After the death of Mr. Lu Xun in 1936, the literary world continued to mourn, and all major celebrities came to mourn. However, Su Xuelin, a female writer at that time, wrote to Cai Yuanpei and other celebrities, urging them not to mourn Lu Xun and denouncing Lu Xun. You must know that this person was the backbone of the banner for Mr. Lu Xun's article before, and the reason why this person changed the flag so quickly, in addition to the reasons for political positions, has a lot to do with her family.
When Su Xuelin's mother gave birth to her eldest brother, it happened that her grandmother also gave birth to a child, that is, Su Xuelin's uncle. Because Su Xuelin's grandmother was older and had no milk, this vicious mother-in-law did not let Su Xuelin's mother breastfeed her biological son, but first fed her child.
In the end, this little uncle who grew up drinking his sister-in-law's milk was physically strong, but Su Xuelin's eldest brother died at the age of 20 due to malnutrition when he was a child. So, why was Su Xuelin's grandmother-in-law able to dictate to Su Xuelin's mother, and what kind of impact did this have on Su Xuelin?
First, the tragedy that began to continue from Su Xuelin's grandmother
Su Xuelin's mother Du Shi was born in the late Qing Dynasty and has the typical image of a housewife of that era: a husband and a godson, filial piety to her in-laws. At that time, the role of men in the home became particularly important, so the patriarchal culture became more serious at that time.
This can also be seen from the name of Su Xuelin's mother, and Du Shi once used the name "Hideni". This is also what Su Xuelin's grandmother expected from Su Xuelin's mother: she hoped that she could give birth to a boy for her future husband's family and reproduce. After all, this is a hard lesson she has learned firsthand.
At that time, Su Xuelin's maternal grandmother was warned by her in-laws that if she gave birth to a girl, she would be thrown directly into the water and drowned, and she could only give birth to a boy for her family. However, how can this kind of thing be decided by Su Xuelin's grandmother, when Su Xuelin's grandmother was pregnant with Su Xuelin's mother, she was very worried, for fear that giving birth to a girl would be killed by her husband's family.
Therefore, when she was about to give birth, Su Xuelin's maternal grandmother ran away from her husband's house. Later, after Su Xuelin's mother was born, her grandmother lamented that it was not easy for children and hoped that her daughter could avoid going down her own path in the future, so she named Su Xuelin's mother Hideni.
Although Su Xuelin's maternal grandmother finally saved the child, she couldn't lift her head in her husband's family from then on, just because of the existence of this daughter. For this reason, she can only cultivate Su Xuelin's mother to be very virtuous. And Su Xuelin's mother watched her mother being repeatedly targeted by her mother-in-law in her husband's house, so she became more obedient, only hoping to have a place in her husband's family in the future.
However, the feudal ethics of preferring sons over women and the three principles and five permanent is not broken, how can Su Xuelin's mother get rid of her fate. Sure enough, after Su Xuelin's mother got married, her mother's tragedy that year played out on her again. When Su Xuelin's mother was fourteen years old, she was promised to a local Wang, the Su family, but the head of the Su family, that is, Su Xuelin's grandmother, was a rather vicious mother-in-law.
Second, Su Xuelin's grandmother is an evil mother-in-law
Su Xuelin's ancestor is said to be the descendant of Su Dongpo, but by this time, he was already in the middle of the family. The Su family, who has always been mainly engaged in reading the imperial examination, could not make up a few readers at that time, but Su Xuelin's grandfather, with the help of his younger brother, took a donation official and became the county order of Ruian County, and the situation of the Su family began to improve, and Su Xuelin's grandmother suddenly became the wife of the county commander from a down-and-out scholar's wife, so the style of acting also began to be mean, like a feudal leader.
The day after Su Xuelin's mother got married, Su Xuelin's grandmother asked Su Xuelin's mother to move to her room to take care of her on the grounds that her daughter-in-law wanted to be filial to her mother-in-law. Su Xuelin's mother was instilled by her unfortunate mother since she was a child, and now she dares not say a word in the face of her mother-in-law, and can only obey.
Seeing that Su Xuelin's mother was very respectful to herself, Su Xuelin's grandmother began to pinch Su Xuelin's mother everywhere from then on. However, a mother who received a traditional education in women's morality can only follow her own example and swallow her anger. She really didn't understand why she had achieved three virtues and four virtues, but she was still targeted by her mother-in-law everywhere
Later, with the prosperity of the Su family, Su Xuelin's grandfather hired several maids at home, but Su Xuelin's grandmother would rather let the maids idle than let the Du family rest. Serving tea and pouring water, pinching waist and beating legs, it was Su Xuelin's mother who served on the side. In Su Xuelin's grandmother's opinion, the daughter-in-law is not equivalent to a subordinate in the family, and she does not have to give money, she has worked for the Su family all her life, and the daughter-in-law honors herself This is not what it should be.
However, no one could have imagined that the grandmother, who has always flaunted ethics and morality and the order of elders, would one day break the rules she had set with her own hands. Soon after, Su Xuelin's mother became pregnant. It stands to reason that Su Xuelin's mother is pregnant, and at this time, she should be the most noble person in the entire Su family. Unfortunately, Su Xuelin's grandmother, who was only forty at the time, was also pregnant.
