A mother said that my child's grades are not good, I am very anxious every day, what should I do?
Many parents have similar confusion, their children's grades are not good, but they don't know where to start to improve their children's grades.
The first thing we have to do is to find out the reason, whether the child has lost interest in learning, has no motivation to learn, or has the wrong learning method, or what happened at school?
Because of not looking for reasons, parents' simple anxiety will be passed on to the child, and then blame and complain to the child, the parent-child relationship will deteriorate, and the child's grades will not be improved.
If the child is not interested in learning and the motivation is insufficient, then what parents have to do is to ignite the child's learning motivation
The way to do this is to give children expectations for their future.
It is to let the child know what kind of person he wants to become in the future, what kind of city he wants to live in, and what kind of career he wants to pursue.
If the child has expectations for his future, he will plan, and he will know that his learning is not for parents, not for teachers, and his learning is for what he wants to be.
So parents can understand what their child really likes, and plant a dream in the child's heart, so that he knows that he has a responsibility and mission to come into this world.
Children live in expectations of themselves and in their own plans, not in the requirements of parents and teachers. In this way, the child's efforts will have a direction, and he will demand himself and make himself better.
At the same time, parents must also give their children a loving growth environment, protect their children's self-confidence and self-esteem, and do not hit their children.
That is to say, when children have poor grades, they need the encouragement of their parents to believe that their children will not be worse than others.
Compare children less with other people's children, and do not compare children's shortcomings with the advantages of others, otherwise children will become more and more inferior and give up learning.
What we need to care about is the child's own progress, whether there is hard work, whether there is effort in the learning process, and there is dedication.
Many times we find that children love their parents unconditionally, but sometimes parents love their children conditionally. For example, you have to be obedient, you have to get good grades, you have to give me a long face. It is not easy for a child to live in accusations, complaints and demands, which will affect his free play.
So love is trust, love is respect, love is equal treatment, and when we turn accusations, complaints and demands into recognition, respect and appreciation, most children will be excellent.
If the child is not learning in the right way, he needs to learn from good learning methods
Because in order to make a real scumbag become a top student, in addition to dreams and stimulate children's motivation to learn, they also need correct learning methods and learning skills.
In fact, after school, as long as parents do these three small things, children with poor grades can still counterattack.
The first thing is related to class
When the child is in class, we don't know, we can only know from the teacher's feedback.
But what we can make clear is whether the class is effective, and whether the child listens seriously, whether there are small movements in class, whether he sleeps in a daze, etc. And the key to these problems is the child's concentration problem.
Therefore, if the child's grades are always not going up, parents can ask the teacher if the child has the above problems in class.
If there is, we have to help the child solve it fundamentally, that is, come home from school to train the child's concentration.
Parents can set aside ten minutes a day to take their children to focus training.
The most effective way to train auditory attention is to listen to instructions and do movements.
For example, parents give instructions for children to do movements, touch the right leg with the left hand, touch the right eye with the right hand, touch the forehead with the left hand, touch the nose with the left hand, touch the left shoulder with the right hand, and touch the hair with the left hand. This training is to simulate the child listening to the class.
Visual attention training is commonly used in Schulte square training.
You can make your own and draw 25 squares one centimeter long and one centimeter wide on a square card, and fill in the grid with Arabic numerals 1-25 and a total of 25 numbers.
During training, ask your child to use his fingers in 1-25 sequences to indicate their positions and recite aloud at the same time.
The shorter the time it takes to record the 25 numbers, the higher the attention level.
After a period of time, children need to change the card, or they can buy specially designed books about Schulte's square.
The second thing is related to homework
A child's duty is to learn, and homework must be taken seriously. Consolidate knowledge through assignments and identify deficiencies.
If the child does not pay attention to homework, or if the child always procrastinates for hours on homework, it is difficult to improve grades.
So what parents need to do is to supervise their children's homework to help their children not procrastinate and improve the speed of homework.
For example, before writing homework, let the child prepare for what should be done, go to the toilet in advance, drink water, prepare pencil erasers, etc., and avoid everything that can interrupt the child's homework.
As long as the child sits at the table and starts writing, he cannot leave his seat. Before writing homework, ask your child to review what they have learned that day. Many parents think it's a waste of time, but they're actually saving time.
At the same time, when writing homework, we should limit a reasonable time for the child, treat homework as an exam, and develop a sense of time. When writing, do not turn the book, do not check the answer, first write all the meeting, and then solve it will not.
The third thing is related to the wrong question
It is important to develop the habit of recording mistakes, especially for children from the third grade.
Many parents and children feel that the wrong question book is useless because it is not used well.
The function of the wrong question book is to consolidate the child's unfirm knowledge, let the child write down all the knowledge points that are not firm every day in the wrong question book, and then carry out consolidation training once a week. If it's still not ripe after consolidation, mark it and continue doing it next week. This process is to improve the child.
In short, the child's grades are not good, want to improve, parents should not be anxious, first help the child find the reason, stimulate the child's motivation to learn from the inside, and find a suitable learning method for the child from the outside, so that the child's academic performance will definitely improve, and poor students can also counterattack!