In 2020, Dalian Lushun, a hospital bed, Liu Hongyu, who is more than a year old and suffering from breast cancer, looked at the door in a daze, and his face was full of tears. Cao Zhaogang, an old partner suffering from kidney cancer, held her hand tightly, her face trembled, tears fell, and she cried out to the door: "Daughter, your mother is dying, why don't you come back?" ”
Their daughter is called Cao Qian, a girl who has been ignoring her parents for 17 years.
In 1979, In Lushunkou District, Dalian, Caojiadi Village, Great Wall Street, Cao Qian was born.
In that era when there were still feudal remnants of thought, the couple raised Cao Qian as a boy, discussed that they would not have children again, and decided to cultivate her to become a talent, no longer living a life of "facing the loess and facing the sky".
Cao Qian's health is not good since childhood, even if her parents do not eat or drink, they must buy supplements for her to nourish her body; in the middle of the night, her father's shoes are too late to wear, so she runs out to find a doctor; she wants to eat meat, and her father loses his hoe and leaves...
After Cao Qian went to elementary school, she has been serving as the class leader, and she is one of the best in every exam.
The father lovingly touched Cao Qian's head and said, "Washing dishes, washing clothes, and cooking, you don't need to touch it, you just need to study with peace of mind." Cao Qian nodded happily.
Cao Qian studied hard and seriously, and when her peers were playing outside, she was reading; the children of her neighbors were asleep, and she was still reading. Parents see it in their eyes and rejoice in their hearts.
The farm work was trivial and tiring, and my parents always came home tired. At this time, Cao Qian will move a small bench to sit down and tell stories to her parents to dispel their tiredness of the day.
Speaking of Cao Qian, her parents are full of pride: "She is very sensible and knows filial piety." ”
Every time Cao Qian raised the award certificate and rushed to her parents, her mother would always give her a big hug and paste the award on the wall for the first time, which was Cao Qian's most proud moment.
With the passage of time, Cao Qian's awards were more and more, and the walls could not be pasted, so her mother carefully folded them and placed them in the drawer. Each award is like a flower, blooming in the hearts of their parents, as if they see a better future.
At the beginning of the small ascension and the beginning of the ascension, Cao Qian was admitted to the best school in the local area.
On the day of the college entrance examination, Cao Qian saw that her score was several tens of points beyond a line, and she was overjoyed.
Cao Qian hopes to go to the southern metropolis and feel the fast-paced life. So when she volunteered, she applied for three southern universities without her parents.
When the teacher confirmed with Cao Zhaogang, he jumped like a thunderbolt.
Cao Qian explained to her father: "I want to leave my hometown and go to the south to meet and see. ”
The father shouted angrily, "You are a girl, why are you running so far?" I think Liaoning Normal University is very good. The mother also echoed the voice.
Cao Qian glanced at her parents and went to school in a negative mood.
In the end, Cao Qian still filled in two southern schools, and finally, reluctantly filled in Liaoning Normal University.
However, fate made a small joke to Cao Qian, and she was just admitted to Liaoning Normal University. When the parents heard the news, they were so happy that they couldn't close their mouths. But Cao Qian is unhappy, although it is her own mistake, she blames all this on her parents.
Since then, she has kept her heart in her heart and rarely communicated with her parents.
In fact, with the income of Cao Zhaogang and his wife, it is very difficult for Cao Qian to go to high school, but for Cao Qian, they grit their teeth and insist.
Fortunately, after going to college, Cao Qian applied for the school's hardship grant, plus a scholarship, and they only had to bear her living expenses.
In college, Cao Qian actively learned foreign languages, often using foreign languages to tell stories to her classmates, and the stories of Lin Huiyin and Xu Zhimo came from her mouth. In the eyes of her classmates, she is a very literary girl.
Without the control of her parents, Cao Qian began to degenerate, often with the female classmates in the school who were well-off, not to go home at night, adding burdens to her parents, not to mention, and also led to 6 subjects hanging, and even graduation became a problem.
Cao Qian clearly realized that if she continued to study, she would never be able to leave her parents, and she thought of going abroad.
One night in my junior year, just after putting down the dishes, Cao Qian solemnly said to her parents: "I have obtained the qualification to study abroad, anyway, I can't finish my career, I want to go abroad." The more she said, the more excited she became: "Going abroad is equivalent to plating yourself with gold, and it is easy to find a job after returning home." ”
Listening to her daughter say this, the second elder was embarrassed.
The father asked, "How much does it cost to go abroad?" ”
"70,000."
