Once read a passage:
I once asked a friend, why not be in love?
She thought about it and said, "I'm afraid of the way I look when I'm in love, I can't let go of myself, and I can't spare others." I seem to be sick with something, and once I fall in love with someone, all my suspicions, fears, doubts, stinginess, and jealousy will run out with love and frantically pounce on the person I love. I couldn't convince myself or comfort my lover. It's not that I don't want to be in love, I'm just afraid of that stubborn self. ”
Sometimes it's not that I don't want to love, but I don't dare to love, for fear of scaring others, because my love is something that ordinary people can't afford.
Friends say why do you always avoid falling in love? Why not try and accept it?
As Haruki Murakami said, "Maybe my heart has a hard shell, and the things that can break through the shell are extremely limited, so I can't be deeply in love with people." ”
I think maybe everyone has a wall in their heart, and the people outside the wall want to come in, and the people in the wall don't want to go out, so there is a wall between each other.
Some people figure it out and break through the wall, and some people can't figure it out and shut themselves in the wall.
Recently, I was fascinated by Ai Yiliang's song "I Don't Know What Love Is", and I listened to it many times over and over again, and I always felt that I didn't hear enough.
On a few sleepless nights, listening to this song, I asked myself from time to time, what is love?
I think people who have loved should have experienced, some people have talked about love many times, experienced many times of love, may know it.
As the lyrics say:
Frankly
I don't know what love is
Love or not love you, love you more
And so on
I don't even know what it is
So don't talk to me
Don't overdo it
……
I am unique
You don't understand
What my love is
You have to feel for yourself
So what love is, you really need to feel it yourself.
Qian Zhongshu said: "Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to go in, people in the city want to come out." ”
Now more and more people do not want to enter the city of marriage, but only want to get by in their own city and do whatever they want.
Time always does not speak, but it always gives people answers.
I used to try to accept others, but I couldn't force myself, and I couldn't force others. In the past five years, all my good feelings, all my ambiguities, all my likes have disappeared, and in the end, every time is a no-brainer.
I like the sentence in Haruki Murakami's book "Norwegian Forest" the most: Everyone has their own piece of forest, the lost are lost, and the people who meet will meet again.
I think that whether one person chooses a city to grow old or choose one person to spend the rest of our lives, we will eventually have our own belongings.
Yun Hu doesn't like it, why don't he like it?
Just because you're too far away from me.
Therefore, we can only wait for the autumn wind and wait for the winter snow.
Wait for you, waiting for you.
One day, one person will eventually meet another person and then have each other, you belong to me, I belong to you.
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