Liu Jialing told everyone such a story:
When director Wong Kar-wai was filming "The Legend of Ah Fei", there was a shot of Liu Jialing wiping the floor.
After Liu Jialing wiped it several times, her clothes were soaked, and Wong Kar-wai said no.
After rubbing it a few more times, Liu Jialing was a little annoyed and asked Wong Kar-wai:
"What do you say is going to be appropriate?"
Wong Kar-wai didn't say anything, just let her retry the shot over and over again, until Liu Jialing wiped the floor 27 times, Wong Kar-wai said it was okay.
After the broadcast of "The Legend of Ah Fei", this shot of wiping the floor has become a permanent classic.
At this time, Liu Jialing also understood Wong Kar-wai's harshness on her "impersonal" when filming the film.
Everyone is in a different environment, has a different position, looks at things from different angles and opinions, and it is useless for you to explain to others at this time.
It is better to ask the other party in their own way and "unkindly" what the other party must do.
This kind of "impersonal feelings" can sometimes be understood, sometimes it cannot be understood, but whether others understand it or not, it has nothing to do with oneself.
As long as you follow your heart in your lifestyle, way of doing things, and your way of working, you will not leave regrets for yourself.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="58" >, "impersonal", is a weapon to reduce trouble</h1>
Li Shutong, a musician, art educator, calligrapher, drama activist and other "famous brands", was an "unkind" person before he became a monk.
Once, Ouyang Yuqian made an appointment to come to his house at eight o'clock the next morning, and as a result, Ouyang Yuqian was five minutes late because of the delay of the tram on the way to Uncle Li's house.
After handing over the business card, after a while, Li Shutong opened the window from the second floor and shouted at Ouyang Yuqian:
"We made an appointment at eight o'clock, it's been five minutes now, I don't have time now, let's make an appointment another day."
After Li Shutong said that he closed the window and went back to the house, Ouyang Yuqian had to turn around and go back.
Li Shutong's "unkindness" rejected Ouyang Yuqian in such an impersonal way, and did not make more other explanations, and Ouyang Yuqian also knew that he did not need to explain the reason for the lateness to the "unkind" Li Shutong, because being late was being late.
"Unkindness" avoids a lot of trouble that needs to be explained by oneself, and also avoids the trouble of listening to other people's explanations, and avoids many troubles that are important in the eyes of ordinary people but are actually insignificant.
A professor at renmin university's school of sociology hung a banner in the most prominent position of the office with a sentence: Talk for no more than five minutes.
His "impersonal" regulations make all his colleagues and students look for him in an emergency, and before looking for him, they will list the key points to talk about or ask, and ensure that they can talk and ask within five minutes, if more than five minutes, sorry, next time.
The five minutes of "unkindness" saved the professor a lot of trouble from being pestered, invited, and questioned, and also exercised the ability of students to summarize when asking questions.
Close to human feelings, will be entangled by human feelings, and if you are not close to human feelings, you can have no "feelings" and light body and mind.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="60" > second, "impersonal", is a principled undertone</h1>
Smyers:
"A man without principles and without will is like a ship without a rudder and compass, and will change its direction at any time as the wind changes."
Doing things principled is one of the admirable qualities of a person.
The reason why the famous Japanese actor Ken Takakura is a great artist that everyone admires is because of his professionalism and principles when filming.
During the filming of "Hum Ha", Takakura Ken's mother died, and he did not go to his mother to send the finale in order not to delay the progress of the crew, and his professionalism reached the point of "inhumane".
Ken Takakura never crossed the scene when filming, and once, the director he admired, Akira Kurosawa, wanted to ask him to play a role in "Chaos", which was a role that Akira Kurosawa had specially customized for Ken Takakura.
However, during that time, Ken Takakura had already agreed to the appearance of Yasuo Izakaya's "Izakaya Akiharu", and he refused four invitations from director Akira Kurosawa.
Although Ken Takakura rejected director Akira Kurosawa, director Akira Kurosawa still admired Ken Takakura's principled nature as a person.
A saying on the Internet is so good:
"Principled people are comfortable living, and unprincipled people are physically comfortable." Principled people are comfortable for a lifetime, and people without principles are just comfortable for a while. ”
Be a principled, face yourself and others, and be ashamed. In contrast, an "impersonal" evaluation becomes insignificant and insignificant to oneself.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="62" > third, "impersonal", is to do their own skill</h1>
Let's take a look at the story of Mr. Qian Zhongshu, a modern writer and literary researcher, who was "unkind" three times:
a: Mr. Qian Zhongshu wants to do what he wants to do at home, does not participate in any activities, does not accept any interviews.
Once, the CCTV "Children of the Orient" column group wanted to interview Mr. Qian Zhongshu, and exhausted all kinds of methods to never see him.
Finally, the column group regretfully announced:
"Mr. Qian does not accept any interviews, and we have to respect his opinion."
B: At that time, Princeton University in the United States also threw an olive branch to Mr. Qian Zhongshu, inviting him to lecture in the past, only giving 40 minutes of lectures a week, and the salary was $160,000. This familiarity in the 1980s will impress countless people.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu still chose to refuse "impersonally".
c: After the publication of "The Siege of the City", a reader eagerly wanted to meet Mr. Qian Zhongshu, saying that she was deeply moved after reading the siege, and Mr. Qian Zhongshu replied to her:
"If you think it's good to eat an egg, why do you have to know the hen that laid the egg?"
Mr. Qian Zhongshu once again chose the "impersonal" rejection method.
Being able to spend a lifetime doing what you want is a luxury in any era, because we have a lot of relationships, socializing, relatives, friends, jobs, leaders, colleagues, etc., which all need to occupy time and energy.
And "not close to human feelings" is the best way to reject those people and things that don't matter, otherwise, you don't belong to yourself, but to yourself in the eyes and hearts of others.
If you want to live in your own world, you have to be "unkind", let yourself be uncontrolled by people, not subject to things, and reject people and things that you don't care about, don't need, and don't have interests.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="52" > written at the end</h1>
Shakespeare:
"People can control their own destiny, and if we are subject to others, it is not fate that is at fault, but in ourselves?"
"Not being close to people" is a weapon to reduce trouble, a principled base, and a skill to do oneself.
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