The father stretched out his neck in shock, his eyes widened, and said, "So much? Where do we go to grab 70,000 yuan, so many years, we have saved ten thousand. ”
The mother was also stunned, and quickly persuaded and explained: "No, that is too far, you will suffer." ”
Cao Qian was not happy to hear this and did not speak again.
This night, the couple went to bed early, but they couldn't sleep over and over, Cao Zhaogang simply sat at the head of the bed, and Liu Hongyu also sighed and sat up.
Cao Zhaogang said: "A girl who runs so far, how can she reassure her family?" ”
Liu Hongyu said: "I really don't want her to go so far away to suffer. ”
"Last time, because of the volunteering, I had a grudge against us, and this time I didn't send her abroad, I'm afraid I'm going to hate her and hate it."
"Yes, I can't say I can't say that I didn't send her abroad, but with so much money, who to borrow?" Alas..."
"You can only borrow it, who do you want to borrow?" Cao Zhaogang hurt his head.
Liu Hongyu muttered, "Borrow it and pay it back." ”
...... Before you know it, it's dawn.
Next, Cao Zhaogang was busy running around the homes of friends and relatives, repeatedly rejected, several times looked cold, and when he was cornered, he pressured his sister and reluctantly borrowed 60,000 yuan.
Cao Zhaogang wrapped the heavy 70,000 yuan in newspaper, afraid that they would grow wings, and he knew very well that it was his daughter's life.
Cao Qian took the money handed over by her father, without the happiness that her father imagined, without a word of thanks, without even calling him a father, and her head did not turn back.
This distinction is eternal.
Before going abroad, Cao Qian repeated in front of her roommates more than once: "Living abroad is stressful, and her parents are old, so they will have to earn living expenses on their own in the future." ”
In 2000, with 70,000 yuan, Cao Qian successfully flew to Germany. After staying away from the shackles of her parents, Cao Qian felt that the air abroad was fresher than at home, and she had the intention of staying for a long time.
The language barrier, Cao Qian had to learn German hard, this study is two years. Coupled with a year of cultural training, she has asked her parents for 33,000 yuan, although Cao Qian is also doing part-time work, but still let her parents be in debt and miserable.
At first, Cao Qian would call home, but the cross-border phone call of eight yuan a minute hit her toothache, and later had to write letters instead.
Maybe Cao Qian is too busy, she has written two letters in three years, she always briefly introduces the latest situation, never asks her parents how they are doing, and always forgets to say that there is no money at the end, and asks for money. This made Cao Zhaogang Second Elder complain.
Once, due to expensive telephone bills, as soon as the phone was connected, Cao Qian said that she wanted money. Cao Zhaogang was greatly angered and roared angrily at the phone: "I just want money, you are asking for our lives." With that, he snapped and hung up the phone.
Cao Qian seemed to be frozen, and after about 30 seconds of touching it, he snorted coldly and spat out a few words: "I will not look for you when I die!" ”
She swore in her heart that she would support herself. However, she soon found that money was too hard to earn. After barely surviving for ten months, she hesitated and decided to ask her parents for help.
As soon as the phone was connected, Cao Zhaogang's worries, anxieties, and fears for several days were completely stimulated, and he roared again: "I thought you were dead, I didn't want to contact us again!" ”
Cao Qian felt a piercing chill in her heart, and her heart was like an angry lion, she didn't want to say another word.
She silently put down the phone and moved step by step to the shelter. Along the way, she rummaged through her mind, laughing or crying, all of which would be dusty.
Liu Hongyu had not yet had time to talk to her daughter, and she was so angry that she cried and said, "It's hard to wait for the call, you are fierce against her, you are a dead old man." Cao Zhaogang touched his head, and said in a relaxed tone, "I can't help but lose my temper, next time I apologize to her." ”
For a month, two months, three months, Cao Qian did not call, and Cao Zhaogang and his wife did not care too much.
Fast forward to the Spring Festival of 2005.
"This year my daughter should come back for the New Year, right?" Liu Hongyu broke the corn and looked at Cao Zhaogang, who was chopping firewood.
Cao Zhaogang looked at her, looked at the door habitually, and continued to cut firewood with his head down.
On the day of Chinese New Year's Eve, Cao Zhaogang laid out an extra pair of dishes and chopsticks as usual, so that as soon as Cao Qian returned home, she could immediately eat hot meals and talk and laugh with them.
After all, they did not wait, and once again sighed until dawn in the laughter of others.
They're always thinking: She's busy? Is she having a bad time? Something happened to her... Only to think that she didn't want to pay attention to them.
