direction was that he did not support his wife's career.
But he didn't know how much Yang Mi had paid to be with him.
As a famous 85 little flower in the entertainment industry, the wedding when married is far from as grand as her best friend Yang Ying, and even the wedding ring does not look like a finger circumference.
But she didn't mind, but filmed as usual after pregnancy.
After giving birth, it is good to bring a baby and engage in a career.
On the other side, Liu Kaiwei, while telling the truth and pursuing art, chatted with the actress late at night about the script and made a cheating scandal.
The contrast between the two is obvious, no wonder Yang Mi also replied on the variety show after the divorce, "Many people will feel that they are an artist, but others may think that he is a pi." ”
A wrong marriage is like a shackle that can make people unhappy.
Fortunately, Yang Mi was not locked.
After divorcing Liu Kaiwei, she gradually lived her life, putting aside love and marriage, and she broke through her own queen laurels in her career.
Emotionally, she understood that only by loving herself first can she have the "capital" to love others.
02. Instead of the forbearance of inferiority, it is better to love yourself generously
But this seems to be a truth that everyone understands, but it is difficult for people in it to see clearly, such as Tong Liya.
Compared with Yang Mi, Tong Liya's growth process is undoubtedly depressing.
Because of her parents' work, she was fostered at her grandmother's house since she was a child, which is when she was molded into a flattering personality, inferior, and timid.
Coupled with her parents' repressive education, even if she was the most hard-working child in art school at that time, what was the use of a girl's career for her family.
In such an extreme lack of love, she met a prodigal son - Chen Sicheng.
Before the two got married, Tong Liya's father once said this on the show, "I hope (Yaya) will do more work after arriving at the Chen family and cook for Lao Chen." ”
Chen Sicheng on the stage accepted it calmly, and Tong Liya was silent.
You must know that at that time, Tong Liya was already one of the ranks of small flowers, but she still had low self-esteem, was wrapped up by her family, and was coerced by her lover with love.
However, within a month of marriage, Chen Sicheng cheated, he said, "Everyone will cheat." ”
Tong Liya, who was sitting next to her, faced the camera and could only say bitterly, "It's good to go home!" ”
But she didn't know that blind tolerance and long-term unequal status in marriage would only make the other party more unscrupulous.
From cheating during pregnancy to meeting many beautiful women at night, Chen Sicheng's affair has almost never been broken.
At first, Tong Liya could still stand up for her husband, but gradually, she lost her voice, perhaps enduring or accepting this fact.
In 2017, she updated a dynamic in the circle of friends - start again, Yaya come on.
Instead of wasting yourself in a marriage that wasn't saved, it's better to drop everything and start over.
So, she cut off her long hair and began to concentrate on her career.
From the movie "Living Together in Time and Space", to appearing on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala, and then to devoting herself to public welfare, Tong Liya truly realized the value of "self", and she can also come out of her inferiority and show a real smile.
On May 20, 2021, she officially announced her divorce on this special day.
Having returned to singleness, she is now in super good shape.
In the recently updated surf photos, the 39-year-old is still beautiful.
Divorce is never a low point in life, in a way, it is a new life.
Never put your expectations on others, learn to love yourself before loving others, the failure of marriage is not a shameful thing, if you are not happy, why bend for everything.
03. Never expect the emotions of others and be brave to be yourself
Zhao Liying is like this, and does not pin all her expectations on her partner.
From grassroots counterattack to the queen of the circle, Zhao Liying has paid too much for this.
Since stepping into the entertainment industry, she has been rejected many times because of her appearance, but she has no background, so she can only wait silently.
365 days a year, she only rests for three days, and the rest go to run tricks and practice acting.
In 2011, with the role of Qing'er, she finally showed her face in front of the audience.
After that, she "luckily" starred in many heroine dramas, and finally became a traffic flower with "Flower Thousand Bones".
In October 2018, Zhao Liying was 31 years old, and this year she cooperated with Feng Shaofeng on a movie and a TV series.
At the same time that the two had a scandal, they also quickly ushered in the happy news of marriage.
But at that time, the state of the two did not seem to be very right, and even Feng Shaofeng once questioned each other's feelings in the show.
But soon, Zhao Liying became pregnant, and in March of the following year, gave birth to a son.
Interestingly, even Zhao Liying, who is the top, still can't avoid the choice of family and career.
On the one hand, Feng's mother feels that Zhao Liying's education is low and matched her son, and Feng Shaofeng also wants Zhao Liying to become a full-time wife; On the other hand, Zhao Liying, who is known as the "desperate third lady" and loves filming, does not want to give up her career.
This is where contradictions arise.
Frankly speaking, as a woman in the new era, can you only be trapped by your family? Obviously, Zhao Liying does not compromise on these, and does not want to put her life on her husband and children.
