Crying is a child's nature.
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A child who goes from falling to the ground to growing up slowly will have countless cries. For the baby's crying for different reasons, we as parents must have a variety of attitudes. Whether it is a positive response or helplessness, our repeated actions will have a particularly great impact on children.
My child is a sensitive baby with a wealth of thoughts and emotions. Again, probably a lot of times, because my loud voice affects her mood. Light is that she sullenly walks to the side, holding her favorite doll to heal alone. At worst, the tears are like broken beads, sliding down quickly.
I'm just an ordinary mother, and I'm in a bad mood too, and I'm going to hurt my kids when I'm unconscious. But I think to myself, because I grew up in an environment where I was a child, I would try to control my emotions as much as possible. When I'm in a bad mood, I choose to ignore my girlfriend's communication with me. Because, I was afraid I would hurt her when I couldn't control myself. After all, I was in a bad mood and couldn't vent on innocent children at will. But sometimes children will feel that my mother does not pay attention to me because she did not hear it, then I can hear it if I am close to my mother. Therefore, I may also uncontrollably vent my bad emotions on my children. Whenever this happens, I feel deeply remorseful. And tell yourself that you must not do this in the future.
When I cause my child to cry because of my own reasons. I will take the initiative to apologize to the child, I will not feel that because I am a mother, wrong is wrong, nothing. Because, as my child's first teacher, then I have to lead by example. When you make mistakes, you have to dare to take responsibility. I will sincerely apologize to my child and do it again once I can't, until my child forgives me.
I think there are a lot of parents who will be like me. When you are short-tempered and can't control your emotions, you will yell at your child in the face of your child's crying. But at such moments, we must work hard and try harder, control and control. Try not to allow yourself to be in such a situation. Otherwise, it is yourself who regrets and feels uncomfortable.
When my child wants to cry to fulfill what he wants to achieve. Then I will correct it in time and tell her that if she wants to cry, she will cry hard. Because even if she cries for a long time, I can't satisfy her. At the same time, whoever comes to interfere with my discipline of my children because of this, then I will tell them clearly. Children need to have their own rules and can't be blindly spoiled. Because that's not good for kids. If it doesn't work to tell me that, then I'll take the child aside and continue the discipline. Because, if someone is around when you are in charge of the child, the child will feel that he is right. On the contrary, she will feel that the person who cares about her is unreasonable. So, if there is no suitable place to discipline the child, as long as it is not a big problem, then turn a blind eye for the time being. Otherwise, it is oneself and oneself who suffers from anger and suffering.
For example, when my child wants to buy an item because she is optimistic, and I am not satisfied with her. For her purposeful crying, I would take her to a place where there were relatively few people and patiently tell her why I didn't buy it for her or why I couldn't meet her requirements. If the child still can't calm her mood, then I will silently pay attention to her and let her cry enough. Of course, when the child is crying, I will only silently pay attention to her. When she needs it, I will help in time. In this way, the child will also feel that although she does not get the imaginary satisfaction when she cries, then she will not feel that we have abandoned her. After the child's mood calms down, hold the child, and be sure to explain the reason for this to the child in time.
As children grow older, all sorts of thoughts follow. No matter what kind of reason the child is crying. We as parents must first rule out whether the child is crying because of physical discomfort. At this time, we must take our children to the doctor in time. If the child's crying is simply because of grievances, then we should give enough understanding. We must listen attentively to the child's grievances and help the children to resolve their inner grievances. In response to the purposeful crying of children, then we should not blindly indulge. After all, having one will make you want more.
Whenever you want, don't be stingy with hugs for your child. Because, the child's heart is simple. Because they have always put their parents in the most important position in their hearts. Don't let yourself be too serious and let the child mistakenly think that if you make a mistake, you will not get the love of your parents!