At this time, Su Xuelin's grandmother still did not let Su Xuelin's mother go, but because her mother-in-law was an elderly pregnant woman, all the preferential treatment in the family was given to her mother-in-law first. In addition to housework, Su Xuelin's mother also beats her mother-in-law's legs and pinches her back every day.
Su Xuelin's father, Su Xijue, had always been a mute when his wife was bullied before, but at this time, his wife was carrying his flesh and bones in her belly, and he finally had a trace of consciousness of being a husband. Seeing his wife suffering and suffering, he often quietly brought some supplements to Du Shi.
These small movements naturally can't escape Old Lady Su's eyes. Most of the supplements that were to be given to Du Shi ended up in Old Lady Su's stomach.
Third, the little uncle grew up eating his sister-in-law's breast milk, and his biological son died early due to lack of nutrition
More than nine months later, Su Xuelin's grandmother and mother's two children were born one after another, both boys. The Su family, who was happy at the door, hired a nanny to take care of the two children. This invited nurse can not only take care of two newborns at the same time, the entire Su family is very satisfied, except for Su Xuelin's grandmother.
Left Su Xuelin, right Qiong Yao
Seeing Su Xuelin's mother idle after giving birth, Su Xuelin's grandmother's heart that wanted to be a demon was about to move again.
First, she fired the nurse, and then, citing her age, let Su Xuelin's mother take on the burden of caring for two newborns alone. However, at that time, Su Xuelin's mother was only sixteen or seventeen, and taking care of her children had already exhausted her, how could she see it with one more little uncle? But Su Xuelin's grandmother didn't think so.
Under the care of Su Xuelin's mother, the two children have indeed changed significantly. Su Xuelin's eldest brother was white and fat, while Su Xuelin's uncle who was the same age as his eldest brother was yellow-faced and thin. Su Xuelin's grandmother believes that this is caused by Su Xuelin's mother only giving her little brother-in-law and rice soup every day, while Su Xuelin's eldest brother is drinking breast milk.
However, because Su Xuelin's grandmother was older at the time, she offered to let her son drink Su Xuelin's mother's milk. The little uncle grew up drinking his sister-in-law's milk, if it is passed on in the future, everyone has to see the Su family jokes. However, at this time, my grandmother, who had always paid attention to any ethical concepts, did not recognize ethics.
In the end, Su Xuelin's mother could only take care of two children at the same time, but the milk that was originally only enough for one child was divided into two, and the two children couldn't drink enough.
Grandmother Su Xuelin saw that her children were crying, so she asked Du Shi if she did not give her son milk. Su Xuelin's mother could only explain that her milk was not enough. However, Su Xuelin's grandmother made an even more excessive request, giving priority to ensuring that her son drank breast milk, because she was the elder in the family.
Su Xuelin's mother, who has always been obedient and obedient, also had to listen to her mother-in-law's advice at this time. Since then, I had to feed all the milk that was not much to my brother-in-law. And Su Xuelin's mother's own son, Su Xuelin's eldest brother, but because he could only drink some rice soup since he was a child, the nutrition was not enough, and he was weak and sick, this situation still did not improve until adulthood, and finally died in his twenties, Su Xuelin's grandmother abused Su Xuelin's mother, which also indirectly led to the early death of Su Xuelin's eldest brother, and even caused serious psychological damage to Su Xuelin, who was young at that time.
However, good people do not live long, and the stench remains for thousands of years. Su Xuelin's mother was troubled by this, and the confinement did not rest well, and she fell ill. After that, he gave birth to three more children, injured the root, and died of depression in his fifties, while Su Xuelin's grandmother has always been in good health and lived to be in her nineties.
IV. Conclusion
In Su Xuelin's home, although Su Xuelin never said a bad word about Su Xuelin's grandmother, the seemingly harmonious family actually caused psychological damage to the descendants of the Su family is real.
Su Xuelin watched her mother being bullied by her grandmother since she was a child, and her eldest brother also died early because of her grandmother, so that it was difficult for her to be born with longing for marriage later. Some people heal their whole lives with childhood, and some people want to heal childhood with their whole lives.
At the age of 16, Su Xuelin engaged to Zhang Baoling. For this marriage, although Su Xuelin was pressured to compromise with her mother, as a woman in the new era, she was very opposed to arranged marriage. Soon after marriage, she separated from Zhang Baoling and did not see each other until Zhang Baoling's death.
In addition, under the influence of Su Xuelin's mother's experience, Su Xuelin also became opportunistic. When she became an adult, she became a famous female writer. However, she used her literary influence as her political capital, constantly standing for the old Jiang, and even Lu Xun, who she had always admired, became the target of her criticism after she changed her position.
Relying on articles criticizing Mr. Lu Xun, Su Xuelin successfully consolidated his influence in Hong Kong and Taiwan, and it was not until his death in 1999 that Su Xuelin moved back to Anhui and was buried with his mother.