In April 2021, Zhao Liying still chose to let go and divorced Feng Shaofeng.
After the divorce, Zhao Liying was like a life open, with works such as "Who is the Murderer", "Happiness to Ten Thousand Homes", "Wind Blowing Half Summer" and other works, she successfully transformed.
Not only that, she appeared on variety shows, walked the red carpet, appeared on the Spring Festival Gala, and her career was thriving.
The recent fashion blockbuster film, the state is even more amazing, golden backless skirt with big waves, roses, such a royal sister temperament, who can not love.
On the other hand, Feng Shaofeng has almost disappeared since his divorce.
In fact, for Zhao Liying, she does not need marriage, but if she feels suffocated and imprisoned in this marriage, then decisively giving up is the best choice she can make.
04. Independence and self-confidence are the strength of women to fight unhappy marriages
Michelle Yeoh once said after the divorce, "If a woman does not have her own independence, she will always demand people." ”
As we all know, Michelle Yeoh is the first female star in Asia.
Born in a rich lady, she has three-dimensional facial features and a slim figure, and after her debut, she could have been like many actresses, it was enough to shoot some literary dramas, but she had to shoot scenes.
When filming "Owl and Dumbo", the original role, she only needed to be responsible for playing the female teacher's poor and gentle and virtuous, but she still chose action scenes, not only insisting on training with the same group of actors, but also on the set.
She thought, "You boys can do it, and we can do it." ”
There may be a strong element in this, but Michelle Yeoh pursues independence in her bones.
In 1988, Michelle Yeoh and the wealthy Pan Disheng announced their marriage, and at the same time, she also decided to retire.
At that time, because of the traditional ideas instilled by her mother since childhood, she thought that having a husband and another child would be a perfect life.
But in fact, this wealthy marriage is not as beautiful as Michelle Yeoh thought.
Just three years later, Michelle Yeoh chose to divorce.
Because she found that such a life would only make her slowly lose her independence and lose herself, which was not what she wanted.
After the divorce, her career gradually returned, and she never thought that she met a boyfriend who let her rest at home.
This time, Michelle Yeoh did not hesitate or compromise in the slightest, and decisively gave up.
She wondered, why must the woman be accommodating in marriage, why can't he accommodate me?
Until she met her current boyfriend, Jean Todd, Ferrari's president.
The other party is also divorced, so he is more empathetic to Michelle Yeoh's feelings.
So far, their relationship is still sweet, and in this relationship, Michelle Yeoh does not need to please or mind, just need to be herself.
Now she is over sixty years old, but she is still in good shape.
She can film confidently, or she can devote herself to public welfare undertakings, without the constraints of the name of love, she is more transparent.
In her, we can see the surging power of women, such people will bring their own charm and light wherever they go.
In fact, marriage should be another soil for women to grow up.
But in fact, many women in unhappy marriages often lose their original intention in their daily lives, neglect their own independence and growth, and do not feel happiness.
But when they break free from the shackles of an unhappy marriage, they can often burst out huge energy and live as they want.
Why is that?
Because in the ruins of their marriage, they recognized themselves and regained their original intentions, and they found the strength to move forward.
Of course, it is not simple for women to live their most beautiful life.
This requires cultivating one's inner strength—a sober and transparent cognition, a dignified and elegant temperament, and a confident and manageable ability.
For example, Zhang Yuqi, after kicking her ex-husband, with the queen's aura, her career ushered in the second spring, and after abandoning the wrong person, she can also live a wonderful life;
Another example is Ma Yili after the divorce, changing the weak wind of the past, her career is fully rejuvenated, she understands that moving forward with people who do not love her, even if she is wearing armor, she will eventually be injured and bleed;
There is also Liu Mintao, after bidding farewell to the past, the road to acting has also opened up a new situation, and she has seen clearly the loneliness and unworthiness of the past.
Yan Ni even exploded after the divorce, living as the envy of all girls, she also saw through the marriage that was not understood, even if she tried to keep it, it was a chicken feather.
For them, marriage is not a necessity of life, and they will not skimp on meeting the right person, but once consumed, they can also give up decisively.
From these actresses, we see that they do not miss the past, are not afraid of the future, are confident in their own abilities, and also make their careers more and more prosperous, they are the real heroines in the entertainment industry, too sassy!
This is the temperament and strength that women should have.
Perhaps, there are many women who are still struggling in unhappy marriages, but remember that you need to learn to love yourself more than love others.
Even if you choose to end your marriage, it is not the end of life, but the beginning of a new life, and only when you are strong can you have the capital to fight everything.
I hope that this "Girls' Day", all girls can rely on themselves and be happy.
(Movie Rotten Tomatoes Editorial Office: An An)
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