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I love this sentence:
"Time is a constant, but it is also a variable."
Time is only 24 hours for everyone.
It can have a multiplier effect in the hands of some, but in the hands of others, it just passes by on its own.
The way you use your time determines the future direction of your life.
As Shakespeare said:
"He who gives up time, time will also give up on him."
Time never favors anyone, and truly intelligent people never spend their time on things that are worthless.
The lower the level, the more people like to spend time on these 3 things.
01. Love to raise the bar with others
There are always some people in life who love to raise the bar, they speak, not to solve problems, nor to analyze right and wrong, but like to be competitive, quick to talk.
Netizen @ big handsome guy, once complained that his wife is a bar elf, always love to raise the bar with himself in everything.
Once, the two planned to buy an air purifier and struggled with what price to choose.
Netizens proposed: "Now that the air quality outside is so bad, let's buy that seven thousand, the effect must be good." ”
When his wife heard this, she immediately retorted to him: "How much do you earn a month, the air purifier will cost seven thousand, by then, the air is good, and our whole family will go to drink the northwest wind." ”
Netizens quickly changed their words and said: "Then buy a cheaper one, I see that the one thousand four is good, and several of my colleagues also use this." ”
My wife still disagreed, she said: "Our 90-square-meter house, but the purifier is 1,000 four, is it to buy it and put it there as a mascot?" ”
Netizens didn't say anything after that, and in the end, the two failed to buy a purifier.
Verbal desire is a low-level communication habit.
People who like to lift bars, like wild weeds growing in rice fields, think they are invincible, but in the eyes of others, they have long been regarded as "unreasonable" by everyone.
The stupidest thing in the world is to show your cleverness by refuting other people's words.
It seems to have won the current high, but in fact it has lost the sincere feelings.
For the rest of your life, please refrain from arguing so that you can better maintain a good relationship.
02. Love to show off
In "Journey to the West", there is such a story.
The Tang monks and his group of four went to the Guanyin Monastery, and the old monks in the courtyard loved to show off and showed them their treasures.
Sun Wukong was not used to the old monk's pride, so he ignored the master's dissuasion and took out the master's robe, saying that he wanted to compete with the old monk.
Unexpectedly, after the old monk saw the robe, he moved his heart and wanted to take it for himself. So, together with all the monks, he burned the Tang monks and apprentices at night.
Although in the end, the four masters and apprentices escaped from the sea of fire, the robe was still stolen by the Black Wind Mountain Monster, and the disadvantages of showing off can be seen.
While you are immersed in the thrill of achievement that comes with showing off, danger is creeping in.
You know, while selling, it is also easy to attract covetousness and jealousy. In a walking society, only those who are low-key can walk steadily and far.
There is a post in Xiaohongshu, the blogger said that his public examination has been publicized, but his parents still do not let themselves tell others to prevent being cut off by people with ulterior motives.
In the comment area, most netizens deeply agreed:
"Things are done in secret, and you make a fortune in a muffled voice."
"Don't tell others, there are villains during the publicity period."
"Looking for a job, applying for the college entrance examination volunteering, the less people know about this important thing, the better."
"The first thing to learn to be a person is to keep a low profile. This runs through the career. ”
Yes, human nature is like this, and it is better to see a stranger become the richest man in the world than to accept someone around him to buy a lottery ticket and win a small prize.
Many times, casually show your achievements or happiness, others may say two blessings, but behind the scenes will quietly trip you up.
Then, instead of leaving the jealous with an opportunity, it is better to keep a low profile yourself first and nip the disaster in the bud.
03. Love to preach to others
There is a question on Zhihu:
"Why don't people like to preach?"
One of the praises replied:
"First, it is condescending and arrogant, and this kind of 'knowing reason' implies 'I am better than you', which makes people unhappy. The second is implied verbal violence - your thoughts are not important, you must listen to me to have a good result. ”
I think so.
Cold preaching can never compare to heart-to-heart understanding and support.
Acquaintance Lao Zhang is a very preachy person.
When his colleague's child was about to go to high school, Lao Zhang told his colleague that he must go to a private school. He also said that private school education is good, so that colleagues should not worry about money.
But he didn't take into account the financial situation of his colleagues' families.
The next door people want to decorate, Lao Zhang advised the neighbors to choose the European style, which looks atmospheric.
But he doesn't understand that the style that many people like now may just be simple.
When her niece wanted to go to work in a private company, Lao Zhang called her to persuade her to take the public examination, and said that the iron rice bowl was guaranteed.
But Lao Zhang has never really communicated with his niece, nor has he ever understood his niece's true thoughts about career planning.
The old classmate's lover died of cancer, and although the old classmate looked sad, Lao Zhang advised him to hurry up and find another companion.
In social interaction, there are always people who do not understand the real situation of the other party, and begin to intervene and point out the lives of others.
While "zealously" giving advice, they are stubborn and self-talking, asking each other to obey.
These so-called warm-heartedness, for others, are a problem.
Everyone has different experiences and different ideas.
When others don't ask you, don't be a good teacher.
Restraining the desire to preach is the cultivation that every adult should possess.
04. Mei Niang said
Time always passes by everyone in the same way, and each of us spends time in different ways.
There is a saying that says:
"Where you spend your time determines who you will become."
Yes, spending time on raising the bar will turn you into a troublemaker and keep everyone around you away.
Spending time on showing off will put you in an atmosphere of comparison and jealousy, which is insufficient and incurs hidden dangers compared to the bottom.
Spending time on preaching will only turn yourself into a person with a high desire for control, and it will not be pleasing to see anything, and it will attract people for a long time.
"If the golden year does not come again, it will be difficult to get the morning again. Be encouraged in time, and the years do not treat people. ”
Time is the fairest thing in the world, and the only thing that cannot be consumed.
Life is expensive, please focus on your own growth and be a person who truly cherishes time!
For the rest of our lives, may we all keep our hearts, use our time well, and collide with the life we want!
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