Mom, you can lose your temper!
Recently, some mothers often ask the same question: How can I control my temper?
I asked: Why suppress your temper?
Mom said:
"Parenting books and many education experts say that tantrums can affect children... I've tried very hard to control myself, trying not to let myself lose my temper, but...
The child is very naughty and disobedient, often contradicting me, and the teacher often complains, which makes me angry and can't help but get angry. But......
After losing his temper, he regretted it again... In fact, sometimes because they are in a bad mood, the child becomes an innocent gas bag... Really don't know how to control your temper? ”
Are these also factors that you can't control your emotions?
I myself am very good at controlling my emotions and rarely lose my temper. But. I realized that I could only control my external emotions, and that internal emotions were not well vented. So......
My advice to mom is:
Emotions, everyone has; Having emotions is also human.
Mothers are also ordinary people, can't you lose your temper when you are a mother? Of course not.
And, quite the opposite...
For the good of the child, you need to let the child know your emotions.
When you have emotions:
1. You can walk away temporarily to give yourself time and space to calm your mood; Or you choose not to be taboo in front of your children and directly vent your emotions;
2. After your mood calms down a little, please tell the child the reason for your tantrum, your tantrum does not mean that you do not love him (her), but you cannot accept his (her) behavior;
3. Reach a consensus together, and then encounter similar situations and how to deal with them.
PS: Communication should be simple and clear, do not turn over old accounts, in this way, maybe you can have a "perfect" emotional catharsis!
Special reminder: This advice is not an excuse for those mothers who love to lose their temper, please don't lose your temper! Your child will appreciate you!