Visiting relatives and friends during the New Year,
In fact, what is staged is a history of women's fatigue.
From the days before the meal, when cooked beef, mutton, and meatballs were prepared in advance, chicken and duck stew, to the day of the meal, he began to be busy in the morning: washing vegetables, cutting vegetables, cooking, setting up dishes, setting up the table, and putting away dishes; during the period, he also greeted guests, made tea and handed fruit plates, served dishes while eating, and cleaned up the mess after eating; and he also humbly said to the sumptuous dishes that filled the table, "I don't know if there are enough dishes for you to eat."
And what about men? Smoking, drinking tea, playing cards, drinking and chatting, and most importantly, the seats at the dinner table always take precedence over men, and the women who cook have to wait until the end to eat some scraps. Young couples with children, almost without exception, are mothers or grandmothers who take care of the children first, and then casually eat a full meal. Dad and Grandpa sat peacefully at the table, ignoring the children's cries.
When the guests were almost gone, the hostess's busyness was not over: after cleaning up the table, it was washing the dishes, sweeping the floor, mopping the floor. It took a long time for the women to sit on the sofa and rest, and until this moment, the aprons on their bodies had not been taken off, ready to start the work at any time. Almost every New Year's greeting is the same picture.
My mother used to say that everyone had a rest during the New Year, but she couldn't rest, so no one wanted to entertain this year, no matter who came to greet the New Year, she wouldn't care, either her father would cook by himself or go to the restaurant. I'm very supportive. ”
After reading it, I felt the same way, insisting on making a table of Chinese New Year's Eve rice every year is really too hard, it's like a war, and you must try to ensure that the dishes are hot. Buy vegetables three or four days in advance, start pre-processing two or three days ago, and wash the pots and pans after eating leftovers, if I have to serve the family like this every year, I will really have a grudge.
I really didn't feel these family gatherings since I was a child, to smell a bunch of men's smoke and alcohol, and to force people who are obviously not so familiar to get acquainted with each other, and even unable to choose what kind of people these people are.
Many female netizens also deeply agree:
"My grandparents' house invites my grandmother's siblings to play every second day of the new year... But they don't cook so many people's meals at all, my uncle doesn't care about these things at all, don't talk about my aunt, their family goes to my aunt's house for the New Year, so the second year of junior high school is my parents, from my mother's marriage to the year before last, I am 25 years old, until the year before last, I scolded my father, anyway, I don't go back in the second day of junior high school, you don't force my mother to go back, whoever loves to be an old scalper will go back. It's hard to put a few more days off for the New Year, and I have to cook for others without resting, why should I suffer, there is still a time limit when prisoners step on the sewing machine."
"On my grandmother's birthday in 20 years, there were 19 people eating, my mother and grandma prepared dishes, my aunt stir-fried, everyone chatted after the meal, I brushed two large pots of bowls and chopsticks with my ten-year-old brother, and I was impressed by the day"
"In the early years, my grandmother prepared these, and after the New Year, she had to go to the hospital to hang saline, it was really hard, and then my father said that I could no longer eat like this, and it was enough for a few relatives to have dinner at the restaurant"
