"Sigh life, unsatisfactory, ten times eight nine"! Did you crash today? People live in this life, all kinds of troubles are often accompanied, solve one, easily jump once, like a small mountain waiting for us to climb, to challenge, the beauty of each place is also looking forward to us to appreciate and admire! Trifles at work, housework at home, occasional physical ailments, emotional involvement, complexity in relationships... Whenever such annoying things come, we instinctively want to run away, get rid of them, avoid them but increase the trouble, and after a long time, a faint sadness will arise in our hearts.
"Is the teacher here?" I'm so depressed that I want to say a few words to you? Open the voice of WeChat and hear the slightly sad tone of the other party." I'm in, you say"
"My mother was in a car accident to this day, everything is on my shoulders, I can't breathe... When I was seven or eight years old she divorced my father, and I lived with my father, and she cared little about me, and lived her own life of leisure, and she knew that I was sick, but she never came to visit me...". After chatting with me, I learned that after my mother's accident, her sisters called her daughter to ask her to go to the hospital to deal with various things. The young man was kind at heart, and at first he just thought, "Save my mother's life, after all, she gave birth to me", but after more than a month, they wanted to give her everything and then leave it alone. The more the young man talks, the more sad she becomes, evoking too many unpleasant memories of her mother, who once had a desperate love for her, but now she wants to kidnap her morally: "You are her daughter, and if you give birth to you, you have to take care of it." And the inner cry of young people is "After so many years, when I need you, where are you?" How could I be so unlucky". In her words: I want to press the pause button. Who can comfort and comfort me?
People who have been broken up will fall into grief, people who will die suddenly will fall into grief, pets will be lost or sick will also be sad, and the young man is also sad in the face of his unfair treatment. Grief is a normal emotional response caused by separation, loss, and failure that encompasses emotional experiences such as depression, disappointment, discouragement, depression, loneliness, and isolation. According to the degree of sadness, it can be divided into regret, disappointment, sadness, sadness, extreme grief and so on. If we keep rejecting it, it will fly around us like a hateful fly, making us restless, and if we choose to accompany it for a while and dance together, it may be easier to let go of sadness and start over.
Grief is dynamic, and its process is usually divided into five stages: 1, denial 2, anger 3, bargaining 4, depression and depression 5, and acceptance
<h1>When things come suddenly, deny playing</h1>
To deny is to deny the facts of things, to refuse to admit that things have happened to oneself. For example, the score of the examination and research came out, and it almost did not reach the score line. People's reaction: Impossible, this may not be me, I tested very well! Must be mistaken! Wait, check again, enter the student number over and over again, read it over and over again.
<h1>When it has become a fact, the fury rushes to the crown</h1>
Why is this so, how can this kind of thing happen to me, so many people who are studying for graduate school, why me, I am so hard, that is also desperate, unfair No, it must be wrong? Why, my god! All kinds of reasons, all kinds of accusations, all kinds of temper, violent violence
<h1>Anger recedes and bargaining takes place</h1>
There is a kind of confusion here, when he is powerless, his heart may begin to bargain and negotiate, hoping that a miracle will happen and save him. Bargain with God or make a deal with the devil to change the helplessness "Oh my God. Please pull! Let me lower this professional score line a little... Otherwise, if they can't find anyone in their school, they will admit me out of the box."
<h1>When the bargaining power is all gone, depression and depression strike</h1>
Feelings of depression, frustration, and despair are like the last straw falling on oneself, compromising with loss and beginning to give up on oneself. "Forget it! I'm just useless, unlucky eggs", ignore me, let me be alone to add injuries!
<h1>Falling to a point, the desire to survive comes, accepting and accepting the results. </h1>
Get out of grief, get help, learn from it, and get ready. Instead of torturing yourself like this, stand up and see a new way out. All roads lead to Rome, and you can't hang yourself from a tree.
How do you self-regulate sad emotions?
1 First of all, we must accept our own sad emotions, recognize it, and affirm its existence.
2 Allow yourself and give yourself time to digest it, don't rush to get rid of it, but can accompany it out of the dance together.
3 Please come out of your own rationality and assist emotions to analyze sad emotions, what have you lost? How to mourn
4 Find a friend to share, instead of tasting it alone in your heart
5 Train the meditation method of concentrating and relax the body
Sadness is always inevitable, dance with it. You will have a more beautiful harvest, bless yourself, bless others.
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