Cao Zhaogang and his wife could not sit still, and they contacted the Consulate General in Hamburg through the Ministry of Foreign Affairs, and the consular staff immediately checked Cao Qian's address and telephone number. However, after arriving at Cao Qian's residence, Cao Qian refused to meet. Under German law, Cao Qian could not be forced to appear, and the matter was shelved.
Waiting, waiting, and another long wait, Cao Zhaogang's husband and wife's heart was pulled long, and little by little was crushed. They craned their necks, looked blind, cried and dried their tears, and never waited for their daughter's call. Liu Hongyu complained about Cao Zhaogang countless times, and he was speechless.
In 2018, the assistant village director of Cao Zhaogang's residence was entrusted by them to write a letter to the Consulate General in Hamburg, asking the Consulate General to help find Cao Qian's whereabouts, and the Consulate General provided two phone numbers, but could not be found.
Shockingly, a Chinese German found information on Cao Qian's return to China at customs, and she arrived in Shanghai on August 5, 2004, looking for a male friend of hers, and flew back to Germany directly 12 days later. This was confirmed by the male friend.
Cao Qian's determination to break with her parents is evident.
In 2020, Cao Zhaogang and his wife both suffered from cancer, and they could only rely on low insurance to survive, 1030 yuan, to buy medicine, to repay money, the rest of the living expenses, it is more than one hundred yuan.
They felt that their time was running out and were eager to know whether their daughter was dead or alive.
Er honestly had no way, they had to turn to the media, which immediately caused an uproar, and people from all walks of life criticized Cao Qian and blamed her for not filial piety.
The media spared no effort, and caring people also established a cross-border search for Cao Qian's v-letter group, for more than 20 days, they worked tirelessly to run around Berlin, Münster, Monihei, Hamburg... They found Cao Qian.
She changed her name and became a tenured professor at the University of Munich, a proper and successful person.
When they informed Cao Zhaogang of this good news, he was surprisingly calm and asked one after another: "What is she doing now?" Have children? Can you give me a call home? Then he said, "Cao Qian is too sharp, she will not take the initiative to call home." ”
At the end, Cao Zhaogang wiped his tears and said, "It is good that she is alive, and our old two do not want her to retire." Liu Hongyu, who was sitting on the side, first swallowed and sobbed, and when he heard this, he covered his mouth and whimpered and cried.
The overwhelming media coverage made Cao Zhaogang feel uneasy, he said: "Give her publicity, give her exposure, her professors may not be able to do it, I am very worried." When the others listened, they were all sad.
17 years have passed, and Cao Qian has neither called nor written a letter, nor has she appeared. Cao Zhaogang and his wife waited for the heart to dry up, waited for the white hair, waited for the wrinkles, waited for the cancer, but did not wait for the little cotton jacket that should be intimate.
That day, after Liu Hongyu shed the last tear, he left regretfully. Cao Zhaogang hugged her and cried loudly, and cried out in sorrow: "Cao Qian, your heart is so fierce--" Everyone present wiped their tears, and all of them had unspeakable grief and indignation.
The wife is gone, and Cao Qian has not returned;
The grass on his wife's grave grew tall, but Cao Qian still did not return.
Cao Zhaogang was completely desperate, and died in the middle of the night in an autumn breeze, his stiff body was full of worries, perhaps many years ago, his daughter told them a story, or maybe it was a wall full of awards, fading her daughter's name.
About a year later, someone found Cao Qian at the University of Munich and learned that she was married and had children. When asked about her parents, Cao Qian coldly replied: "I am busy with work and have no time to go home." ”
"What did your parents do to you?"
Cao Qian said excitedly: "Their perverted desire to control me made me unable to breathe, and I left home to come to Germany just to escape them!" ”
When the news reached China, public opinion was in an uproar, and Cao Qian's uncle was furious and scolded: "She is just an unfilial son!" ”
Maybe the harm of her parents to Cao Qian is real, but this must not be a reason for her to flee her parents, the crow still knows how to feed back, the lamb knows how to kneel, let alone an individual?
Cao Zhaogang and his wife's previous offers and demands for Cao Qian made Cao Qian not understand gratitude, and once she refused, her family affection became precarious.
Although Cao Qian's career is successful, she is a failure as a person, and her behavior is disgraceful.
Amicis said, "If a person makes his or her parents sad, no matter how prominent his or her status is, no matter how famous he or she is, he or she is a despicable person." ”
. END .
【Text| Maple】
Edit | Daniel Lee]
【Typography | Drizzle】
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